Girl here. Drunk and waiting for a hot pocket to cook. Still I have a few questions. Not trying to be a jerk, sincerely curious about your guys' perspectives.

Clearly men have more rights than women, maybe you guys don't think so, I don't know... (Although I think there are obviously double standards, different ones for both men and women. Women are called sluts when they sleep around and people always act like all men are potential rapists, etc.) Anywho, I get the feeling mens rights advocates (talking about in general here, not specifically this subreddit, as I haven't extensively read it) blame their problems on women. I see this as silly. Women aren't actively working against men's rights, they're fucking oppressed as it is! I think when men's rights are impeded upon, it is due to the same system that gets in the way of women's rights. For example, courts overwhelmingly favor mothers when determining who kids will live with during custody/divorce cases without regard to how good a father the husband is. I don't think this is fair, but I also don't think it's the fault of women. The same social system that says women are caring, feminine, and good nuturers also paints men as uncaring, lacking emotionally, and not responsible for they're children's development. Who do you think the judge is going to assign custody of the children to with this model of thinking?! I think men and women are both oppressed by the same system, what do you guys think? Agree or no?

Edit: Okay, nobody seemed to respond to my most pertinent question, so I bolded it. Like I said, I think men and women are screwed over by the same system, but in different ways. Men are supposed to be masculine as possible and dominant in order to gain access to power in society. Part of this script involves creating a story about how males are 'invincible', when in reality they are not. That's when you start to see men being ignored as a group in healthcare because they don't "need" it. On the other hand, as a society we have this preoccupation with taking care of women because we see them as 'weak' and in need of healthcare. I also tried to make a point earlier about the child custody. Women are viewed as caretakers, men aren't. It's only logical for someone who holds such a belief system to give custody to women (not saying it's fair). Also, someone mentioned higher arrests and whatnot for men. Again, women are viewed as weak and non-threatening. Men are viewed as the violent and powerful ones, as persons who actually are threatening and need to be put in jail. Basically, what I'm trying to point out with the above examples is that I think the disparity in treatment we see between men and women all stems from our current beliefs about the "natural" behaviors of men and women. I also think all of that so-called difference is pretty much utter bullshit. Men need healthcare just as much as women, men can be just as good of parents, women should be punished just as equally as their male-counterparts for committing the same crime, and so on. The thing that you guys seem to be missing the point of is that women aren't doing this to men, men are doing it to themselves. The president is a male. Congress is mostly male. Police officers are mostly male. Court Judges are mostly male. Most positions of power in our society are overwhelmingly held by men. Why then, are men still being denied their rights? It's because these same men are 'trying' to maintain male dominated power structures that rely on men being treated in such ways. (I don't mean consciously trying, it is just the way things are, and women are also guilty of enforcing the same systems when able to do so.)

To the person who questions that women actually have less rights then men--you've got to be kidding me. Would you also maintain that racism is a thing of the past? While women are quite equal to men in a legal sense, that is about as equal as it gets. I think I phrased it poorly using the word "rights," but women do not have near as much access to power as men. Men dominate positions of power in our society, and it is not because they actually deserve to be there more than women. Women get paid less than men for the doing the same jobs with the exact same qualifications. Somehow, women's work is inherently worth less then men's work. I could provide other examples, but there is no point, I am not trying to prove which sex has it worse in society. Men and women need to work together to fix a social system that has oppressed both in different ways. But really, can't anyone here see the fucking contradiction in men's lack of rights and males occupying positions of power that also cause these lack of rights?!

Sorry. I am tired and want to go to bed, but I appreciate the replies. I hope I didn't come off as too judgey, but it really worries me when I hear people blaming feminism or women for men's lack of rights. That's bullshit. Feminism will increase rights for both men and women, any other interpretation is simply inaccurate.