Married father's horror after his wife gives newborn child away for adoption WITHOUT telling him... and now he's fighting to get her back

meshiach · 2012-12-04T15:21:10+00:00

I feel really bad for the adoptive family, who probably has gotten really attached to the baby and sees it as their own by now...

But the man has a right to his kid. I think the mother should be punished for the unnecessary grief she's putting both the father and the adoptive family through.

DougDante · 2012-12-04T12:34:30+00:00

related Secret Recording: Utah Adoption Agencies Cutting Fathers Out of Process, Offering Cash to Mothers

rogersmith25 · 2012-12-04T15:45:48+00:00

A Utah judge has now given the baby's new family 60 days to return the girl, but they say they'll fight his decision.

Well at least the law is on his side for now.

Just curious about the timeline here. How have the adoptive parents been caring for the daughter for a year? Had this legal battle been going on for months before it came to light in the article? Did the father only find out about the adoption recently?

Also, I don't blame the adoptive parents for wanting to keep the girl, however cruel that act may seem. They have been caring for her as their own child for over a year. Adoptive parents form a bond with their child the same way that biological parents do.

There is no question that the girl should end up with the biological father, but my heart goes out to the adoptive parents who are also victims in this situation. They had no idea that they were "stealing" the child when they adopted her and raised her as their own.

blueoak9 · 2012-12-04T14:52:45+00:00

This is ridiculous! How do a married couple give away their child for adoption?

Give that man back his child. I don't care that this Frei woman has "taken care of" HIS child for a year. That baby belongs with her father.

tecun_uman · 2012-12-04T19:14:39+00:00

My brother actually works at this court and had a hand in this decision.

My situation allows me to see a few sides to this. It's a little ridiculous that so many people are reacting to this situation, (whether correctly or incorrectly), based on emotion.

The law is on the father's side.

2012-12-04T16:20:08+00:00

That is where I would draw the line.

5th_Law_of_Robotics · 2012-12-04T16:38:53+00:00

That's absurd.

I get leaving the ultimate decision to reproduce up to the woman as it's her body. Sure, that makes sense.

But once the kid is out the father should have some rights. He can't simply have obligations.

So . . . abortion = 100% woman's choice. Adoption = 50/50 for both parents.

Crimson_D82 · 2012-12-04T14:05:33+00:00

People like need to be punished in a cruel and public manner.

Syujinkou · 2012-12-04T22:05:55+00:00

Call me cynical, but I think the father should have a paternity test done before pursuing this further.

2012-12-04T18:41:57+00:00

This is sickening. It sucks that it takes too long too figure this out, because there's a huge complication now, since the child has already spent a year being nurtured by the couple.

Parenting instincts are very strong sometimes, and it's difficult to imagine that there won't be much pain regardless of the outcome. I hope that both the couple and the biological father get to at least visit the child, and that they somehow manage to get along.

The mother, really fucked things up. =|

blueoak9 · 2012-12-04T19:16:33+00:00

What a fucked up mess. And look - it's Utah again. Utah has a bad reputation when it comes to these baby-stealing adoptions. Fathers and Families has article after article on Utah and adoptions of just this very sketchy kind.

chavelah · 2012-12-04T20:58:02+00:00

This case is NUTS. This link provides the additional information that the adopting couple KNEW that there was a husband in the picture, and KNEW that he was opposed to the adoption, and accepted the placement anyway. WTF is wrong with some people?

http://m.sltrib.com/sltrib/mobile2/55373764-218/achane-adoption-bland-child.html.csp

actanonverba8 · 2012-12-04T23:30:53+00:00

Sick. Give the child to the father immediately. Put the mother and whoever else acted like a POS in prison. After the mother gets out of prison, make her pay child support and deny her any custody.

Jazzeki · 2012-12-04T16:11:48+00:00

now this might be slightly harsh but i belive the child should be returned to the farther and the mom should be forced to give birth to a new baby that should be given to the adoptive family wether she wants to or not.

she promised the adoptive family a child she should be forced to give them one. her womb belongs to them until she delivers.

edit: honestly i have no idea what i was on when i wrote this. i will still stand by the fact that i belive the so called mom deserve no sympathy at all and that jail is not even close enough to a punishment and that she does not deserve the right to her own body anymore.

but beyond what i might be willing to stand by... damn this comment was stupid.

Title	Married father's horror after his wife gives newborn child away for adoption WITHOUT telling him... and now he's fighting to get her back
Author	YuriJackoffski
Upvotes	100
Comments	37
Date	December 4, 2012 9:30 AM UTC (13 years ago)
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