So this girl who was my long time close friend and i were hooking up. Last night she started sobbing when we were making out and said she cant do this...

Glennus626 · 2018-06-14T03:51:26+00:00

She was crying because she realized she was losing an emotional tampon. Why would she cry? Because she convinced herself that you were not a sexual threat, and now she was obliged to entertain some moves from you, but her mind rebelled because you're beta orbiter to her. She threw the comfort tests at you to test your frame and setup anti slut defense. When you bailed. She realized that you realized she wasn't worth your time.

ECoast_Man · 2018-06-14T01:21:33+00:00

Possibly there was a way around this (given she wanted some comfort, and then proceeded to text you), but erring on the side of caution I think bailing from the crazy chick was certainly not a terrible move. Honestly, I would have also bailed rather than try and deal with that mess.

Terminal-Psychosis · 2018-06-14T07:14:50+00:00

She's trying to get you to commit. Testing if you're hooked on that yet.

Gonna have to disappoint her.

Musicgoon · 2018-06-14T07:54:05+00:00

Bro two things;

She might be batshit crazy. Any chick that crys when getting sexual usually has some sort of trauma.

Or

She wants to friend zone you. That's bullshit!

Next that stupid hoe and find one or two plates to take her place.

walawalawa · 2018-06-14T12:24:40+00:00

This happened to me within a year of me discovering game.

I had a "friend" who I used to hang out with whenever I visited her city on business. She was quite attractive.

One weekend she came to visit with her friend. I gamed her, then I banged her.

After that she started flipping out. But I understood what was happening and I understood the male/female sexual dynamic---something my pre Red Pill self was too nervous about exploring.

That was 8 years ago. I see her once a year and we bang.

You took her sobbing seriously instead of just shrugging it off. Girls get emotional. She wants to see that she didn't make a mistake.

You did nothing wrong. Next thing is to leave it. She'll contact you.

Treat her like nothing happened before. Set up a meet up. Bang her.

johnnight · 2018-06-14T09:02:41+00:00

https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=last%20minute%20resistance

It's a cloud of worry and conflicting emotions.

cl3537 · 2018-06-14T17:51:05+00:00

"scared I was using her for sex"

Classic ploy of 'close friend' when you decide you want to bang her after being a beta bitch for so long. You didn't value the friendship clearly so you should have made a move sooner.

Don't take that seriously, smile at her and say "Of course I am I want you every time I see you now."

"Scared she isn't good at sex"

Just ignore and keep going.

You already decided in your mind sex with her or next you should have said 'we will be fine' and ignored her shit tests.

You will have to pass many shit tests from a girl when you have acted like a beta for so long. Crying is a massive shit test, girls can turn that on or off on demand.

Now you need to soft next her for a few days. Then contact her and invite her over to your house for dinner or 'netflix and chill'. Don't dwell on the past, if she says 'no hooking up' just ignore it or say 'ok friend with a wink' and then proceed to escalate as normal.

You will turn her into a plate or it will be a hard next.

justicecantakeanap · 2018-06-14T09:24:06+00:00

Bail out

Mrganack · 2018-06-14T12:09:49+00:00

What happenned is called Last Minute Resistance (LMR).

Let me quote the Mystery Method on the subject :

OVERCOMING LAST-MINUTE RESISTANCE

Your romantic interest may not feel qualified enough for you. She

may believe that if she gives it up too easily, you will simply move on

afterward. This is why it's so important in A3 that she feels her efforts

are succeeding and that she is winning you over. If this is missing, girls

will freak out just prior to sex and say, "Why me? Why do you like

me?" or, "I don't even know you...." If you say, "Baby, I just can't stop

thinking about you," this would inoculate against her LMR, but only if

it were said hours earlier in C2. Say that while in bed with her and you

could be lying to get her to submit to you. Instead, repeatedly convey

to her throughout the three comfort phases mat your brain has been

highjacked, that you can't help but dunk of her constantly, and that the

feeling is growing stronger and stronger. Don't creep her out and stalk

her. Just tell her she is on your mind more often than you thought pos-

sible and it concerns you a bit.

"We Should Stop ..."

The primary technique in the LMR arsenal is token resistance, usu-

ally verbal in nature while the physical simultaneously continues to esca-

late. She may say, "Baby, we should slow this down." What is the

purpose of this?

The ideal scenario involves growing sexual tension that, at some

point, triggers a loss of all control (and therefore accountability). She

cannot help but be ravenously taken. It's not her fault. A force over-

took her utterly beyond her control: the force of nature. Token resis-

tance is necessary to make that feeling real. If you don't resist, she will.

Notice that if she gives token resistance, the best response is to just

agree with her and even echo it. If you disagree, you are only giving

her something to push against. Don't give her traction by way of dis-

agreement.

If you're undressing her and she says, "We should stop," just agree

with her... and then keep going. "I know, baby," you reply as you con-

tinue to undress her. "We should stop."

PLAY SOLID GAME

Her emotional circuitry is designed to select for a high-value man

whom she trusts and with whom she pair-bonds. If your game is tight,

last-minute resistance will be greatly reduced as an issue. So examine

your basic game:

• Are you a healthy, ambitious, socially comfortable person?

• Do you convey a lack of neediness at all times?

• Have you otherwise demonstrated value via preselection, the

leader-of-men switch (social intelligence and social proof),

emotional stimulation, frame control, and so on?

• Has she chased and otherwise invested in the interaction?

• Have you been compliance testing? Do you have kino escala-

tion and compliance?

• Does she feel that she has earned your interest? (Have you

demonstrated your "growing pair bond" for her, using quali-

fiers and other IOIs?)

• Have you built comfort and trust, and a sense of connection,

over seven hours and several venue changes? Did you use the

jealousy plotline so she is sure she wants you?

FREEZE-OUTS

If last-minute resistance seems insurmountable, do a freeze-out:

Turn on the light, snuff out the candle, check your e-mail, head to the

kitchen to make a sandwich, or pull out a checkerboard and challenge

her to a game. The power of this is in its sincere delivery. If you were

sulking or angry, that would show that you were affected. Just act as if

your arousal circuitry has simply been shut off. She will feel the sense

of loss and will allow herself to raise her LMR threshold level.

MattyAnon · 2018-06-14T13:33:36+00:00

Than she started sobbing and i asked why and she said she was scared i was using her for sex and that our friendship was ruined and how she would never want me not in her life as a friend.

Urgh, the classic "just using me for sex" shit test designed to get more commitment from you.

I guess I gotta break that thought pattern

YES

RivenHalf · 2018-06-15T02:13:18+00:00

I agree with Glennus but to add to that, I almost feel like it was a weird combination of LMR (even though you had hooked up before they can still fall back on this)/Comfort test/ and a shit test.

Leaving was the only thing you could have and should have done here honestly.

Zanford · 2018-06-14T01:39:25+00:00

Comfort game

niczar · 2018-06-14T10:53:55+00:00

Comforting her is not the right response, just be a rock and show her that you don't care about her fears, which implies that they're baseless. That will actually comfort her, while trying to argue against them will actually reinforce them.

she was scared i was using her for sex

"I'm not. Now stop being silly and come over here."

OmniscientOCE · 2018-06-14T09:27:55+00:00

you're gonna 'next' a long time close friend? I'm not sure how much of a friend she was if you're just gonna throw her away after this

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