Men make more, women decide how to spend it. Women make around 80 per cent of the decisions around spending.

fondueguy · 2012-05-11T13:34:53+00:00

This is why you see the dominance in media of anti-male sexism, pro-woman propaganda, "dumb dad" advertising, and the endless escalation of bullshit consumerism to purchase utterly useless products.

hells_cowbells · 2012-05-11T14:49:21+00:00

I've never understood men who just hand over control of their money to SOs. Maybe it's because I've been single longer than a lot of friends, or maybe I'm just a control freak, but I would never hand over control of my money to someone else. I have several married friends who make jokes about getting an "allowance" every week from their wives. I just want to scream "What, are you 6 years old or something?"

Personally, I believe having one party control the finances in a relationship is just setting up for disaster.

Demonspawn · 2012-05-11T13:15:07+00:00

Do men make more when alimony, child support and the fact that women that are cohabiting with men typically control most of their combined wage are accounted for?

I'd love to see the figure on that.

InfinitelyThirsting · 2012-05-11T17:21:16+00:00

in 82 per cent of Canadian households, women are either the primary decision-maker or have equal responsibility for financial decisions.

So what does this mean? How many are actually the primary decision makers, and how many are splitting it equally?

FreddyDeus · 2012-05-11T15:45:48+00:00

This isn't a surprise. But it's always fun pointing this out in a room full of women if you want to see mock moral outrage at its finest.

adomorn · 2012-05-11T15:50:28+00:00

Not in my household. We make the decisions fifty fifty. If anything, I tend to be more stubborn than I should be. If you're being railroaded by your SO, it's your own fault.

td9red · 2012-05-11T21:39:43+00:00

I think the way they say that "women make around 80 per cent of the decisions around spending is deceptive. it sounds like the man is being oppressed. For instance my husband hates any kind of shopping other than if it involves BestBuy. As such, I do nearly all the shopping. I make the grocery list, cut the coupons, and do the shopping, a purchase all of my families clothing, even my husband's As such, technically I am making most of the spending decision simply b/c I am the one doing the shopping. So all and all I get to decide which brand of bread we buy. Yippy! My husband will only agree to come along if it is a major purchase or repair, or if he needs to try something on.

fondueguy · 2012-05-11T18:20:01+00:00

Now who do you think drove the dynamic of men working and women staying home (or working less)?

And to add to the title above, married men make more money than single men. This suggests that men aren't working their way up the latter out if pleasure or ego, but instead, to support families and women.

I don't think it was women who are the primary victims of the traditional dynamic...

gifforc · 2012-05-11T19:55:10+00:00

Not in my house.

DVS2020 · 2012-05-12T04:04:45+00:00

Not at my HOUSE!

2012-05-12T17:46:12+00:00

Article doesn't actually say what the money is spent on other than the family car. IMO, it would make sense if the man happens to be the main breadwinner and working, the woman would be the one to have the time go out and buy the groceries, clothing for kids, etc. In our case, my hubby usually sends me out to buy stuff he needs if he's to busy to do it himself. It would appear I have full reign over our money when I really don't.

But, that said, if women spend most of the money would that mean they are also the ones responsible for putting the family in debt?

CrawdaddyJoe · 2012-05-12T20:42:46+00:00

Well, yes, this is why there's so much advertising geared towards women (and young, bachelor men). Women still do the 'double shift' thing, doing most of the domestic roles, and that includes most of the shopping for basic necessities. For example, when I was young, my father worked at a paying job, my mother worked in the home, and the shopping was done by the domestic parent. Later in my life, after the divorce (long story- my mother was an abusive lady and my father engaged in infidelity), my father did the shopping because he was doing both his job and the domestic work in the house. I do my own spending on these things because I do the domestic work in my single household- if I want to continue making those spending decisions in marriage, I would have to volunteer to take up the shopping chores.

Note, before anyone jumps all over me, I'm not saying that this is the only source of female spending decisions- it's obviously not, and women spend on personal consumer items (including spending with money they make themselves, as most wives and the vast majority of single women work now) other than groceries and the like. But it's a part of it. So, if we want to make decisions about the grocery shopping, we need to do the grocery shopping.

2012-05-13T11:53:46+00:00

See, I choose where the money I bring in goes (rent, groceries, bills, etc.), whereas my SO decides where the money she brings in goes. We know when things are due, and depending on who and when one of us is paid the money is dispersed accordingly.

If I just got paid and I want to stop at Taco Bell or buy a video game, I do it. She does the same with her money. We also spend money on each other separately and together.

It's fair for anyone living together, no matter the circumstance.

2012-05-14T15:51:38+00:00

If my husband made more money (more important job/longer hours/more stress) you bet your ass I would take care of the finances. This seems more like common sense than anything.

stemgang · 2012-05-12T02:47:38+00:00

The money a man earns, a woman spends.

Another example of male privilege, I suppose?

He gets to spend his life's effort to earn the money that will buy her affection. Well, that is a paradigm I won't be sorry to see die.

AryoBarzan · 2012-05-12T09:55:29+00:00

I doubt this surprised anybody here.

Title	Men make more, women decide how to spend it. Women make around 80 per cent of the decisions around spending.
Author	TerriChris
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Comments	62
Date	May 11, 2012 1:05 PM UTC (14 years ago)
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