I need help navigating this whole process of getting a divorce.

I'm unhappy my marriage and sought the attention of another woman which I disclose to my wife hoping that we could mend our relationship.

it's been atrocious fights causing collateral damage with the exposure to our children who are witnessing us battle our wits and my wife throwing my personal belongings around the home slapping me throwing items at me cornering me and vulnerable positions like showering and tearing down the shower rod and curtain.

ever since I broke the news to her it's been a hellish experience every night into the wee hours and I can barely function to get up for work let alone work long days to come home and repeat the same dysfunction.

to add to this, her family just hates me. they always have. they just don't understand me and some of them are making claims that I am sexually abusing my daughter which is completely unfounded and false.

thankfully though my wife also agrees that these are dumb claims however this is a situation I'm dealing with on all sides at the moment.

as of now she has my kids and dog (which she doesn't even like) and I do not know where they are.

I stayed with my dad and some friends as last night was pretty volatile and I was truly afraid of my safety and also I do not wish to repeat this pattern of behavior in front of my children anymore.

I feel like she's punishing me now by taking the kids without my knowledge or permission and the dog.

I finally spoke to one of her relatives to vent but to no avail as they all just want me out of the house and suggest I stay in a hotel or with friends but I know my rights and I'm not losing equity in my home or rights to my children.

please help me navigate the situation I do not want to be bitter nor petty. I just want Justice and fairness during this dreadful time. thanks

-Mike