Losing it

Ok-Cause1108 · 2024-05-05T14:47:40+00:00

You are afraid to be alone becuase you have no purpose in your life. A man needs a purpose or he is going to get depressed or will look to a partner to fill themselves up - both very bad scenarios and it won't end well.

Sounds like you are not really working out. At your age mate go get on trt and start grinding in the gym 5-6 days per week. After 2 years or so when you have maxed out your trt gains start adding in other compounds on top of the test. This journey will give you a purpose and make the rest of life seem very easy (I don't care how shitty of a day you had if it is not legs day it is always a great fucking day).

For the love of mike stay off dating apps. You can't tell me everytime you go to the grocery store you don't see at least 2-3 woman with no rings in the aisles that you would like to get to know better? Build a nice physique and getting a first date with them is easy.

Business-Hope-5414 · 2024-05-05T05:04:58+00:00

This is honestly an insecurity issue… don’t take offense to it… I know how you feel… however… be confident and love yourself… sounds selfish but to be honest… your wife is probably checking out jacked dudes at the gym and sees you as a beta…. Fuck them… be comfortable with how you are… and be grateful that you didn’t have children… I’m battling custody… I wanted to be fair and get shared custody but my STBX is doing everything to get sole custody… haven’t seen my boy in almost two months and it breaks my heart…. Also remember that there are plenty of respectful and honest women out there. Love finds you when you least expect it. Hope this helps

No_Animator_6015 · 2024-05-04T11:14:53+00:00

Sounds very similar to how most of us come out of relationships (we think so highly about them, that they are the best and we will never find another). Trust me you will. The first thing you need to do is really find out who you are, your goals is not about finding someone else, it really should be about appreciating who you are by yourself first.

I’m going on to a year soon after a very ugly break of 10 years (she was beautiful, popular blah blah speech bs speech). I have gone on a few dates (made a few mistakes) but I’m finally feeling comfortable again and most my energy goes into my work and making my overall health better. (It attracts the right people to you).

letsbehavingu · 2024-05-04T08:41:27+00:00

Check out the married red pill sub

Theedon · 2024-05-04T05:10:25+00:00

Um, fuck the cunt because that is what they are. Women that divorce a good man are trash humans and need mental help. Now go find a woman with kids over 16 years old so it can be just you and her.

karavan7 · 2024-05-04T02:49:01+00:00

Stay strong. The best is in front of you. One way to kill a relationship is to assume that it's forever.

alifeofpeace · 2024-05-03T22:33:37+00:00

Time to get strong. Go to church. Read the bible and pray. Read stoicism. Build your ego. Reject her for rejecting you! Learn from your mistakes and become a better man Turn away from women for the next 12 months. Erase them from your mind. You will become more hard than a stone

NewDay0110 · 2024-05-03T21:07:11+00:00

Some guys with kids and assets here get completely obliterated in divorce court. Consider yourself lucky if the heartbreak of the relationship is the worst part of it because it's much better than living in squalor and endlessly toiling in a miserable job, only to give away all your earnings in alimony.

WittyBeautiful7654 · 2024-05-03T19:38:28+00:00

Get out and get some fresh air . Meet some people don't focus on women too much. Hit the gym it helps . Don't worry about her anymore. She's not the person you loved and you're not the person who loved her. It's gonna hurt for while LET IT. I'm three months out and it still hurts. You're gonna be ok man. Fix yourself best ya can

whoisgodiam · 2024-05-03T18:25:15+00:00

Dude, the world is your oyster. Now get yourself a rotation and never marry again.

Plenty-Entertainer71 · 2024-05-03T16:00:48+00:00

If Joe Flacco can come back so can you. Exercise, eat well, dress better, be positive and work on confidence. Don’t be in a rush. Living alone has its perks by the way.

RichardCleveland · 2024-05-03T15:18:15+00:00

Ya it's very common for men to "let themselves go" during a marriage. Partly due to being somewhat socially acceptable. So walking out of this don't be so hard on yourself for the lack of fitness. It's fixable of course, and you should probably concentrate on that asap. There is no better way to get a self esteem boost either.

Also... stay the hell away from the online dating apps. It's a nightmare for those with social anxiety and low self esteem. It's going to make you feel like a failure after you get ghosted, or simply ignored by hundreds. Which is completely normal for everyone.

My advice... start eating healthier and try to get some activity in. Walking, biking, simple things. You don't need to go "hit the gym", not at this point at least. Also don't go looking for a new partner.. just go do new things, pick up hobbies and try to enjoy life.

Fun fact about hobbies... you can find local groups and hangout with people who share the same passions. No better way to make new friends and find new matches when you share something like that already.

Stay strong friend!

Title	Losing it
Author	Flaco_2
Upvotes	11
Comments	28
Date	May 3, 2024 2:52 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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