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Sorry if I skipped the details. My kids are adults. They live with her because it is their home town they grew up in. I left, moved 68 miles away to buy a house. My kids come out to see me sometimes, but sometimes I want to see them, so I go there, pick them up, and we do something together. It sucks that they will not get their own places to live, but housing is too expensive for young adults there. My son is going into the service soon, and my daughter just broke up with her boyfriend and move…
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/24 09:33 PM
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I am getting pulled both ways here. I have members of a divorce group from church asking me "what would Jesus do?" And a sub reddit labeling me a simp and to ignore the EX because she wanted this divorce. Fuck it, I want to see my kids.
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/24 07:51 PM
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I had your same exact marriage. Communication fails, the wives start looking for a way out to be happy. Let her go be happy. Find someone that is happy with you.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/24 02:17 AM
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My EX's dog died. This is the puppy she got when she moved out. She had left our family dogs with me. Took the cats. Anyways, I am sad for her and the loss of the dog, I love all pets and they have no idea what is going on. She has sent me a text saying how sad she is and that she misses her dog. My replies offered condolences and a kind word. There is no reason to be rude, at least for me. You are kind to let her come over, but it isn't going to help you heal. You did good, let her see what her…
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/24 01:55 PM
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8nuears ago, $285 an hour, was warned to walk in the court room, would be $10k. Settled in the cafeteria. Over all might have been $8k or $10k in billable hours and other fees.
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/24 06:52 PM
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I don't know what she did. I didn't want to know. I had my own mental issues to address.
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/24 06:31 AM
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I didn't make a one season before I started doing all the holiday decorations myself. I did down size the Christmas tree and went with a small fake tree on the table. I like it, it breaks up the year here in Cal where the only thing I get for natural seasons are hot weather or cooler weather. I buy at least 1 pumpkin spice coffee in November.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/24 07:18 AM
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Etsy, here I come!
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/24 06:01 AM
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This guy gets it. A simple 1 page cert that we can frame and hang on the wall. He'll put it in a shadow box with led lights. Show it off with pride, men!
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/24 05:50 PM
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Sir, if your girlfriend did this, would you park in front of her house and blast love songs from a radio? The fuck you would. Get your balls back, file for the divorce, and make her wish she never pulled this shit. You can always remarry...someone else.
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/24 07:22 PM
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I am joking. Imagine having a piece of paper that said "Official Certificate of Divorce" with a small paragraph of text and then signatures under that, printed in landscape and ready to be framed and hung on a wall.
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/24 02:38 PM
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You got a certificate? Like a DD-214 that people get when they leave the service? I don't have a certificate. Do I have to mail away for it? How many box tops do I need?
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/24 06:45 AM
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Weight gain from depression after having to put your family pets down, alone. They reminded me of my EX and all the good times. It was like loosing her all over again. My kids were with me. It's been almost 32 months, I gained 60 pounds. I am now working with a doctor to get healthy again. It is slow going.
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/24 05:18 PM
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Not for life, just for this moment in time. Be a man and make good things happen.
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/24 06:36 AM
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How did you get so fucked over?
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/24 04:09 AM
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Shit, I don't have this problem. I bought my home a year after the divorce thanks to covid work from home rules. I would say buy the cheapest house you can and rent that thing out. If you can buy it with land, enough for a van or RV. Park the van/rv on the property. Fence it off and wait until you can afford the mortgage and kick out the renter.
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/24 03:47 AM
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You are going through the motions of the divorce. I bet most of us have felt this way. The loss of purpose affected my big time. You will recover, and with some work, you may find someone to start a new relationship with. Hopefully, the process doesn't repeat.
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/24 11:53 PM
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I liked my MIL, she was a single mother and loved her kids. Made bad choices with her relationships but never married. Smart girl. Smarter than us men, you could say. She even told me her daughter was asking crazy during the divorce. Maybe the lack of a Male role model caused my EX to think she would be better alone or maybe I didn't listen to her and I was the cause of my divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/24 08:02 PM
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Take lots of pictures and make videos. Do hand plaster prints. All that jazz man.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/24 03:04 AM
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Is it possible that women over 45 with children now see that their retirement is going to suck if they don't remarry, and that is why their attitudes have changed? I am just putting this on the table to think about. In retirement, if the mortgage is paid off, theb1st SS check covers property taxes, low utility bills, and food. You need a 2nd SS check to cover clothing, auto insurance, auto maintenance, medical bills, student loans, credit card bills, divorce lawyer bills, 😀...I can go on and on.…
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/24 02:47 PM
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Lost $700,000 due to being forced to sell the house at 735,000. It is worth 1,450,000 today.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/24 11:26 PM
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Correct, that time is over.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/24 11:38 PM
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No, she needs to go.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/24 11:36 PM
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You don't have to be friends. Just civil like a neighbor.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/24 11:17 PM
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I don't know. I know nothing about her personal life after she moved out. I was nice and spent our 1st Christmas at her home for the kids. It was almost normal, but it also wasn't. A few years later, I had to go help my son fix the sprinkler at the house. Still no talking about our personal lives to each other. Again, it felt normal but also didn't.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/24 11:52 PM
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I am a hermit, but people keep checking in on me.
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/24 07:01 PM
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Yup
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/24 03:24 PM
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This is good. I still struggle with memories of my "wife". I don't struggle with any memories of my "EX".
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/24 12:39 AM
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You don't have to dig far. These almost all play out the same way. There could be a "How to for dummies" book that explains what women do step by step in their divorce. The main thing you need to do and you have done is realize she isn't your wife anymore. She is this new stranger you don't know living in your home with your kids. Think about this. Imagine a random woman coming into your home and starts degrading you. You wouldn't stand for it. You would do your best to get her out a d away from…
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/24 12:34 AM
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LOL...Maybe that is what she wanted, or maybe I wasn't what she wanted anymore. That doesn't matter, she is still the mother of my children, and I feel I shouldn't degrade her in front of them. I am not a very religious man. In these instances, "What would Jesus do?" always pops in my head. Sometimes I try to be good and do the right thing, and sometimes I fail and make and ass out of myself. ...ride the carousel 🎠. "Oh My God"
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/24 03:57 AM
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Comments are nice. I hope this gives men the courage to continue on and be the best they can be. Our families might be broken, but they can still be good.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/24 02:30 AM
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Therapy was my first baby step to healing. Then making my own choices for myself before the needs of my family was step two. Now I am on the mend, not healed but I am taking steps to lead to healing and not self-destruction. Time has been the biggest factor. Sometimes, I had to sleep the week away just to get out of bed.
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/24 09:21 PM
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It's cheaper to give her everything in the house than to pay the lawyers to divide it up. Plus it is fun buying all new shit for your new place.
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/24 01:06 AM
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I moved 68 miles away from my EX. I was lucky to find a new house during covid. This distance works for me, I don't run into her anywhere I go. As for my neighbors, I was polite and had them over. We talk and help each other out. Yup.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/24 02:29 PM
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Had to less my house for less than I wanted to. $745,000 in 2019. Today is it worth $1,350,000.00 Thanks babe.
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/24 10:37 PM
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Yup, get some feed for the ducks and go enjoy a day at the park.
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/24 10:22 PM
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PRs are always exciting to improve. Now, set the phone down and get back at it. 300 in 6 months. LET'S GO!
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/24 06:45 AM
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1st - Don't act on any negative emotions. They will pass with time and you will laugh about how upset they made you. 2nd - talk to a therapist or a stranger at a bar, maybe a buddy at a bar is best. Talking brings things back into a perspective you can control. 3rd - Even if she didn't do shit, the law is the law. Get a good lawyer. You will recover, life will return to normal, woman will still want you.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/24 09:39 PM
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Lawyers
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/24 05:04 PM
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Look, I did what you are thinking about doing. I got those drunk calls at 2am. Asking me to pick her up at the bar. I couldn't sleep, I lost 40 pounds in a month, I was no good to my kids that way. They didn't know what was happening. Dude, get the fuck out of the house and take everything you can. Get an apartment and start over.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/24 05:44 AM
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NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO ( sung in the tune of Lego Batman) NO NO NO NO NO NO! NO! Go balls to the wall nukes right now. List the house for sale. Box up your personal shit a get it in storage. The marriage is over, done. You are not going to be a doormat.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/24 05:37 AM
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I don't know, I guess I am getting there. I don't pay my EX anything. I covered the medical insurance for the kids. One aged out the other is 22. They live with her now. Doesn't bother me. I make more now then when I was with her. I own a new home. Purchased a motorcycle to tool around on. I have some debt from lawyers and taxes I am slowly paying off. Credit score is high but there is nothing I need to buy. I airbnb my extra bedrooms for extra cash. Full month booking pays the mortgage. I miss …
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/24 06:43 AM
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It is going to be ok. It hurts now, but over time, you will heal and laugh again.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/24 11:56 PM
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No male role model when growing up. Her mother never married and her Dad only called on her birthday. She bonded with her mother, never with me. When there were issues she took them to her mother and not me. She kept me out of her loop of personal information.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/24 06:37 AM
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Move on and plan something special when she comes back. We only want good vibes. No one has time for bullshit anger issues.
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/24 12:43 AM
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It will end. Then you will think about it again but it will not effect you the same way. Then you get to focus on you and your happiness
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/24 04:50 AM
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My best pal has offered to get a whore because I don't fuck around. It's been 8 years, dated 4 woman from 24 to 50. 2 of them basically raped me. I said, "I love you" before her divorce was settled. Just be you, do what you want to do. If you want to be alone, do that because it is your life.
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/24 02:39 AM
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Do the 50/50, it will work out. We need you to pick yourself up and shake this off. You might have not been the best husband for her, but be the best Father for your kids.
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/24 05:53 PM
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I am 50 and I have researched the definition of gaslighting, yet every fucking time I hear it my mind thinks of street lights that were laminated by burning natural gas. I can't escape it. Anyone "Yada Yada you're gaslighting me." Me "I haven't been to the Gas Light district in San Diego in ages."
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/24 07:55 AM
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Um, fuck the cunt because that is what they are. Women that divorce a good man are trash humans and need mental help. Now go find a woman with kids over 16 years old so it can be just you and her.
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/24 05:10 AM
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Yes, the sadness fades away in time. Keep doing what you are doing. Stay social, mingle with people and talk about current events. Then one day will pass and you will not have given any of his a thought.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 09:25 PM
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This. Because you want to be the provider and your brain chemistry is all out of whack, guys end up in these types of relationships. You get attached to the kids, take some of the burden off the Mother and she does a 180 with her free time and fucks other dudes while you are at home with the kids. RIGHT?
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 09:09 PM
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Dude, I called a suicide hotline to talk me out if it. Most of us here lost the girl due to reasons. It is ok to come here and vent, this is a safe place. We all want you to get through this and see that it is not the end of your life. It is time for a change. Change can suck bit it also can be a fresh start. So let it out, things will get better.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 09:41 AM
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Well, that isn't totally true. 1st example l, my Mother in law was always at our house. She almost lived there on her time off. But this is ok because I liked her. 2nd, my son is 22 and is hanging out with my right now. It is possible to still spend time with family after they have grown up.
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/24 12:14 AM
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A red traffic light is a red traffic light. We all know this. A divorce is the end of a marriage. Plane and simple, that marriage is over. Time to move on to the chapter of your life.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/24 06:53 PM
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My Mother in Law was extremely supportive during the divorce. She thought her daughter was having a midlife crisis. Her brother was having his own issues with his wife and asked me how to prevent himself from getting divorced. To this day, I think she just lost it and wanted to try and rewrite her story. It hurt everyone and I was helpless to stop it. I wonder if divorce wasn't an option, would she and I have been able to work it out.
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/24 10:01 PM
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Yup, once your former lover calls it quits, they act like feral cats. Good for nothing but getting pregnant by some Tomcat.
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/24 09:47 PM
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What's the overseas retirement plan?
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/24 12:15 AM
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When I was on the OLD sites "traveling" was a red flag for me. All that ment was pay for my ticket, food and shopping and you might get laid.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/24 03:31 AM
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But she is now doing it from someone else. Does she come home late all horny and ready to go or does she dip into the spare bathroom for 10 minutes before putting on an ex long shirt and getting into bed with out saying a word?
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/24 10:35 PM
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This! Because we know a thing or two around here.
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/24 10:30 PM
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Fuck trying to save it. Get out before the 10 year mark and kids come. Go find a woman that shares the same goal you have now. You not living it up will make her board of you and leave after 10 year and you will get stuck with child support and no child plus alimony payments so she can have a fuckboy on speed dial.
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/24 10:28 PM
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I found 3 women to hook up with but my EX left me so mentally damaged that I was no good to any of them. I am 5.10 and was 235 when I dated during that time. None of those women cared about a 6 pac. But for me, I still felt like I was cheating on my EX. The women are out there. I met a woman at the dog park last week and we just talked. She made me feel like wanting to try dating again. Don't give up.
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/24 11:50 AM
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I am not sure how she is doing. I heard her say her credit score was bad. Mine is excellent now. She gained all the weight she lost before she left but so did I, just last year due to illnesses and depression eating. She lives with he Mom. On the plus side, she has a new Chevy truck. I still drive a 19 year old Ford. Neither of us are better off I would say. Had we worked it out think might be better. I just don't know. I try to not think about it.
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/24 05:25 AM
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Had to sell our home for $735,000. She wouldn't wait a month to let me buy her out. The home is now worth $1,350,000. Thanks babe, I hope you are happy now. I left town and bought a house. She stayed there and is renting. I forgot the lawyer fees and moving costs and lost 401k savings, whatever. Don't get remarried boys. Just don't do it. Girlfriends until death.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/24 04:20 AM
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Right, and we are left with our thoughts. We don't want to break up our family, yet there she is doing it "Sort of". I was thinking about this tonight. Bad breakup are because we were not educated about how they should be done. No one wants to look that shit up. Going forward it would be a good idea for Parent to teach their kids. If a relationship shows signs of failure, just end it on the spot.
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/24 06:07 AM
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Didn't end the marriage when she knew it was over but held this "separation" thing over me. She then went off and acted like a 21 year old.
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/24 10:53 PM
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Welcome back! I know it is hard but don't follow your EX on social media. Live in the now and keep advancing, don't look back at the past.
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/24 07:00 PM
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Going on 9 years now. I tried the online dating. Meet a few women, but I mentally wasn't ready. The last woman I saw 2 years ago was nice, but I didn't feel any connection. It was a coast to coast fling, and when she called it off, I just said "Ok". I got two labs a year ago and they file the void. I am an introvert, taking them to the dog park is the closest I get to socializing with people.
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/24 04:17 PM
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You file for the divorce before she does and move on. There are no Fairy Tail endings here. Just family court and a ton of wasted money on lawyers. If your kids ask why. Tell them that sometimes adults don't see eye to eye and it is best for everyone for them to go their separate ways. No one is at fault. It just happens.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/24 04:09 AM
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Only if you want seconds.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/24 12:02 AM
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We should be able to record our lives with our spouses and show it in court as proof of their and our actions.
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/24 10:49 PM
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Welcome to the club. Get a lawyer and file yourself. Take the lead on this.
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/24 02:16 AM
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She did because Will was a teenager learning how to behave properly. There was an episode where Will's Father left him again. His Aunt and Uncle played caring and supportive role. I come from a broken family and now my own family is busted up.
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/24 05:00 PM
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The Cosby Show. Husband and Wife respected each other and worked together to raise the kids. The Prince of Bel Air, same thing. Mash reruns, good times during the horrors of war. Guy dressed as a chick, but everyone saw through his bullshit. Get back to work. Then they started going down hill like you said. Married with Children, need I say more.
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/24 05:04 AM
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My EX told me her shrink wanted to put her on Meds for BPD before she filed the divorce. This is where I excuse her for all the shit she said because maybe, just maybe she is crazy.
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/24 04:51 AM
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Worked 8 hours today, updated my bills worksheet for Jan and Feb after work, dinner and some TV is next.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 02:05 AM
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Yes, because I am not the evil asshole she thinks I am.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 12:49 AM
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Your lady is bipolar or dealing with some other mental issue. Sorry that she wants to friendzone you.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/24 06:41 PM
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I think they are my bio kids, but I do worry about the medical history if they are not. It's not like I would disown them now if they were not. Plus, I want Grandkids and don't want to have to start over. It's just a little voice in my head that I hear and have to ignore.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/24 05:57 PM
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I took the separation as a vacation from her and being a husband. Then the divorce papers were served and I was done. I tried to be logical and civil. We were not on the same page at all. We had a $50,000 loan to help us stay in our house. All I had to do was make the normal payments for 5 years. The time our son would be in college and the loan would be forgiven. She pushed for the sale of the house and we had to pay back the $50,000. My brother offered to pay her not to sell the house. She ref…
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/24 12:00 AM
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It's my brother always saying something and it gets to me. I tell him to shut it because this is my son. He doesn't have kids of his own. The only worry that is legit would be family health history. You know, cancers and heart attacks. Stuff to watch out for.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/24 11:50 PM
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Myself, nope. I have already made peace with it. These rug rats are mine and to hell with the DNA match.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/24 07:45 PM
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I hot the gym before she moved out. I couldn't stay home with her in the house, knowing she was cheating. Lost 60 pounds, fit back into my uniforms. Then I lost my job, she finally moved out and left me to deal with the house and belongings. I rented rooms to make the mortgage payments and it worked. I even got my old job back. Then I got sick, she filed for the divorce. I lost the house. Lived with roommates for 1 year. Covid hit, our divorce was finalized. My 1 year lease ended. I moved out of…
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/24 09:04 AM
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My EX wife kept my last name. We had a childcare together and the business uses the name. So whatever, if she gets remarried, let them figure it out.
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/24 08:37 AM
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He has the heals!
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/24 09:15 PM
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People change over time. Maybe it is time for you to change too.
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/24 04:33 AM
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Smart move because you will not see a dime back of that good guy support in the end.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/24 07:25 PM
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I know you want to keep you family intact but the numbers don't lie. Once a woman does what she has started, your relationship is over. End it now, file the divorce papers while your mind is still intact and acting on logic. Marriage isn't forever anymore.
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/24 04:03 AM
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Not here to judge. Your family is going to struggle with this pain. Get therapy for yourself and child. Your child is going to need the assistance of two parents in this world. Best of luck.
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/24 03:28 AM
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My lawyer said it's $10,000 just to enter the courtroom. Settle if you can and move on.
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/24 04:45 PM
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Nope, I was not able to put those words together during my divorce. I could say it now because time heals all wounds.
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/24 04:12 AM
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Too stoned to work is an issue.
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/24 06:43 AM
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What a fucking nightmare. The other guys here are putting down the correct action to take. Just want to say one thing. I have been extremely stressed out and got pot edibles from a website. I now sleep like a baby. I don't drink. I always thought pot was bad, turns out, not so much. So don't hold that over your Daughter like it is the devil. It helped me get the rest I desperately needed.
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/24 05:40 AM
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That sounds like fun. Ask the female nurses to honor your last wishes.
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/24 02:17 AM
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Picture this. 20 years married. Went out for a family dinner. We are home the kids in bed and so are we. I roll to face my wife and she says, "Not tonight, I am tired and have a headache". Now repeat that over and over again. Final straw, she spends $75,000 on a kitchen remodel. You try to make it work but she doesn't stop spending. This time matching tattoos for her and her daughter. Mentally, you are drained. There is no romance. There is no money. You have to raid the retirement account to ge…
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/24 06:05 AM
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We are the think tank. 🤔 We should be able to come up with some bullshit answer. She wants you to meet her at the hospital or her Aunt's home and on her death bed to try and get a 2nd chance with you. Maybe a quickie out in the car.
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/24 12:50 AM
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Oh and there it is. She will use the word "Us" in her retort.
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/24 12:46 AM
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I lost my retirement. Now I get to work until I am 72 and get MY SS check, my VA check, and what ever my 401k does for 22 more years. I was thinking about dating again until I saw this post.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/24 07:05 AM
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Don't feel bad for her. She is no long your wife and no longer the person that married you. She is a completely different person now. She might feel pressure from the men she dates now to get a boob job. My EX wanted boobs too, and no matter how much I told her that she was perfect, she wouldn't drop it. Now, what she thinks about her body is not my business.
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/24 03:21 AM
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I can only imagine how much new dick your wife has already processed through her sausage sleeve. She might even be conducting trains. TOOT TOOT!
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/24 06:17 PM
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If you have 71k, tell her it's going to be split 50/50 by her lawyer and yours if she sues you.
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/24 10:15 PM
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"Fuck I am horny, oh I know. Hey Babe, you didn't put the seat down on the toilet again."
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/23 11:37 PM
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You know, we shouldn't let these women off so easy with the "I am not happy and want a divorce" excuse. When did words stop holding their meaning? She said, "Until death do us part" in front of all her family and friends at the wedding. Don't forget God if the ceremony was in a church. Now, 5 years later, it does mean shit and she gets to state free! Dude. Anyways, I buried the hatchet with my EX so I could attend my kids special events in the future and not want to get in a fight or act like an…
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/23 01:16 AM
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Christians. Yup, I went to a local male support group for men at church. I would go a few times a week. I also got a therapist that helped me get through the first few weeks. Then, finally, a family group therapist. Once she left the house, I had support from friends and roommates. I managed to get my son to school and graduate. Staying active really helps. Get out and into a gym. I still have to deal with depression. It hasn't gone away, I hope it will this year. I got extremely depressed when …
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/23 11:56 PM
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Yup, she is slutting it yup because guys fuck anything that says yes. Don't worry about it. Remember, the image of the wife you loved is dead and gone. Everything she does from here on out are the actions of someone you wouldn't want to be with.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/23 05:29 AM
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If I had 9 million, I would be retired on a beach. 3 million is the goal. I will be short by 2.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/23 10:25 PM
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I was free to make the choice to buy a house. It will be paid off in 2051 just in time for me to retire. VA covers my health care. SS, reverse mortgage and 401k cover food and property taxes. If life sucks at 85 years old, I have a 9mm at the ready.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/23 06:42 PM
2

I am there with you. I never had to deal with anxiety until the divorce happened. I am ok being around people but it can feel laborious sometimes. So I prefer the company of my dogs. Maybe I will find someone at the dog park.
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/23 11:40 PM
1

Moderate moderation makes malarkey.
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/23 01:01 AM
5

Nope. I was crushed. Mentally taken out of the game and placed on the pine. I second guessed if I should go at a green light or stop at the red ones. Colors turned Grey. Food tasted like bland oatmeal. I hid from my friends due to feelings of failure. How am I now 8 years later? I have recovered, I own my home, I have 2 kick ass dogs and only in debt because I want to be. No new girlfriend but have dated some. Now I am just sad about the holidays but that will pass. I think I want a girlfriend n…
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/23 11:27 PM
2

My EX took the cats. I took the dogs.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/23 03:27 AM
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This group is great. Judgment is honest, and no one gets attacked. The trouble I am having is I have no support a SO brings. I can man up and deal with my shit but fuck, sometimes I need to unload and get a pat on the back. I still fight depression when it makes you physically unable to do basic stuff. My current task at hand is cleaning the garage. I keep finding stuff that I need to throw away, but I box it up and put it in storage. Only for me to have to deal with down the road. Get this, it …
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/23 04:28 PM
3

TLDR
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/23 06:37 AM
3

I bet there are.
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/23 12:48 AM
7

"Oh, you are divorced too. Let's fuck!"
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/23 12:02 AM
9

You can move on. It will be ok. It will suck but so will the next girl.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/23 03:37 AM
2

Nope, get divorced. See how she acts. If she gives into everything, and seems remorseful then maybe invite her for dinner. Maybe you two will be able to parent together but have separate homes.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/23 03:36 AM
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You left and didn't say goodbye to the kids. Could have been a heat of the moment type of thing brought on by the fight and not knowing how to manage your anger. Sounds like you have personal work to do. If not for the family, do it for yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/23 03:29 AM
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Understandable, just realize she is no longer there to worry about your needs or the needs of her kids. She is riding the dopamine high of being single. Anything goes.
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/23 07:24 AM
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Find a woman that likes who you are and move on.
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/23 11:01 PM
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Dude, you are starting down that path of hope. You are letting the one person in your life that should fall on a grenade for you discard you like trash. Dinners are off. She can't sit at the table with you and your kids. If she tries, get up and leave and take the kids with you. She is to be shunned. She has become an adulterer and you are her simp. I am sorry for the harsh words. It is one way to get through the pain that is blinding you. The weight of the world has been lifted off her shoulder…
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/23 03:52 PM
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I did everything you are thinking of doing and she still left. So do this....wake up tomorrow and list the house for sale. Get that sign on the front yard asap. Close your current bank accounts and open new ones in a new bank. Cash your payroll checks at a check cashing store. Put anything of personal value to you in self storage. Call a lawyer and file the separation legal paperwork. This protects any spending she does from coming back on you to pay for. Freeze your credit. Cancel having family…
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/23 08:14 AM
7

You are getting older, and with that comes a lower and slower sex drive. Get your T levels checked out and get into a gym.
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/23 07:53 AM
2

How about this, you need to forget the anger that you feel towards her and move on. Just like forgiving yourself when you stub your toe on the corner of the wall. It is the hate that will poison your body.
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/23 07:51 AM
2

Take him out for a beer, then swap stories about how much of a bitch your ex can be. That will get her going.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/23 06:19 AM
1

Get a loan on your home from Avennto pay for the lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/23 07:07 PM
1

I hope I am wrong. I have just been burned by too many people to see the good in people any more. Best of luck.
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/23 05:20 AM
2

I got to "girlfriend is 25..." and stopped reading. By no means let her move in with you. She can have her own place and you can have your. I would bet that a month after she moves in, she stops working. Maybe she tells you, maybe she doesn't.
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/23 10:31 PM
1

Dude, do what you want to do. Don't listen to us. Oh wait, do what you want to do would mean you are listening to us and not living your own live. Shit fuck damn it!
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/23 07:55 PM
2

Totally hear you. It is hard but expensive to replace the stuff that still works. I have our bedroom set because I spent way too much money on it that I am not going to junk it. Fucked three new chicks in the bed already but not all at once. I have the old love seat recliner too. She has all the pics of the kids. I have one of them both taken 3 years ago. Works for me. I have all the old family videos on tape. My Daughter once said it was comforting to use the same cups and dishes she grew up wi…
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/23 02:57 AM
1

Yup.
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/23 05:15 PM
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Have a Happy Divorce my friend. You might be fighting it but I am going to do for you what my lawyer did for me. "Fuck that Cunt! Let's get the ball rolling." We can all laugh about it $50,000 dollars from now. The chemicals of lust and passion have taken over your STBX. She went to the Darkside and took the cookies with her. Everything she does from here on out is to get that next fix into her blood and you are the person in her way. She no longer sees you as human worth her time. Embrace the s…
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/23 01:34 AM
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My EX has a girlfriend from high-school that was married to her step brother. They had some kids and are now divorced. Life happens and you have little control over how it happens. Are for sexual assault, all you can do is make sure your daughter can call you anytime and you can be there for her asap.
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/23 08:56 PM
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It is too soon for you. You need more time. We all know that weddings are for the women. It just happens that this woman is going to be your Daughter. The one person you will do just about anything for except drive her to the wedding in a Chevy.
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/23 08:51 PM
2

Do you really want the STD?
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/23 06:54 AM
3

Don't get married and make sure you do not live in a state that recognizes Common Law Marriage. Once you get married, you submit all of your belongings and wealth to a Family Court to decide who gets it in your divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/23 07:43 AM
0

P Diddy, is this you? If it isn't, you are about to be him.
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/23 11:11 PM
1

Take her for all she has because she ain't worth shit.
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/23 11:36 PM
2

End it today. Try and have her served while she is blowing the reason for the break.
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/23 05:19 PM
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"Because life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you're going to get." I used to laugh at that quote. I never applied it to my EX filling for divorce. Yet here we all are. Some of us lost a wife, some of us gave her the boot but none of us started dating our EXes and thinking it wasn't going to work. Why am I still an LA Chargers fan? Because someday they are going to win it all and I can die happy.
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/23 10:27 PM
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No one told us what happens in family court.
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/23 10:37 PM
3

Sometimes relationships last years, sometimes just days. Move on young man.
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/23 05:28 AM
2

It's in a tray under the bathroom sink next to my class ring.
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/23 06:29 PM
4

No! Not at all. I regret that we failed to make it work.
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/23 06:45 PM
1

Fuck Jody! But hey, you got to give him credit for having the best game in town. He gets all the sluts.
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/23 01:20 AM
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Good, you acknowledge that you are in a phase. It will run its course and one day you will be you again. Now go outside and play. Have fun. Enjoy life. Girls are gross and icky. Try and get mud to splash over your cars windshield. Do a handstand. Ding dong ditch the neighbors. And the next cute woman you see, say "HI, I'm INCERT NAME HERE. Are you available for a date?"
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/23 10:45 PM
0

I am just going to date. MGTOW is at tad too closed-minded for me.
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/23 06:51 PM
4

She wants you out so she can fuck her new man in you bed. Think about that. Get a lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/23 06:40 PM
2

I don't want to know any details about my EX and her personal life. I have talked to her about our adult kids and their life events. I also don't tell my EX about the girl I am messing around with. We have separate lives now.
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/23 06:00 PM
2

I am 8 years divorced. My adult son lives with my EX for reasons. He tells me he thinks she is an alcoholic now. The poor woman has fallen so far from where I thought she was. I hope she gets help.
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/23 05:35 PM
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I was in your shoes, and I just told myself this is my marriage. This is the way it will be, and I better get used to it. Little did I know she was making plans for a separation and then filing a divorce. I went into shock we I was told she didn't want to be married anymore. If you feel this way, there is nothing wrong with filing for divorce. It sucks that you love the person that is no longer acting like they love you. Go find someone that will.
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/23 05:49 AM
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Have a divorce party! Come on Guys, why haven't we been doing this all along? Bicth want out, let her out. Invite some new girls over. Hot one in their late 20s. Light up the BBQ open the cooler an turn on the tunes. Decorations out front on the lawn. It should be a national holiday but with out a date. If you see the divorce Decorations on the lawn people should stop and join the party. The highlight of the event is the signing of the Divorce papers. What do you all think? There should be a mud…
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/23 03:22 AM
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Best of luck to you.
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/23 04:39 AM
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Relationships are complex. People change over their life and sometimes they want something different. In the case of your Mom and I, she told me she had been unhappy and no longer wanted to be married. I didn't feel that way. I tried to find out what she wanted, but she was already involved in her new life. Your Mom moved out. Filed for divorce a few months later. I attempted to work with her but she wouldn't answer my calls or texts. The rest is history. This could have been a mid-life crisis o…
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/23 04:00 AM
1

Will try it next time.
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/23 02:48 AM
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ROFLMAO! I get $1,000 on average with Airbnb. I would like to get a full-time tenant and be done with the hospitality part of it. Going to order some of that sweet, sweet dopamine dough now with pineapple. So good.
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/23 02:39 AM
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Unfortunately, you have no say in the MIL moving in. My advice to you is sell the house now, or stop making payments on the mortgage so it goes into foreclosure, or move out and take the kids with you. But for your mental health "Get out!".
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/23 02:00 AM
7

We all got married once, so.
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/23 01:55 AM
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Dating!!!! DATING!!!!!! WTF Bro! You can't afford to wipe your ass with bleached shredded dead trees and you want to romance another whore in hopes of a chemical reaction in your brain that makes you want to get married again? What's wrong? The wicked witch of the east wasn't enough for you? You want some more of that action? Just fucking with ya. I rent out rooms in my house just so I can order pizza once a month.
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/23 01:44 AM
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A "rut" is what I call them. I even had them in my marriage. I had to break the daily routine and do something new. New restaurant, or new type of food, walk somewhere new. New type of experience other than the same old stuff. If you haven't been to a gun range, go! Get a lane, rent something fun and blow $50 on ammo. If it's Saturday, go drive 500 miles. Where did you end up? Find out where and make a story about it to tell us. Read a book.
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/23 02:32 AM
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I don't give it a second thought. How did I get this way? It takes time. A whole lot of precious time. Dogs help because they love you for you and everything you are. It helps if they are labs.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/23 11:56 PM
2

I am 49 and the trust just isn't there anymore. I will date a woman that is not looking to get married.
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/23 08:00 PM
2

None, but that really isn't true. I continue to pay for Healthcare, and other benefits for my kids. One has aged out at 26 last March. One more to go for a few more years. There was no formal agreement.
/r/Divorce_Men30/09/23 10:13 AM
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She wants a separation but does not leave the house. Gets ready to go to parties with my daughter in tow. Forces the sale of the family home after she moves out and is established in her new home. It wasn't necessary, she could have waited 6 months. It cost the kids $750,000 as of today in possible inheritance. She ended up getting $35k from the sale 7 years ago.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/23 11:00 AM
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No? Don't do that. Invest in the lawyer and file. Separate rooms last for a weekend in a fight. 18 months, you two are done. You tried and it failed. Modern-day family, right? But here is why I am saying this. It shows her that you know what you want and have the fucking balls to do something about it. Be the leader in your family.
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/23 12:22 PM
1

You don't win when it comes to her spending. You purchased something that increased in value and is still in your gun safe. That's 50/50, it's all 50/50 at the time the papers are signed. Now you can say the bedroom set is equal to the value of the 1911 and 870 shotgun. She gets the furniture and you take the good stuff. I got my truck, my tools, the dogs and other stuff she didn't have room for or want.
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/23 07:24 AM
1

My loving image of my EX was replaced by a Bar hopping Whore with not a care in the world.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/23 09:53 AM
2

Pro Tip for mediation, don't argue of material stuff. You are better off buying used trash off CL or Marketplace in the beginning. Focus on time with your kids and alimony of she requires it.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/23 09:36 AM
1

The worst is the wasted money on all of it. Neither of us are any better off financially. Once her mind was made up she burned it all to the ground.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/23 09:27 AM
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Oh, you just don't want to live in a studio apartment in the shifty part of town and have a child support plan and alimony. Yup, you are between a rock and a hard place. FYI, I lost my job and home, started over during covid. I am doing OK again and so will you.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/23 09:11 AM
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Booze and lots of it. Also talked to a shrink and even the VA suicide hotline. I was a fucking basket case. The shrink helped the most. I focused on work. My brother came from the East Coast to help me out. Finally, she moved out. I even helped her get settled in the new house because I couldn't believe what she was doing. I was unable to keep her happy, so she nolonger wanted to be married. ALSO, worked out in the morning, ran 2 miles at lunch, and went to the gym afterwork every day. It wasn't…
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/23 04:22 AM
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Sir, you are in denial. Your marriage is over. You now have to look forward as if your wife died but she died in a car crash blowing her boyfriend and in the impact bit his dick off.
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/23 11:06 PM
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I paid $285 an hour. It got expensive. Don't let your emotions in at all. Black and white. She wants a thing, give it to her and get a new one or don't get it. You might have never used that item.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/23 10:08 PM
2

The year I didn't have dogs I took vacations with a woman on a whim. It was nice but I really enjoy what a pet brings to my life.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/23 07:25 PM
1

It could be those things. The one thing I needed to find out was would I be ok around her so I could attend birthdays for my grandchildren. I found out I can be civil towards her. The feelings of hate are gone. Seeing my kids happy and not stressed was important. It's life after divorce. The other trigger could be that our daughter moved out into her own place. Now I am able to go visit her when ever I want. My EX might have wanted to size me up to make sure I didn't change into a mass murder or…
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/23 05:40 PM
3

My EX asked for a separation, and I couldn't deal with it. Got a laywer that talked me out of filing. She later moved out after I lost my job and then filed when I had pneumonia and was on state aid. I thought I was going to die, but I made it. Now I own my own house, have my old old job back and have a side hussle, making me an extra $20k per year before taxes.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/23 05:16 PM
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My EX asked for a separation, and I couldn't deal with it. Got a laywer that talked me out of filing. She later moved out after I lost my job and then filed when I had pneumonia and was on state aid.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/23 05:08 PM
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The last thought in my head was how lucky I was to have such a beautiful wife before she wanted a separation. Little did I know her thoughts were "I lost weight, other men look at me, I want to go fuck them." She was also taking drugs to drop weight the easy way. Time to pack the bags and wish your friend a good life.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/23 05:04 PM
3

I got the dogs in the divorce. They kept me going. Kept the depression at bay. Once they were both gone, all I did was sleep and work. I gained weight and was just miserable. The new pups are my mental meds. I still should talk to a therapist so I don't bother my friends with the issues that creep up time to time.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/23 04:48 PM
5

The EX got all the cats in the divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/23 09:22 AM
2

You can repair something cut in half, but when it is ripped apart, nothing is ever the same again.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/23 04:58 AM
2

My EX found a couple to hang out with that partied. I was never the late night get drunk, guy. This couple also allowed their kids to drink at the parties. Better with adult supervision, they said. I didn't agree. They also cheated on each other and so happen to be divorced themselves. You can't pick your kids' friends, and you can't pick your EX's friends. It was one of the factors in our divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/23 05:14 AM
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I do not know. I hope so. I want to do stupid shit for someone again. Like risk my health and wealth if it doesn't work out, and she leaves me for Chad.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/23 06:06 PM
2

Exactly, it's all about the angles.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/23 03:03 PM
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Not all pussy feels the same. Sucks to say it, but I miss my old meat wallet. I haven't committed to anything new so there is still hope I find the right one.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/23 09:53 AM
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If you can manage it, remove all emotions from the conversation. Approach this as a transaction with a bank to pay off debt. If the relationship is over, then it is over but don't get angry or sad about it. If you can talk about filling the divorce papers, 50/50 splite of the financial situation. If there are kids, it will be difficult, but try to come to an agreement. Once someone talks to a lawyer, the shit storm starts. When you get home, let it out and decompress.
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/23 04:07 PM
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Yup, too soon for you. After 1 year, my feelings were still too raw. It took 7 more years, a few random girlfriends, before I was able to even talk to the EX about our adult kids and their life events. But someday you have to let go of the hate for your own health and wellness.
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/23 03:06 AM
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Remember life before girls? BMX bikes, playing with friends, getting dirty for no reason but for the fun of it. Come back and be a kid again, but now you make the rules. Play music too LOUD!!! Don't clean the house for a few weeks then hire a maid to do it while you go shot guns at the range.
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/23 09:57 PM
2

Sorry, I stopped reading at the tools in the office part. I was getting stressed out Man. Time tonend it and go your separate ways. Only deal with girl friends from here on out.
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/23 03:58 PM
13

Did her dog...step on a BEE.
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/23 02:14 AM
9

Oh, why can't my life be like Kim's?
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/23 01:21 AM
4

This is why we have the saying "The grass isn't greener on the other side of the fence." to ward off those thoughts of moving on.
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/23 01:15 AM
2

Do you mean "afford to live alone" or "just be alone"? I have a good job and can afford my mortgage. I have debt from the divorce that is getting paid off slowly. I also rent out rooms in my home for extra cash. It also keeps me engaged socially with people. I take my dog to the park and talk with people there. Living alone can be done.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/23 05:49 PM
2

Do you own your home? Did you make all the mortgage payments? 50% of it is hers. Pay the taxes now. She owes 50%.
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/23 08:05 AM
2

Just don't get into another boring relationship.
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/23 01:49 AM
2

Be that manual labor guy at Home Depot.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/23 03:48 AM
4

Just walking my dogs was great for me. I got a headset and listened to books or music.
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/23 04:19 AM
2

It gets easier. Surround yourself with people that want to be with you and find value in who you are. Worked wonders for me. I am an introvert so it was work for me to get out there. One thing that made it simple was having a pet to take to the park.
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/23 04:12 AM
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I read this and think you're still in the Anrgy stages of the breakup. There is more to come.
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/23 12:31 AM
3

Not being bitter is good. Keep working on that. /s
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/23 05:21 PM
3

But she is now back to her normal self, and I like that version of her ALOT! It's danger zone territory for me. Hahaha
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/23 05:19 PM
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Look at the big brain on Brad here.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/23 01:50 AM
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It will be ok. I have been divorced for 8 years. My Daughter was in college and decided to live full time with her Mom. Kids don't know what parents go through in a divorce. They can shut down and ignore both parents. They are hurting too. Give her time and be there for her when she comes to you. My Daughter and I talk all the time now. Now that she moved out of my EX's house I get to go see here when I want to.
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/23 04:46 PM
3

And the rest of us. At this point, there should be an anti 2 marriage religion.
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/23 04:37 AM
3

Good point.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/23 05:36 AM
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I wasn't happy with having to be angry with her. Not just upset but pissed off and she was ok and moving on. We tried the separation under the same roof for the kids but that failed. Guys if she asks for a separation just say NO and list the house for sale in the morning. Separate the bank accounts. Take the 1st offer on the house. Make her move out.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/23 03:45 AM
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I only want to date a woman who was divorced. If she initiated it, that is strike 1 already. She gets a pass if the dude is trash, but how do I know she is not lying to me? Trust is hard to earn now.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/23 03:37 AM
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Just leave, go out for some milk or cigarettes, and don't return. Get a place of your own and pretend like this never even happened. When your child comes looking for you later on their life, don't open the door.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/23 09:55 PM
1

I am going to guest that there is shit that happens in the Billionaire club that we mortals cannot comprehend.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/23 05:22 AM
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And this should just about do it for the comments.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/23 05:17 AM
2

If you know she isn't going to change, leave. Be done with the marriage and move on now.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/23 10:34 PM
9

Divorce doesn't just end a marriage, it rips the soul to shreds. I am sorry for your loss of a Father and Family.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/23 03:44 PM
4

Walk away, just walk away. Let time be her suffering. You can now focus on your son and creating a lifelong bond.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/23 02:00 AM
1

That's interesting, I hope it works out.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/23 06:04 PM
4

Welcome to the club with open arms. Time to move fast and get this divorce done and over with like it was your idea from the start. Separate your bank accounts if you haven't already. Put the house up for sale asap. Don't stop to catch a breath. The faster you complete it the fast you can get to healing yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/23 01:03 AM
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I know I was trying to be a good husband, father, and family supporter. Could I have done better, yes. Should she have filled for the divorce? It's not my choice to make. That is on her. Can I provide for another woman and child? Yes, I can. Will I? Not today.
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/23 07:29 PM
10

Not one fucking thing makes it worth the power and self control a man has to surrender when he gets married.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/23 06:46 AM
2

Please pin this.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/23 06:45 AM
10

But they will demand to take your money to raise your child however they seem fit to do it.
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/23 07:28 PM
2

My children are adults now. They are my true love. They know shit happened, and it sucked. They are happy I am still in their lives. To think I was once ready to end it over a chemical romance gone bad. I worked through it, and I feel better, I would rather not have experienced any of it but it had to happen. We learn from mistakes, or we make the same ones over again. The life you give your daughter is the only one she gets. Make it the best one has ever has.
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/23 03:14 PM
6

Blissfully satisfied with your results.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/23 07:16 PM
5

I did it. I was so brainwashed from the family counseling that I was doing all the chores, the shopping,the cleaning while she was going out to bars and calling me to pick her up. I saw a picture of her yesterday in her "Prime" right before the divorce. The was not the mother of my children. That was someone I didn't know. Well, she seems to be back to normal 8 years later. Thank goodness for my kids. I am still working on me. Got some issue that I need to resolve and maybe I will start dating t…
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/23 07:13 PM
5

It's not going to happen to me a 2nd time.
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/23 07:30 PM
2

Yup, did that alot in the beginning. It wasn't until I lost my two dogs to old age that the mental depression sank in and took hold. It is a mental mind fick and I can physically feel it. I am doing better now. I have adopted two puppies and there is no time for feeling sad with them. I started an Airbnb on the side and it is making me extra income. I also get to meet people and I am forced to be social. I get out to the dog park with the pups. But on those bad days, the only cure is a snack and…
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/23 02:16 PM
5

Give it time.
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/23 12:18 AM
1

I am in tech. Just not anywhere close to 200k. I need certs.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/23 04:07 AM
1

On the hard days I eat and nap.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/23 04:06 AM
1

It's complicated.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/23 03:57 AM
3

MEN, from this point on we are all over 6 feet tall with 8 inch cocks. Add that you have a Masters if you want some of that high class pussy.
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/23 07:01 PM
2

I am not dead. The entire divorce process almost killed me. I have recovered. I can live on my own. I have two 5 month old pups that will love me unconditionally. WINNING!
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/23 11:03 PM
1

How did I deal with my emotions? I talked about it with a divorce group at a church. I talked about it with a therapist. I drank more in 6 months than in my entire life. Then, after enough time had passed I was ok again. I just watched the news about a wife that killed her husband. Thank goodness none of our EX wives got that upset with us.
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/23 01:02 AM
2

Well, now you tell me. Had I just read her mind, we would still be together.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/23 11:10 PM
2

What was their excuse for not paying half?
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/23 05:12 PM
2

This man knows.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/23 03:27 PM
3

But but but the Tax refund vs being single?! The divorce cost more than 23 years of whatever those tax refunds totalled up to be.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/23 10:59 AM
5

Good luck with that.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/23 10:57 AM
3

"You never took me to Hawaii." was one reason she gave me. Want to know how many times we talked about going to Hawaii? Zero!
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/23 10:55 AM
2

As a women you most definitely are. So grow out your hair and tuck it between your legs. As a man, get fucked and stay fucked.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/23 10:53 AM
3

My EX told me, "I will always love you. You gave me MY kids. But I don't want to be married anymore." Just pull the trigger. Why don't cha.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/23 10:50 AM
2

Dude, what do you think your EX wife was doing at her Bachelorette party? Planning out her entire marriage from beginning to end.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/23 10:38 AM
4

Please PM me your career. I need to get some of that 200k income.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/23 10:36 AM
1

I gave up trying to be a good husband to a woman the rejected me daily as her husband. She filed the divorce. Was she the wrong one? I don't know. Life got hard for us and she didn't confide in me. She went to a shrink and misused the drugs given to her. She was trying to find something I was unable to give to her. I enjoyed being a husband. I loved my wife enough that I put aside my needs for the family. Maybe I should have looked for a shrink too. I miss being married. I miss having someone th…
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/23 10:29 AM
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TINDER for one night stands. There are a ton of crazy chicks that will polish your pole if you say the right things to them. Remember, they are crazy. Next, get a pet and take the pet to a park and just talk to other pet owners. You never know, there just might be a crazy single Mom looking for you. Roommates, rent out a room to a 23 year old. You will be shocked with the results. Good times, again crazy. Pull out the wallet and pay for it. This is risky and should be a last resort. Could end up…
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/23 06:18 PM
2

You know how you like to do things with your wife. Well she stopped wanting to do said things with me. The marriage continued but I knew my clock was ticking and it was just a matter of when the time was right. That time was when our Daughter left for college 8 hours away. The EX lost her shit and called the whole thing off.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/23 08:26 PM
8

I took the kids out for a weekend in the desert. I came home to all her stuff that was needed to run our Family Daycare gone. Her personal effects were gone. Kitchen all gone. Cabinets gone. She left the stuff in the garage, the master bedroom, and living room. The next week she came back for the new washer and dryer. Left the 20 year units from her rental in our house. I can laugh about it now. But my goodness, the things she did seemed like she was a completely different person. Oh and no cred…
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/23 01:50 AM
2

I was this behavior from my EX Wife's Father. It tore her up when he wouldn't make a simple phone call (before texting) on special days. He moved on with another woman and the kids he had with her. Finally, my EX had it one time and went off. There was nothing I could do to make it better, but hold her. Kids need parents. Parents don't be assholes to your kids because you're upset with your STBX.
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/23 11:42 PM
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Yes, at $285 an hour. I don't recall the total but it was over $10,000 and we never saw a Judge.
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/23 01:36 PM
1

You think you know what she makes. I found $26,000 in a bank account under my son's name, forced out into the open by financial disclosure. He never had a job and was only 15 years old. Go on ahead and take the f$@kn @&$%# word
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/23 06:32 AM
1

Well, you take one step at a time until you can run again. Read every reply here. Should be lots of good advice. 👍 If you keep calm, you will make it through this. The other side might be better or the same old shit but hey, that's life. 💯 Also you were addicted to someone being there with you and sometimes for you. It will happen again. Might get divorced again too. You just never know.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/23 11:38 PM
2

I stopped reading after I got to "she is still with her affair partner". Dude, get the fucking divorce!
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/23 10:52 PM
3

They go bat shit crazy in their 40s.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/23 10:59 PM
3

I thought it was all her. She was the root cause of the dead bedroom. Then I learned about women, more than I wanted to know. Boils down to I was the one acting out because I wanted out. She finally figured it out and left. I am finally working things out. I still have work on myself to do before I invite someone new to this shit show.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/23 10:45 PM
2

I went thru that stage too. Did the whole if she needed water, I wouldn't give it to her phase. Go to let that go because it is poison to your soul. I am in a much better place focusing on myself.
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/23 02:17 PM
2

Been there, done that. No questions. I know the process. Good job on keeping the house and the kids.
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/23 06:35 AM
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DUDE, It is California, 50/50 split on everything unless there is a prenuptial agreement. Sorry the marriage didn't work out for you two.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/23 05:38 PM
1

Just don't turn into the EX that knocks up a girl 2 months out of a marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/23 04:58 AM
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Do not go looking for the reason she is doing this. You will only find heartache and pain. And to top it off, she will not care what you find out. Come here to blow off steam and rant away. We got you. We will try our best to comfort you. We will share our experiences with you in hopes it helps ease the pain. And if you do stupid shit, call you out on it. It is going to be one hell of a ride.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/23 01:55 AM
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GO TO A CHURCH. You don't have to be a follower (they will try to convert you in their own way) but if you find the right people, a church male support group could get you through this. It helped me.
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/23 05:13 PM
1

Best of luck. Focus on yourself and you will come out better on the other side. It is strange how that works out but it does.
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/23 05:20 AM
2

I had to seek therapy to get through my break up. The one thing that stuck with me is the therapist telling me my EX was going to act like a 21 year old. Date as many men as possible chasing this new chemical high. Then once she has burned though the available men she will return to normal. I saw her a few weeks ago, it took 8 years but she right back at square 1 with no man in her life. I don't get it. I was a good Husband, a good loving Father to my kids and provided for the family. When there…
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/23 04:48 AM
1

I hate reading this kind of shit. That lady is fucking crazy.
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/23 04:30 AM
1

"It sucks now" and it isn't going to suck later. Do what you need to do to get to the next day or even your next step. You be here for when your kids need you, and they will need you. Fill the alone time with activities. Get out there and talk to other people. Talk to support groups. It helps more then you know. Remember, sucks now but will not suck later. Just like a girlfriend that becomes a wife.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/23 05:03 PM
3

Anything from Traxxas.
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/23 06:59 PM
12

Not as a Man. We are only worth the material product we can bring into a relationship to a woman who wants to get married.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/23 11:22 PM
5

Right there with you. What is your current "work myself to death" plan?
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/23 11:17 PM
5

It will be ok given enough time and maybe a few random girlfriends. We should give out marriage licenses with a time limit and when the renewal comes, you check a box, Yes or No.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/23 01:57 AM
3

Hey Step-Dad, what are you doing back there?.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/23 01:58 AM
4

At your age, with a comfortable retirement pending, not divorce. Just buy a 2nd home or rent a small place and spend time there. All your time there. If she cares one bit she will try to be with you. Don't give a lifetime of labor wages to a lawyer. You can move and date someone. Heck, even take a 2nd wife. Don't, but you could mentally in your head.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/23 01:43 PM
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I like this "Do the things you want to do." After my divorce, I road my dirt bike all the time whenever I felt like it. I ride less now, but the naps I take are epic. No one I here to wake me up to do stuff.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/23 02:15 AM
1

It's the "NEW MODERN FAMILY" she calls it. I don't have it in me to be filled with hate. We have to let it go. Now you can get mad and angry at times. It is important to control those emotions and not let them get you in trouble or danger.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/23 06:56 PM
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Tampon here: So my EX as of last night asked me to pick up an item she needs. I said no problem, took the pups for a drive, and got it. Why, because I don't want to be a dick to the mother of my children. It is ok that the marriage ended. It happens, and we(men) all should expect it to happen when we get married. We are not perfect creatures, and over 85 years, we have lots to learn. Somethings work for you in your 20s but not in your 40s. "Anger leads to suffering." - Yoda. One smart little gre…
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/23 05:43 PM
2

You don't want random sex. You want a partner and your wife is not that partner. It's time to call it and leave. Tust me, I stayed, and it only ended up making my EX leave. Next time don't get married. It binds you in a legal contract with the government. Best of luck.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/23 03:34 AM
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I am 8 years out of that marriage. I have dated on and off some really nice woman. I hit a mental low in the beginning but got help and I am doing better. 8/10. The marriage was a dead bed so I just gave up being in the relationship and drove her to file the divorce. I own my own home again, I have a dog again. Still working on paying off the IRS from the 401k being used to keep me afloat after I lost my job for 1 year. That was part of the mental low spot. Credit score is excellent. It hasn't b…
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/23 09:47 PM
2

I felt better giving her the stuff she asked for because the less stuff the better, and I didn't want items that reminded me about her around me.
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/23 02:30 AM
1

My kids are adults. I live alone but have 2 dogs. I miss that "Honey Do" list. So that's what the dogs are for. They get me out of bed and keep me moving. But 6 kids at 50 years old. No thanks.
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/23 01:09 AM
1

Because I have had kids with her and down the road there will be grandchildren. With grandchildren come birthday parties and holiday events.
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/23 01:00 AM
2

I have been here. Even called a suicide hot line. I managed to claw my way out of that depressing hell hole. You can do it too. 💪 Focus on what your next step is. Even if it is a literal 6 inch step with your right foot. Then focus on your left foot. Get back in the job market. Take any job you can. Try to keep it in you existing skill set. Rent a room to get a roof over your head. Save every penny for your own place. You can go it. Keep in contact with your kids. Exercise. Eat. Do not drink and…
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/23 05:48 PM
5

ehhh, I got the "I love you but..." statements too. The act of the break ups suck. Feelings are raw and you can't focus on anything else. I have been up and down the scales on this. Right now I am able to talk to my EX. For several years, I just blocked her out of my life. Now I don't want to be mad or angry anymore so I am letting it all go. Just keep swimming.
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/23 01:44 AM
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OH MAN, I feel for you Guy. Time will heal you but it might not heal how you view women from here on out. I wish you the best and a quick recovery.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/23 08:25 PM
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The one thing that sticks in my head came from our family therapist. "Your wife is gone and is now acting out like a 21 year old. She will chase the chemical high that comes with it over and over. You need to let her go and move on."
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/23 04:00 PM
1

Put everything in her name. Offer to be the tech support guy for a fee. $75 per call, $150 per hour on-site visit. Or RTFM Lady!
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/23 05:46 PM
4

I haven't read this book. I will look into it later. What does it say about moving on and becoming the man you want to be? If it says anything about that. The reason I ask is that I just helped my EX with fixing a gate and door at her home. She offered some things to help with my new puppies. It's been 8 years, and this was the first time time in we spent a day together. She was no longer angry but she was different. She welcomed the help. For me, it gave me a purpose on a Saturday that I had no…
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/23 01:02 PM
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Agree 100%
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/23 02:37 PM
2

I saw my EX and she had a shirt on that stated "You had me at Day Drinking." This was a few days after my Son tells me he thinks his Mom is now an alcoholic. I hope she finds her way.
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/23 04:00 AM
2

Find a new daycare. My EX and I ran a family daycare and had divorced parents. We never had a policy that fucking stupid.
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/23 04:35 AM
1

It all depends on your personal situation. If you had nothing, got divorced, well you still have nothing.
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/23 03:17 PM
1

19 years is a long time. Life happens, things happen. I did 20+ years and have 2 adult kids. I see them and moss my old family unit every time. I have posted on here that I have visited with my EX. I was at her house last weekend picking up a gift from my son. It's been 8 years. I have date 3 women. I only felt regret sleeping with the 2nd one because my son was home and I didn't know it. Just had a dream last night that the EX was moving in with me with her new kids??? WTF was that? Anyways, ev…
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/23 04:39 PM
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I figured that I can pay $1,000 a month to my mortgage principal and have my home paid off in 12 years. That means I can work part time in 12 years. Retire at 62 not 72. Then rent out my house for what ever and rent a room in the Philippines or a build a Cabin in South Dakota and live off the rental income plus SS + my 401k. If I got a woman I would have to pay for stupid shit, like clothes, shoes, entertainment so she isn't board. I love being board out of my mind. I just take a nap with my dog…
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/23 04:27 AM
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I know one guy that I would do this with. I would also fall on a grenade for that man. Right now I live alone. Tonight I was just thinking about how I miss going to bed at a reasonable time due to my EX wife dragging me to bed. I don't think I am capable of getting married again. 😕
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/23 04:37 AM
1

If you want to try relationship coaching.
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/23 12:37 PM
0

If you haven't done marriage counseling, now is the time. I bet you two could get along if you understood what each of you want from each other and then work at making it happen. Yes, I sad work at it. I am sorry but relationships take work. It sounds like both of you have a short fuse. Try to find out what and see if it can be fixed. If not the divorce option is ugly but might be the right answer for the children. Wish you the best of luck either way.
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/23 12:30 AM
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We spent 6 hours together, not a nasty word said. Just talked about my pups. Talked about her 2 labs she got a few years ago. Over all it was pleasant. Found out my female pup has an overbite I need my vet to look at. The most important part for me is I felt no ill will towards her like I experienced during the divorce. We even made clay paw impressions with the pups for my daughter and EX to take home. I like feeling this way. I never enjoyed being angry.
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/23 02:26 AM
2

LEMONS!
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/23 05:16 PM
2

I consider myself lucky. My EX just wanted her half as fast as possible and was gone. My Daughter will be her so I don't see her acting bad in front of her. It should be ok. I will update in 12 hours.
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/23 01:22 PM
2

It's the awkward feeling I am not looking forward to. I got bad news tonight. My kid thinks my EX is an alcoholic now. I am not going to say anything to her about it because it is not my place. It will be sad enough if she is. My hope is what he sees is just her going out on a date.
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/23 06:51 AM
1

Sorry to hear that. Oh well, now you know where you stand with her. She is a Cunt. I know that is a sharp word. My lawyer was to first to say it about my EX and how she was acting during the divorce. It snapped me out of the "How can I fix this?" spell I was under.
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/23 05:25 PM
2

Offer her everything you have to walk away. I bet she still says "No, I want to bleed you dry."
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/23 10:43 PM
2

GOOD TIMES! WHAT? REVS BIKE AGAIN I SAID GOOD TIMES!!!
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 01:51 AM
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For me I went to the gym daily and ran on my lunch hour. I would have stiff drink with dinner, if I had dinner. Then in the morning I would have a quick 30 minute work out. I would take a Doctor prescribed sleeping aid to get 6 hours of sleep. I also road my dirt bike on the weekend. I still was involved with my Son and his football and wrestling. It is all a blur now. I took pictures to help me remember. Man, I hated my EX during those days. Now things are better. I have my own house, I just go…
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 12:29 AM
1

"Wedding Vows" don't mean shit to anyone anymore. Just like the marriages don't mean shit.
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/23 05:19 PM
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Well, are you okay with breaking the wedding vows? If the answer is yes then go do what ever you want. Nothing any of us say should matter in your search of happiness. When you do it have everything planned out. Tell her you are leaving and hand her the divorce papers to sign with all the Financials information included on a Saturday morning. Try to do it with a city clerk to save money. Tell her there is nothing she can do to change your mind and walk out the door. Like quitting smoking cold tu…
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/23 05:49 AM
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That's going to be a long wait.
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/23 01:49 AM
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I can't believe there are guys that get married a 2nd time. One time was enough for me.
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/23 10:42 AM
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That needs to be printed on the front page of every wedding certificate. "Are you sure you want to get married? Y/N Do you know if you get divorced the sole bread winner will have to pay HALF (EDDIE!) of their income to the other party until death or retirement. Do you still want to get married knowing more then HALF of marriages fail? Y/N"
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/23 03:28 AM
1

We don't spend enough time together in my opinion but other then that we are all good to go.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/23 03:04 PM
5

The kids eventually turn 18 and the cs stops unless you carry them on health insurance until they are 26. Not sure if cs covers college expenses.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/23 01:52 AM
2

That is a reach. I heard that an EX can go after your Social Security payments when the EX retires. Imagine then taking part of the Social Security payment of your new wife(why anyone gets a 2nd wife is beyond me) claiming it's part of your property, thus rightly hers.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/23 12:08 AM
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My kids are now adults. They elected to live with my EX because she didn't charge them rent. I assume my EX had help with the rental payments from a boyfriend. My kids would come see me but I wasn't going to hang out with them at my EX's house. Now one has moved out and I get to go visit her. The other is still with the EX and is milking it. Smart kid. I give him props there. He come out to visit me and I will go to his town to meet up to do stuff. I just wish he had a place so I could go there …
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/23 08:08 PM
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Oh I was livid with my EX after she filed. She moved out, took the stuff she needed and left me to deal with selling the house and so on. I was that guy that would give her water in the desert. Now my kids are adults, I have had a few relationships. Done some therapy. Listen to people more experienced then myself. She texts me out of the blue with a question. I answered it and all those feelings of hatred are gone. For my kids and my grandchildren I am going to see if I can be civil towards her.
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/23 06:17 PM
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I LOVE BROWNIES! With that said during the awkward separation stage when she was acting 21 and I was trying to keep my job, she made me brownies. Cut them up and served them to me on a plate with a chilled glass of milk. I thought she was having a change of heart. Nope, just another mental mind fuck right in the ass. There should be a law that once the word divorce is said by a spouse that a 24 hour clock starts. Papers need to be served and who ever said it moves out. The penalty is a percentag…
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/23 06:07 PM
3

Leaving for 2 to 3 months at a time. This is not a loving marriage. Get divorced today.
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/23 03:45 PM
1

I hope it works out.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/23 09:51 PM
1

Do you have the money to pay her share of the equity to her?
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/23 09:26 PM
4

Oh you mean how laws have been changed and created to appeasd them. Yeah, I get it and what I learned is the act of getting married in today's society is more of a risk to a Man's health and wealth then he could imagine. DON'T GET MARRIED! IT'S A SCAM!
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/23 03:39 PM
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I am not sure I can blame feminist for my divorce. She hid some mental health issues from me. It caused issues. I caused issues because I grew up in a dysfunctional family. We both could have been better to each other. The bedroom was dead. That made me typical always angry. We argued over remodeling the kitchen. There wasn't any model left to pay for it. She did it anyways after I went to work. It took me 6 week to come around and speak to her again because I mentally checked out of the marriag…
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/23 11:15 AM
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My EX wanted to get new tits also. I was against it because I loved those tits just the was they were. Little did I know she was planning for the next guy. I don't know is she ever did it. Almost all our savings was spent on lawyers.
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/23 11:29 PM
0

Pay for a girlfriend experience at a whore house.
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/23 03:23 AM
1

Only 1 year and already having doubts. It shouldn't be this way. You should still be telling your friends how wonderful she is. I am not going to tell you what you could do, that is up to you. But, I would fake my death.
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/23 10:01 PM
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It can also be the man's fault. Neglecting a wife can start her down a path she should've been on.
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/23 02:45 AM
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Divorce is the violent destruction of a family unit brought on by the failure of an adult to stick to their wedding vows.
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/23 02:33 AM
1

Pump the hate brakes there. Yes this all super sucks. We all have been there and hated it. All this bullshit will pass and life will be better. The kids will want and need their Dad down the road. Money is nothing in the big picture.
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/23 12:29 AM
1

Hmmm, she is over it. Let her be over it and move on. The best thing you could do for each other is divorce as quickly as possible. It is ok to let a marriage end.
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/23 03:31 AM
3

I had a Male lawyer have his female partner take the case. She slapped the stupid out of me and got to work.
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/23 12:18 AM
1

Cost of living for her and 50% custody. She will want to move to the East so be ready for that. You are in the military and could be deployed to Guam at any moment. You will also be forcing her to get a job. She is not going to like you for that. Equal rights and all. CA is extremely expensive and if you are not on the Coast time or 10 miles from it, GA would be like living in Riverside.
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/23 03:44 AM
1

Congratulations
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/23 05:46 PM
6

Go see your dog. Go see your dog. Go see your dog.
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/23 06:42 AM
20

ACTUALLY: I am quoting Dr. Leonard McCoy. Was hoping to share a laugh with the guys today.
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/23 04:18 AM
1

Knowing what you know now about how marriages work and most importantly how you behave in a relationship, would you get married again?
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/23 04:12 AM
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He is going to fall in love with her. Our brains start running that "I love you" programing once the chemicals start to flow. We are all suckers for it.
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/23 03:42 AM
4

DUH!
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/23 03:37 AM
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Less pain for the person leaving would be my guess. Cold Turkey.
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/23 10:55 PM
1

This is an adult question. I would tell her because if you don't it might start a fight or argument that doesn't need to happen. On the flip side if you tell her she might become a bitch and try to ruin your time with your son. To tell or Not to tell is the question. Choose wisely.
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/23 10:41 PM
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It doesn't matter now if she is lying or not. She left because she wanted to.
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/23 10:33 PM
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You will be fine if your the type of person that is ok with change. You will experience the new life you have and make the adjustments that are needed. Don't be scared of the unknown, embrace it for what it is. NEW
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/23 06:09 PM
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This is a sub reddit for men that have been fucked over by women. Even the guys that filed their divorce have a story about a cheating EX wife.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/23 11:05 PM
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We know how hard it is. We have had time to process our divorces. Get the help we needed and look back on our mistakes. Women need to get thrashed in divorce court. It might make some of the wives try and work on their marriage before finding a fuck boy and ruining the family.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/23 11:01 PM
1

Nope, fuck that bitch! Get a lawyer and spread her for everything she has. SCORTCHED EARTH BABY!!!
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/23 10:57 PM
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The "fell out of love" line is a cop-out. Keep it real and say my word means nothing to me and that I now view my spouse as human trash. I want to discard them so I can do what I want for myself. Sorry, still pissed off about the divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/23 06:06 PM
4

The worst part is now I have to tell my Son it is a hoax and my Daughter that she will change her mind in 20 year and will not know why.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/23 06:01 PM
7

It's when you punch your own ticket and don't show up for work the next day.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/23 05:54 PM
1

No idea, any lawyers from Texas in here?
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/23 12:33 AM
2

And the saying "Time heals all wounds." Is true. I am way better off now then back then.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/23 08:25 PM
2

Don't you just use a shotgun?
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/23 05:50 AM
5

They vary, the worst one was a complete sense of being alone and sad. That just lost your pet kinda sad. Then sometimes I wake up feeling at peace. The first few years I had to take sleeping pills to rest. I stopped dreaming altogether. Now I dream nightly and these dreams are about anything and everything not of this world. Shit I have never experienced and they make me feel like I am awake. I don't drink or do drugs.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/23 05:21 AM
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It's different for everyone. I am eight years in, have been with 3 other women. I still have dreams I am with my EX. It could be that way for me until the end. What I am not doing is waiting for her to "come around" I had my time with her, now it is time for someone new. It is just the way it is.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/23 02:35 AM
2

You don't have to see a judge. Be adults, agree to your terms, file the proper paperwork. Shake hands and wish each other the best.
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/23 08:08 PM
3

Yup, it is over. Go cry in the shower for 10 minutes. Then get your game face on. From here on out only the facts, no emotion unless it's to show your love for the kids. You will be ok. We all made it through this. Some got royally fucked over and for some it was like the marriage never happened. Also do not read those emails. You will only discover pain and heartache.
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/23 07:05 PM
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It is 50/50 if you fight about it. More if you get lawyers. You will be better off paying more to make her happy if you can and keep the house. You can rent out rooms to help with the mortgage refi payments or rent the entire house out and get a $600 room. Play nice until the papers are finalized. Then never talk to her again.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/23 04:03 AM
4

I am getting a puppy and going to the dog park. I want to meet a girl that is ok picking up shit.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/23 04:03 PM
1

I get the background check but how is it that a small percentage of men have made this a default for women before a date can happen?
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/23 04:01 PM
3

I had 2 kids. I wasn't up for a 3rd because they are too expensive. I am getting a puppy this weekend. I know the roi sucks if we are talking about revenue but their return is on par with kids.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/23 03:55 PM
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I hate to say it but don't date women that filed for the divorce. Sure there are those that were in a horrible relationship but some divorced because the guy worked for a living and she fucked the mailman at home and wants more of that but not her husband.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/23 06:08 PM
2

True
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/23 06:04 PM
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I went with the comical reasoning. "She is his problem now." The family therapist that we all went to see told me that women go thru a teenager stage after a divorce. They sleep with anything that looks their way. They then chase that chemical high. Going to guy to guy to girl to guy because they get addicted to the high and nolong are bound by traditional relationship rules. Years later when she is used up and no one looks her way she will find herself alone, wondering what happened. In the mea…
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/23 06:01 PM
4

Seems right but there are alot more zeros in your equations. Those numbers are perfect for a comfortable retirement. California courts don't give a rats ass if you have a girl friend on the side.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/23 01:50 AM
1

Easier to keep it all then have to go get copies if needed.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/23 01:44 AM
4

Read this about WOW Widows
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/23 07:53 PM
3

Don't forget the non-biological Fathers that get ordered to pay child support due to the lies woman say in court.
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/23 07:31 PM
14

No cohabitation after the divorce. Get the fuck out and move on.
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/23 06:22 AM
2

Make sure you tell this to your lawyer. Did you have separate bank accounts also?
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/23 06:02 AM
2

If the house was yours before the marriage you should get it minus the equity she paid into it while you two were married. If you put her on the loan in the refi the I think you are splitting it is she forces it. Offer to pay her to let you keep the house. I did this with my EX but the refi wasn't for the amount I requested. So she forced the sale of the house.
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/23 05:10 AM
3

Did you marry my EX?
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/23 02:10 AM
5

Wow, that is nutz.
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/23 02:05 AM
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100% avoid her. If she is not there you can't fuck up. Dude, I have been divorced 8 years now. I still find myself thinking of my EX but those are memories when she was my wife. There are no fond memories from that first year to now. As hard as it is, you have to move on without that person.
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/23 12:31 AM
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Other then a few low key arguments over the marriage I totally thought she had my back. That we were partners until the end. I still have to remind myself what she did or I start to forgive her and thoughts creep into my head. Yup, back to therapy.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/23 04:47 AM
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Because you let her be this way in the beginning. Now it is so ingrained into her personality it is who she is. You are unhappy. Tell her you are unhappy and server divorce papers at the same time. Try to time it when the lease is up and you can move out that night. Leave her homeless, she can go live with a friend or her parents.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/23 01:02 AM
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Yup, when I got a Lawyer it was no contact after that. I got served at home when I was sick and on state disability due to undiagnosed pneumonia. She had sent me a text that she filed a few hours before. Said it would come in the mail but she wanted me to be ready. Wasn't ready for a dude at my door. Anyway is said I had so many days to reply. I sent her a text to ask how she would like to proceed. No reply, 3 days later I dragged my ass to a lawyer, sign the papers to reply. The last thing she …
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/23 06:47 AM
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And she will ruin you.
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/23 08:04 PM
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Sir, I played the simp in the final days of my marriage. It didn't help. It only weakened my position. You are the Man of the house. It is time to act like it. File for the divorce now. Show her you have the balls to stand up for yourself. Show her that testosterone still flows through your veins. Put the house up for sale now because the market is dipping. Be that asshole Chad that her single girlfriends point out to her at the bar. "Look at how manly Chad is." Is what they tell her. Her fantas…
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/23 07:54 PM
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After the divorce, she wanted copies of all the pictures we hung in the house. I found it easier to give the originals to her. At the time I was renting rooms out to 2 younger girls. Now I have my own home and for Christmas I asked my kids to take several pictures together. Best present ever. They are in frames in all the rooms.
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/23 07:04 PM
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If the connection is over it is most likely unrepairable. You only see that in Hollywood RomComs. Best thing to do is realize it and take the steps to help you both move on with as little harm as possible. Broken Hearts will mend.
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/23 01:28 AM
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Post away. I want to see if two Dudes can be responsible and work out a civil divorce without someone going batshit crazy.
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/23 12:32 AM
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What ever you do, don't fuck your new roommate and get her pregnant.
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/23 12:44 AM
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5 and 7, do a old fashioned treasure hunt. Make a map. Hide clues. Bury a chest with a surprise in it they can find. The treasure can be a gift card for ice cream or something cool they have been talking about.
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/23 07:43 PM
1

During our separation phase. When she slept in our Daughter's bedroom while she was at college. I found a receipt for a handgun that she purchased. I confronted her about it. She said all her friends pooled their money together to buy it as a gift for a friend but she paid the full amount for it in California. I went to the gun store, they wouldn't provide details but they did say they perform any private transfer sale for her. What trust I had left in her was gone.
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/23 07:40 PM
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Do it.
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/23 07:18 PM
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I think my wife went nuts. Had a midlife crisis and bolted. 8 years later and I am finally open to answer texts about the kids(adults now). I am trying to move to that "You are the mother of my children" level of respect. Not the "Holly shit you're a fucking syco, put down the gun." phase.
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/23 07:14 PM
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I have it still. Sits in a red heart shape tray my Daughter made for me. I like the ring. Can't just throw it away.
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/23 07:08 PM
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The Dude is fucked. The got married a 2nd time and opened himself to all this court what's yours is mine now bullshit. Is there a prenuptial? Guys, marriage is a scam. Don't do it.
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/23 07:06 AM
2

In what court did you swing that?
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/23 07:04 PM
2

Yes it does. I am currently saving for a Labrador puppy. My dogs crossed over last year. 14 years old. I am home alone now. I only hear the fan and the ringing in my ears.
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/23 10:41 PM
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Are you ok with the "white lie"? You know the lie you say if there is a surprise party or Hot Blonde waiting in the bedroom to fulfill a fantasy?
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/23 10:32 PM
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You know what. It is going to come down to the woman trusting me enough to realize I love her and to show me by not asking to get married. I am up front with my position and wouldn't put a woman at risk of a divorce. If something flashy catches her eye it is best that she has the freedom to leave.
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/23 10:24 PM
1

If you couldn't get divorced do you think with some relationship coaching it could be saved?
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/23 05:14 PM
1

Just by reading the 1st paragraph, why did you marry her?
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/23 03:10 AM
1

Not yet. Thank you for the concern.
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/23 04:24 PM
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Several years post D-Day. I got my job back, bought a house, out of CC debt. I have savings again. Got my kids on their feet as young adults. Dated a few woman. In a relationship now, she knows I will not marry her. Only bad thing is my health. I am working on it with my doctor.
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/23 03:02 AM
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Yeah, #3 didn't happen for me either. I went down with the ship. Didn't take me wedding ring off until I signed the final divorce paper. It was very hard to go through my divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/23 05:01 AM
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I will never marry again. Too much risk this late in life. Honestly I wanted to kill myself going through it. I looked for support and found it thankfully. But to answer your question, if money wasn't a part of it, I could marry and apply what I have learned to the new marriage. Hopefully round 2 would last like it should. The thing is, maybe people are not ment to be married for longer then 20 years? Maybe we only stay together until out kids can feed and defend themselves. Keep having kids is …
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/23 06:09 AM
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Talk to a therapist and learn about the emotional effects it will have on me and how to deal with them. Stop spending money and become a miser. In preparation to offer her a lump sum of cash for her interest in the family home. Start an affair and finally get laid. Why wait 5 years. The bedroom was dead. Say no to all the home remodeling projects she asked for (it was a fuck ton). Send my Oldest kid to a local University. Offer to settle with mediation because I wouldn't have been served divorce…
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/23 06:02 AM
1

I understand.
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/23 06:07 PM
1

Crap, you are a good Father and thinking about your kids welfare. How about a legal separation for 6 months to a year? Let your wife get back into the work force and see if anything changes?
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/23 05:18 PM
1

You can also sell your home or refi the max out on it. Then move out into an apartment with your kid. She doesn't need a key or access. Think of it as moving on with out her. Not sure how the courts look at this but get this. If she cheats on you in California and it ruins your life, California Family Court doesn't care at all about the Husband. Only the Mother get access to all the resources.
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/23 05:05 PM
1

Remove this post. It is complete bullshit.
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/23 11:05 PM
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It is a crazy thing to watch a person you were invested in do a 180 and become fearful of you.
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/23 10:43 PM
2

50/50 is ok. You being dead and getting 0 time is not. Get a family law lawyer, also see if you two can do it without one. Some couples can and it is less then $1,000.00. Best of luck.
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/23 04:17 PM
2

Hahaha, oh man you didn't know. Are you 100% sure there is no way to save this marriage? It might be worth it to convert to an open marriage. Also she doesn't need to be told it's an open marriage. She gets half now or half when she finds out 20 years from now.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/23 10:37 PM
2

My EX got her new place then moved out when I was away with my Son. We came back to a house that was at least 50% empty. She didn't ask or tell me what she was taking. Then the following weekend she took the clothes washer and dryer and left the rental unit ones in the house.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/22 11:51 AM
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Yup, it's still his house.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/22 02:11 AM
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And the worst thing is seeing a happy couple married XX years and knowing she is going to change and want a new Man. In the process she will do her best to destroy he old love so she can feel better about what she is doing.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/22 01:09 AM
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Don't do it. Love Her like there is no tomorrow but what ever you do, do not get married.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/22 01:04 AM
3

3 football games and 2 naps. It's almost over.
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/22 05:20 AM
3

Hope the day has gotten better.
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/22 05:20 AM
2

Tell her you can have one in 2 hours and she can't ask any questions, ever.
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/22 12:37 AM
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I was a mental head case and wasn't ready to be in a relationship. She actually dated another guy in the group. Then there was a really young girl. Then a Poly girl and currently a long distance relationship that is fun but one of use needs to move and we both said we don't want to. So that might become an issue.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/22 06:08 AM
1

Well, kids like to open presents so open them on Christmas Eve and tell them you are doing it because you love them.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/22 11:10 PM
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I was the last guy in our group of remarried friends to get his walking papers. I got the "Welcome to the club, it's about time." Comments. They all tried to hook me up with some other divorced chick. It was grand for a bit. Then the depression set when I was ordered to sell my home and move. Many years later I am almost ok again. 👍 Life has ups and downs. Enjoy the ups when they are here and know the downs will not last for ever.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/22 11:01 PM
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I used to say stuff but unplugged my mic. Then I learned it was easier to not say anything.
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/22 04:48 AM
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If the bedroom is dead then you are roommates co parenting. Might as well make it the real thing under the eyes of the law.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/22 06:55 PM
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Dumb as a box of rocks my Dude. Get a lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/22 06:24 PM
1

And I bet with job skills like that you can do it for your next "Fat Fucking POS" boss. Let this be a lesson learned, never speak ill of someone that controls your pay.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/22 06:18 PM
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Brilliant 👏 👏 👏
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/22 12:24 AM
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Just give her half your stuff now and alimony payments for life. Have you not researched how fucked over men get when they divorce a woman that didn't work and there are kids?
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/22 12:23 AM
5

100% And they should be on sale for the holidays.
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/22 02:05 PM
2

Valid point.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/22 05:03 PM
3

We are here. We have seen it all. We will get you through this.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/22 08:07 AM
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I am dating a woman that wants to vacation and not feel poor. I have a balance on a tax bill left over from my divorce. I want to focus and pay that off. She doesn't want to feel poor. I think I just found a red flag she and I have to talk about before moving forward.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/22 03:41 AM
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You're welcome. Just passing along what was taught to me by other men lending a helping hand.
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/22 06:01 AM
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Here is something to think about. When the paper work is over, when you are back on you own, things will get better. There will be days it doesn't seem that way. But it does happen. You will go to bed one night and the next morning feel ok. There are steps you need to follow to get to this place. There is work you need to do. You can do it and be better for it. Don't let hate, anger and fear rule you. Love yourself, love your children and forgive those that have wronged you.
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/22 04:58 AM
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You need someone else to come in and look at this from a business perspective. It sounds like you are letting feelings get in the way and are also worried a out getting screwed. Most definitely get a lawyer due to her statement about coming after your retirement. My lawyer was the first person to ever label my EX as a "Cunt" because she was trying to fuck me over and not be reasonable.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/22 04:49 PM
2

She fucking her friend in so many ways she never fucked you Dude. The marriage is over. File for the divorce. Protect what assets you have. I know this is hard to read but it is the truth. Now is the time for you to look after your own health and well-being as you deal with this. Don't let her abuse you anymore. It is ok being a divorced man. Nobody cares anymore. It isn't shocking to anyone in society that divorce happens. What is shocking is that men try to get married a 2nd time and think wom…
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/22 07:31 PM
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I got lucky. Mine just left. Still screwed the family over for thousands of dollars that could have gone to college the kids. Women get to a point and go bat shit crazy.
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/22 08:39 PM
1

WE HAVE A WINNER!
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/22 08:20 PM
2

Could she afford a Nanny on Sunday? Would you be ok with a Nanny watching your kids? You might have to socialize with your kids in tow. It is a tough position you are in. Wish you the best.
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/22 03:34 AM
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Just asking what people think. I am only getting divorced once. I will not let that happen to me again.
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/22 09:10 PM
2

Don't give her anything and force a court to order you to pay her "pussy use" tax. Then pay what is fair for Child support. Ask for 50/50 custody because you can provide a room with your proven income.
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/22 06:46 PM
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Everything purchased prior to a court ordered child support plan will be considered a gift is my understanding. You might want to finalize the divorce and child support next. If she goes on state aid the state will come after you to pay. Fear what Family Court can do you.
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/22 09:54 PM
2

LOL but She has a spell on me.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/22 05:46 PM
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It is 2am, I can't sleep and now I am researching about how to remove spells from a study that happened in 200 something BC! Do I need to look in the National Arcives or Wikipedia?
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/22 10:09 AM
2

You can Adopt a child. It might be hard to do ase a single father. Being a Father is better then being a single guy in my opinion. I have two kids and I am lucky they don't blame me for the divorce. They saw me do my best to keep the Family together.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/22 04:49 AM
1

Did you noth say "for better or for worse..." in your wedding vows? If you didn't then ignore this. If you did, what are your thoughts about wedding vows like that? Ones the make people commit to someone for a lifetime in a world where marriages can be ended because someone changed. Anyone can answer. There are no right or wrong answers.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/22 04:45 AM
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She even threw in "I will always love you as the Father of our children." My mind adds "as I am sucking another man's dick in the car you paid for."
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/22 04:36 AM
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My EX stole $20k of family funds. It was hidden in a bank account for one of the kids. I didn't know it existed. It was going to cost me $10k to walk into a court room and I had lost my job. I couldn't afford to go after it. My Lawyer even talked me out of it and said let that go and settle. Anyways, marriages end and it sucks when they do. Just don't get marrried.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/22 04:33 AM
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YUP I have been there. I got help from support groups. I would still make mental mistakes working on how to make things better. It's a hard but it can be done. You might need to find forgiveness for yourself by yourself first. Your EX might never forgive you and that is ok. I am not religious but I worked with people that are and found it helpful. Time will also help.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/22 12:05 AM
2

HAPPY CAKE DAY!
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/22 11:23 PM
2

There is a ton out there. Here is what I could have done better. Listen to Men that have already been divorced and don't think you are any different. Get away from her as fast as you can and start a 90 days of No Contact. Only exchange texts if there are kids involved. If the divorced isn't agreed on then get a lawyer asap. Don't buy anything new. Focus on work and tell no one at work. It is going to suck before it gets better but it gets better.
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/22 11:22 PM
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Never again. Current girlfriend knows it too.
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/22 05:06 AM
5

And this ashtray...that's all I need
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/22 04:23 AM
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He means you are not committed to taking action. She is in control and you are reacting to what she does next. She is your enemy now. You have to fight. Get a lawyer today, not tomorrow. File for separation today, not tomorrow. Leave work to get this done. Then list the house for sale today. Get a sign in the yard asap. Explain to your child that things are going to change and you love them. Empty the joint bank account and deposit the funds in a new account. LOCK your credit down. No new credit…
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/22 07:26 PM
0

We understand both sides here. Give it time, losts of time and you will recover from this mess.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/22 05:21 PM
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I did that once. Every TV was on, playing the game. I wondered the house getting shit done. It was glorious.
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/22 04:52 PM
3

The hardest part is jumping pasted all your feeling right to reality. Your current marriage is over. You two need to separate now. Take 6 months apart. Calm down. Look back at what your marriage has devolved into. At the end of 6 months when your head can process this a little bit better, either divorce, or git the separation 6 more months or date her again. The other option is divorce now. Move on with your life. You are stuck thinking she was the one for you. Trust me, there are millions of wo…
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/22 04:49 PM
3

It was a bad divorce. I got angry about it. No Contact started the day I signed the final divorce papers. Only 7 years later have things cooled down enough for me to exchange texts with her about our adult kids. The day will come when I have to be in the same room with her and not freak out for my Grandkids sake. Can't be angry forever.
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/22 05:44 PM
2

Open a new back account. Transfer the remaining funds from the old account into the new on. Remove all the booze from your home for a start. Then sit her down and talk to her. JOIN an Al-Anon support group. If these steps fail to help clean her up you might have to separate and finally file for divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/22 05:17 PM
2

My EX changed the Emergency Contact for my Son, she removed me and but her boyfriend down. I only found out when he came to live with me full time and I had to take him to a new High School. Shit gets crazy in a divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/22 04:49 PM
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There is nothing wrong with a Girlfriend or two. The issue is once a man gets married, there is rarely a upside to him getting divorced but there is always one for the female. She gets half a man's wealth, child custody of 50% or more, and future payments of spousal support. The Male gets a studio apartment, a bad credit score to rebuild and a life long payment plan for nothing. You don't get this with a girlfriend. What, you still could get child support payments but that is on you for having a…
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/22 07:17 PM
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They are all that way. Once a man slips, a woman will start the process to find a new man.
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/22 07:08 PM
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SELL SELL SELL or watch countless men come over and listen to them bang your wife.
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/22 03:52 AM
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Some things to do. Open a new bank account for yourself. Sure she will get half but not all of it when the divorce is over. Put a block on your credit so no new accounts can be open. She knows all your details. If you are planing to move out, get a place first so you have a safe place to go after serving her. Move some of your stuff out of the house, clothing, basic tools, you favorite gaming console, the family pet you like, and pictures of the kids if there are any. Best of luck. Try to get a …
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/22 06:34 AM
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So, I have been there and done this. My wife suffered with postpartum depression but never told me. The 7 year itch came, there was a coworker chasing after me but I stopped it before we did anything. The still stands that I was entertaining being with another woman in my dead bedroom marriage. We continued with our ups and downs for 22 years. I was so defeated I wasn't the loving husband I should have been. She finally left. I looks like you have addressed your concerns. If it is still on your …
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/22 03:31 PM
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I must have been a real asshole. Without my kids(adults now living with the EX) my home is clean. I even have funds for a Maid once a month. I always have money in the checking account. I am rebuilding my retirement 401k and Stocks/Bonds. I rent a room out for $1,000.00 to help with income. The house is dead quiet on weekends. But I do miss my EX. She got me out of the house with the kids in tow. She left by the way. I am not better off, I just live my life my way now.
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/22 09:26 PM
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Yup and that is why you need to get out asap. A few months or years from now you can look back and laugh about it but not now. It fucks you with you so much that you can't sleep, your work suffers and the kids suffer.
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/22 07:36 PM
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God forbid there is a Second Time.
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/22 05:35 AM
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Dude you need to get out of that apartment. Look for a room to rent for cheap and go stay there. I lived with my EX for a year, through the holidays. It was fucking hell. I have blocked most of those memories and deleted all the family pics from that time with here in them. I stayed because my son asked me to. Watched her get dressed up to date other men. Never again. Get out now and save yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/22 05:27 AM
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7 years as of Oct 12th. Saw a picture of her that I took on the 11th. My feelings for her in that picture are the same today as they were back then when she was my wife. I haven't seen her or heard her voice in over 6 years. I could crawl back into bed next to her like it never happened. But I force myself to move on. I work, I keep a clean house, I see my kids, I pay my bills. I am even dating a nice single Mother. My EX is in the past. So I move on the best I can. I am also off the meds and no…
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/22 05:16 AM
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Just get divorced and end the relationship with the person you are no longer in love with. RIP off that Band-Aid and be a responsible Father to your kids.
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/22 12:43 AM
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I didn't divorce my EX when she was unemployed. She divorced me when I was. Dude, you are unhappy and she is cheating on you. Get out now before your next thought is what would a bullet feel like.
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/22 05:03 AM
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AWESOME! Fuck Utah and come to LA. The LAPD will love to have a new recruit. The military background might help with the hiring process. The night shift will allow for acting auditions. You could fall back on Porn Acting in the valley if things fail. J/K. The beaches are nice. Housing is expensive so be ready to have a roommate. Homelessness is out of control. Crime is high but you will be here to put a stop to all that. Try to get hired first before moving here. Best of luck, don't let anyone h…
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/22 06:19 PM
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The pain gets duller each day. Find support groups because talking and listening to other people helps. The new person your EX turned into is not the same person you married. She is gone and you can treat this like a death in the family. Grieving helps, let yourself experience those emotions. On the other side waits a new you.
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/22 12:13 AM
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I had my dogs. We did all the shit together up to their last days with me. Now the silence is deafening. I need time morn my loss before I get another dog. But that is my answer. Get a dog.
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/22 03:49 PM
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The subtle art of not giving a fuck by Mark Manson
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/22 08:18 PM
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Maybe she thinks housing prices are going to tank so if that happens you get screwed just a tad more. I don't know. Don't remarry.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/22 06:07 PM
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1,000% this. Also, now that you know she is seeing someone. Avoid her, stay in your room or out I'd the house. Take your kid to the park. Do put yourself in that situation where you can see her private texts or hear her phone calls. I speak from experience.
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/22 05:47 PM
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Oh snap! You didn't tell here to get a "Real" job. Housewives hate to hear that. I laughed at my 41 year old EX get dolled up and then call me for a ride because she was wasted at the bar. I was at home with our kids. What a fucking joke women can become.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/22 07:08 PM
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It was her attack on you personally. She went for your throat with a knife. Protect yourself because she is no longer the wife you once knew.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/22 05:43 AM
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You're relationship should be a rock. You're sex life secure behind lock and key. You have addressed these issues with here and she blew you off. Time to go. You don't need this in today's world. Find peace of mind and a new girl that will respect her man.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/22 08:15 AM
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Hey Buddy, I love you too but you can't stick it in my ass. Now go Man up and file for your "Relationship DD-214"
/r/Divorce_Men30/09/22 03:04 AM
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I would say the moment an EX says I want a Divorce start the process right then and there. If you are told at Noon start looking for a Lawyer at 12:01pm. I know this will fall on deaf ears but it really shout be the default response. If she flipped the switch first don't fight it. Deal with the emotional trauma behind closed doors.
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/22 07:09 PM
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And all that will pass with time. You will forget the feels but remember that they were not pleasant. You hormones will balance out again. Then one day another girl will say you are cute and the chemical romance starts all over again.
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/22 05:32 AM
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This reply should be pinned to the top of the sub as required learning.
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/22 05:28 AM
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I get them. Replied to one and answered their questions with jiberish.
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/22 07:26 PM
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Hey, Thursday Night Football is on. Do you really want her back enough to ruin watching the game?
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/22 01:59 AM
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Isn't it crazy how a spouse will treat you at the end of a relationship. Not even friendships end in such a horrible manner.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/22 09:18 PM
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Be the best Father that you can be. As for your child's Mother. Do what you can to help her with out being a door mat for her to abuse. Best of luck Chris.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/22 04:22 AM
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Sorry but your marriage is over. Let someone else do the things you do. Get you shit in order and file the paperwork.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/22 05:54 PM
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Ball your hand into a fist. Thump on your chest twice and raise your hand high. Extend your index and middle fingers, palm facing out. Then say "Peace out, Bitch!" and walk out the front door.
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/22 01:51 AM
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Right. I say "I was once married and that changed. Let's get Tacos."
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/22 05:35 PM
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My EX said she had been unhappy for 13 years. Our Son was 12 at that time. My mind flashed back to every good time, every "I love you" special moment, all the happy family events and the worst was every time we held hands. Talk about a punch to the gut. To this day I think she turned into someone else overnight that is no longer the woman I loved.
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/22 05:32 PM
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Yes and no. It becomes the new normal. I have good days and bad days. I still have dreams about my EX 8 years after the divorce and I have a girlfriend. 22 years wasted. I love my kids.y daughter is a spitting image of her Mother and it sucks when those memories seek back into my head. I have managed to clean my home and keep it clean. Mt home office gets messy on e a month and. Then I purge it of trash and coffee mugs, it makes me feel better. I hire a maid a few times a year to deep clean the …
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/22 06:12 PM
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Mine failed to show a ROI. It now resides with my EX, unemployed and bewildered at the lack of new investments.
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/22 08:58 PM
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I hate seeing families fall apart. I wish you the best with the transition.
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/22 03:56 PM
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I want to puke. When my EX wife left the house she moved in with my EX Mother in law's boyfriend because it was the only way she could pay the rent on the house. He has moved out but she used him as that provider they need. Barf.
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/22 05:52 PM
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WOW, this played out almost word for word how my marriage was and then finally ended. What is it with women that are married to a loving husband that make them run away like this? Guys should we all just treat them like trash and ignore them to get them to stay interested? It is like they are addicted to the romantic chase and once caught they squirm to get away.
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/22 05:02 AM
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It was the small things she did for me. Scratch my back, make use dinner, and fall asleep with her head on my lap as I ran my fingers through her hair.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/22 05:55 PM
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I have let go. I still love who my wife was. What I have done is come to the realization that she is no longer that same person. I have realized that people change and this time it wasn't in my favor. I have been divorced 8 years and just recently exchanged text messages with her. Why? Because it's time to move on. I can let those greatest hits hold a place in my heart and not be rude to her as the person that is the mother of my children. I a working on a new relationship with a woman that want…
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/22 06:43 AM
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Get this, my EX tells her shrink was going to put her a medication for BPD. I asked if her wanted a divorce was due to the BPD and she said "I don't have BPD." Ok Babe. 👍
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/22 04:04 PM
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Great Movie! 👍
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/22 06:08 PM
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It's been 8byears for me and only after hearing that my EX had surgery did I make the effort to see if she was Ok. Before it was no contact. I only sent her a text. She isn't going to die. My kids are ok. She does want to try an normalize me coming to visit them at here house. I am still not ready for that.
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/22 05:24 PM
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I agree with this at the 1000% level.
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/22 03:26 PM
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It is always a nice thought but how many of these situations get resolved where there is a loving relationship again once the wife starts looking for new dick to ride.
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/22 03:20 PM
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I loved being married. I loved my wife and I love my kids. I thought I was a good Father to them. It was reinforced by them telling me they love me too. So it was a surprise when the EX said she wanted a separation. The worst part was the lie that she just didn't want to be married anymore. The therapist help me get through that. I would love to find a woman and remarry but the cold hard facts are screaming at me not to do it. I am in a relationship but without that next step I find myself not c…
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/22 03:53 AM
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But why does a woman have to get married? Oh yeah, she needs that live line to half a Man's net worth and future earnings. Fuck his feelings and the commitment.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/22 07:01 PM
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Forget about her for now. Prep for the divorce. No more spending. No big ticket items. The lawyers and she will drain you of all your cash. Sign up for a gym and go. Always go and talk to people. The co-dependent symptoms will fad away. Learn to cook, clean and be you again. Don't talk to friends and your sad feelings, get a therapist for that shit. It will take 3 to 5 years to feel normal and ready to date.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/22 06:53 PM
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I dated during the separation, right after the divorce, took a break to care for my dogs until they passed away. I am in a relationship now 8 years later and I don't feel what I felt before for my EX. It might never be the same for me.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/22 04:44 PM
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Owe Child support for 3 kids + alimony or only alimony. How do you want to live your next 10 years? In a basement or in 1 bedroom apartment?
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/22 10:30 PM
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If you need sex, get a girl on the side. Maybe a divorced lady that knows the deal. If she rats you out it is no big deal because you are unhappy enough to want to leave. The divorce is going to take you all the way back to square one financially. You might have a nice paycheck now but after the courts get done with you it will be living paycheck to paycheck. Or stick it out for 10 years until the kids are grown. Focus on them, be a super Dad for them. Show them how to be behave, work, study in …
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/22 04:25 PM
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She was blocked for a several years as I worked on my recovery. My kids told me she had surgery a few weeks ago. As much as I would like to pretend she didn't happen, I don't want to be that asshole and hold a grudge forever. It has been long enough. I needed to know if this was a life threatening thing and should I make plans to bring the kids to my home. She has recovered, the kids are fine. I told my girlfriend about the situation and she supports it. She too is happy that I am not an asshole…
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/22 02:50 AM
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Your marriage is shit. Who wants to save shit? Sell the house, divorce the woman and find an girlfriend. Don't get married again.
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/22 10:04 PM
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My EX divorced me. Yet in the process of the separation she brought me food. Not shitty food but food I like. It was just a fucking head game for her I guess. 8 years divorced and she starts texting me for advice about buying a Van and like an idiot I replied. Chicks do weird stuff, keep your guard up. Do what is best for you.
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/22 07:53 AM
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Sign up for a group event that you like. Make it a goal to introduce yourself to everyone there. If you don't find a friend there find another group or Hobbie. The goal is to get out there and fill the void she created with quality time. Not drunken depressed, pour me time. It is going to help the healing process start. You will need to forget about the EX. There is a new person in her place and it is not someone that wants you in their life.
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/22 04:29 PM
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I wish there was a person that could speak for you and your wife that wasn't a lawyer. More like a Family asset manager that could look at what is best for the families future in separate homes. Before lawyers got involved I was able to talk to my EX within reason. Once the lawyers came in the picture all bets were off. Try to present the value of the home now and what it might be in the future. Offer to pay her installments. Best of luck.
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/22 03:36 AM
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It's not going to work out. She screwed half a dozen guys by now and is looking to fuck more. Get a lawyer, Man up and move on. These are the cold hard facts.
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/22 07:39 PM
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I got the EX to agree to not selling until our Son graduated High School. The day after it was listed for sale. So you can work together on this. My new girlfriend did a refi on the her house to pay off her EX. Now she owns the home and her daughter gets to stay in the family home.
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/22 06:39 PM
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It us always about the grass. You are not a Cow. Talk with your wife. Tell her that you want to move and are inviting her to come. If she says "No" then there is your answer. Say something stupid like "YOLO" and pack your bags. Fuck what anyone else thinks, it is your life and it is all about your happiness, right? Now grab a pair and get to moving.
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/22 12:34 AM
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It has been 8 years. I have to deal with her because my Adult kids live in her house. She wants me to feel comfortable visiting them and staying as long as I want. I think I hate this concept. Come play family at her house but leave when it is time for her to be with another guy. It doesn't sit right with me. I don't think it ever will either. It's best that I only have memories when she was with me then this new situation that she wants. And what sucks is it make me feel like the Asshole. I hav…
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/22 04:56 PM
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Jodie lives to fuck over the service man.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/22 09:50 PM
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Welcome to the club!
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/22 09:42 PM
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15 she jumped on my dick. 20 I put a ring on it 23 my daughter was born 28 my son was born 41 she want a separation after my daughter left for college 42 she moved out and just took stuff, a week later came back for more. The divorce was settled after my son finished Highschool. I have been with a young girl, a older married poly girl (it is weird, don't do it), and a divorced woman a few years younger. She is great and might be the final GF. I would say the marriage/divorce cost me a million in…
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/22 09:41 PM
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I meet the girl I am seeing over a work phone call. She is 2 years divorced, allI did was listen to her, added my 2 cents and we fuck buddies now. It might grow into something serious too. We have a blast together. And get this she likes me for who I am. Unfucking believable.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/22 04:47 PM
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And do alot of it. Your body will do the rest.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/22 04:42 PM
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Your feeling are real. Keep talking about them to your therapist. Maybe this will help. Your time with her is over. You will find someone new and you get to start a new fantastic relationship. You might not want that but it is the reality here. Lay out the facts, black and white. No gray areas and process them. No Hollywood love story endings here. This shit happens, it is part of life just like getting the oil changed in your engine. Remember that food tastes good, sports are fun to watch and t…
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/22 02:19 AM
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True, I am involved with a woman now. I was upfront with her and she is still willing to see what happens. Best of luck to you too. 👍
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/22 04:33 PM
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YOU REMARRIED!!! Guys, this Dude went a got remarried and thinks it is going to work out a 2nd time. What a risk taker. Best of luck. Let us know when she files for divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/22 12:51 AM
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Could be, we got married young. Did the stuff society told us to do. It was when I gave up trying to make it work that things changed. A married man can only be rejected in bed so many times before things change. We became more roommates with kids so she made the call. She asked for nothing and left. Down the road the lawyers divided everything up. Now life goes on. I will not remarry.
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/22 01:18 AM
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She had processed the separation and divorce as most women do. She told me that I would adapt to our new modern family. I don't see that happening but enough time has passed that I am willing to be civil. I know I will have events with the kids and I don't want to be that asshole Ex. The 1st question was about a loan. We are on question 4 now about what type of Sprinter Van she should get for her two dogs. It is strange that she would ask me for advice after taking me to court not to have to tal…
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/22 11:12 PM
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It's been 8 years from the point she wanted a separation. My kids are adults now. They still live at home so in order to see them they have to visit me 68 miles away or I go see them at her house. I swallowed the bitter pill each time I go to take them out for dinner or whatever. Then out of the blue my EX sent me a random question about something. I unblocked her a few years ago when I moved and forgot all about it. I replied with my best answer and you know what, that woman still has a place i…
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/22 10:18 PM
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No it is not worth the pains of a divorce. Just be boyfriend/girlfriend until she doesn't want you any more. Then the break up is easy. She takes what she purchased and you change the locks. The next time she enters your house give a clear warning before pulling the trigger.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/22 10:01 PM
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HALF EDDIE! HALF! AND SHE WILL GET IT!
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/22 07:01 PM
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Those are your emotions speaking. They need to take a backdoor to your situation right now.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/22 04:54 PM
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Dude, I know you because I am you. PM me if you want some support from a guy that worked to the very end to save a broken marriage. Understand that she is not the same person anymore that you are still in love with. That doesn't mean she is a "Cunt" but she is not putting you or the needs of the family first. It's been divorced years, I feel like my recovery is on track.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/22 04:53 PM
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Dude talk about winning the divorce lottery as a Man. You get Alimony, child support, the kids, 50% of the house if not the House altogether because the kids need a stable space to live and grow up. Wipe away the tears and cry later. Right now WAR has been declared. Get a lawyer and unleash that Hell hound on her. You also get half of the retirement and half here Social Security pay when retirement comes. Do not remarry. Every pay raise she gets is more money in your pocket. I know you are an em…
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/22 04:21 PM
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SAME HERE. Also let this Battle Plan be a reminder to any Divorced man to not remarry. Because it will happen again and again. The Bitches say until death do we part all the time, then pull this shit. Hope her boyfriend fucks her over.
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/22 07:00 PM
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If your not happy, it happens. You might be worse off after the divorce. You might make life so miserable for her she could leave you. Just letting you know that you are going to get fucked either way.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/22 09:44 PM
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You will be fine. Pick up after yourself daily and once a week do an over all deep clean of your space. Alarms are easy with today's phones. Get a poster of a Hot chick to hang on a wall too.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/22 04:12 PM
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What if I catch over my limit? Can I prepay for another tag?
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/22 02:39 PM
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Joking aside, women really are crazy. There is a reason the joke is to slap a woman back into reality when she is off her rocker.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/22 02:37 PM
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Print it and hang this on your wall.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/22 02:34 PM
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I can't imagine ever getting married again. The stress from wondering when will she divorce me is enough to stop me from getting on one knee again. I will commit to being a steady boyfriend but nothing more. Woman are not to be trusted when it comes to "Happy ever after".
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/22 02:33 PM
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Move out and take everything. Put it in storage, sell it. Let her live in an empty house.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/22 09:29 PM
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He is right. I was in your place. Ready to leave but I did family therapy thing. Guess what happened, she left because I didn't look at fixing myself first. I was focused on what she was or wasn't doing. It has been 8 years. I went though a cycle of emotions, got sick, lost my job, had a girlfriend, lost the girlfriend and I am still working on myself. Focus on your happiness and you might see a change in her. Try it before you waste a ton of cash on a lawyer. As for the kids. Well if she wants …
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/22 04:19 AM
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I will never remarry. I will never promote marriage to my kids. It's a fucking scam from day one she starts talking to you.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/22 02:00 PM
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My EX took the cats. I kept the dogs. They passed last year. They were great Labs. Max and Shelby. Lived 14 years.
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/22 09:33 PM
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I was forced to sell after she just left on weekend. There was not talk a out what to do with the house. I was on unemployment at the time with my old job agreeing to rehire me in a few months. Once I got my job back, I rented out the extra rooms to make ends meet. Then the divorce papers came. I think she waited for me to have a job again so she wouldn't have to pay alimony to me. I am in a better place now. Left the town and own a home with a mortgage again. Bit is miss that old house. It was …
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/22 09:30 PM
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My lawyer said you don't lose equity in the family home until there is an official separation paperwork signed. I am in California. I had to give my EX half of everything. It sounds like you two need 60 or 90ndays apart with shared custody. Once she has cooled off the talk a out the marriage. More then likely it is over. Time to move on. Join a support group. It is ok, happily ever after is a Disneyland fairytale. Take te to heal yourself before starting a new relationship. Make sure all the old…
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/22 02:55 PM
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Worst case would be child support. I am getting a vasectomy soon. I already had my 2 kids.
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/22 07:06 PM
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Well is looks like you can deal with her being around you. Is there room in the backyard to make a 1 or 2 bedroom apartment for someone to live in? I tried the co habitation with the EX and it was horrible. I did it for my Son when I should have done what was right for me. Best of luck on the divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/22 02:12 PM
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No, that Soulmate shit is romantic mumbo-jumbo. I do think you can find someone that checks most of your boxes but not all of them. Then you have to compromise a little and that is ok. As for marriage part 2, nope not going to happen. I am currently dating a girl that knows this and is ok with it.
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/22 06:25 AM
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Take a moment and step outside yourself. Remove the emotional damage you are experiencing. Try to get her to argee to a simple divorce at city hall. I doubt there is a ton of money to split up. Make a 50/50 split of you can. No lawyers if possible. Don't try to save the relationship. She has processed all of her emotions and moved on already. I am sorry this happened.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/22 01:06 AM
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Bet her half on black.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/22 12:28 AM
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Right, I am going to put this back in the box. I must be out of mind and only remembering the good times. Get back to focusing on myself.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/22 04:08 PM
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The good thing is the kids are adults. The bad thing is she let's them live with her. This has created a wall where I can't visit them. They do come see me on the special holidays and sometimes just out of the blue. My kids are good people. I moved out if town so I wouldn't run into her. I was also able to buy a house. BTW, VA loans rock. Yet I still can't get this chick to move out of my head. I have a garage project I will go work on and see where I am at in a few weeks.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/22 04:03 PM
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Got it.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/22 03:35 PM
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Pain is easily forgotten. "Nuking the family" what a great way to put it. 👏
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/22 03:34 PM
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Her Mother is a great person. She is a wonderful Grandmother to the kids. There is no ill will between her and I.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/22 03:31 PM
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Nah but there might be a few like that. Golddiggers. It really is a gamble to see what you get. It is rare that you hear about men doing this to a woman.
/r/seduction19/09/20 10:04 PM
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Correct, they just want pics for their insta, the security at night, your wallet and free stuff.
/r/seduction19/09/20 09:50 PM
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You take her out on date after date after date and not once has she invited you in or asked to come over to your place. Your are just a meal ticket.
/r/seduction19/09/20 09:48 PM
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And don't get married. Marriage is a legal contract designed to punish men when the contract is nullified.
/r/seduction19/09/20 09:46 PM
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Or have a kid.
/r/seduction19/09/20 09:41 PM
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Pam, is that you?
/r/seduction19/09/20 09:39 PM
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I am in the same place. A friend told me to be happy that you shared the that part of your life with her. She will always be part of you. She will always hold a place in your heart. Now it is time for you and I to start a new chapter of our lives. We don't have to forget but the choice has been made for us. Staying busy helps with the stress and loss. Be social and don't isolate yourself. When the time is right you will be able to move on with someone else that wants to be with you. God Bless yo…
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/16 06:19 AM
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I received this news from my best friend and mother of my children by text message. Do not do it that way. I would like to ask a personal question, how do you know you are no longer in love? Is there someone else or hasomething the love just faded away?
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/16 06:11 AM
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So what is the buy out? Example: mortgage balance is 500,000 and comps in the area are 750,000. She would have to refi the house on her own for 750,000 and pay me 125,000 to leave if she wants to keep the house. Am I correct?
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/16 09:00 PM
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Ninth, DO NOT DATE OTHER PEOPLE. Don't party. Don't go out. See lawyer for advice. WHY NOT? CA is a no fault state. It doesn't matter if you date in court, does it?
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/16 11:50 PM
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