Couple told to pay child support after a surrogate they paid decides to keep the baby. If you're raging now, wait until you see the comments defending it.

chavelah · 2011-04-13T17:46:46+00:00

As one of the commenters on Jezebel pointed out, hitting this guy up for child support is like hitting up a sperm donor. In other word, shitty and unethical beyond belief.

solinv · 2011-04-13T19:22:36+00:00

She has every right to keep the baby. However, by keeping the baby she can't (reasonably) keep the $16,000 or request any money or support of any kind. If she wants to keep the baby she shouldn't be allowed to get child support from the couple and should be forced to return the money plus interest that was provided for the surrogacy.

nlakes · 2011-04-13T23:48:22+00:00

If this were any other legal case it would be ruled like this:

The surrogate had a contract which she accepted when she took the 16,000 pounds, she then had a liability to fulfill the terms of the contract, being the child for the couple. She is currently in violation of that contract, and should owe damages to the couple.

Furthermore, she's an amoral scum bag for trying to get child support.

To women and guys who think it's okay for surrogates to go backsies; next time someone takes your money for a service and doesn't deliver, remember your beliefs here and rationalise to yourself that the person who ripped you off is the real victim.

2011-04-13T20:35:34+00:00

The consistent argument coming up is that:

A) Women have the right to get themselves pregnant off of whomever they want - they're not ethically bound to remain on birth control, despite promising to do so, nor are they bound to give the child up for adoption, or have an abortion, if that's what they promised. This fraudulent behavior might be rude, but it's not culpable.

B) Bringing a child into this world is not an act with moral relevance; it's perfectly acceptable to have a child even if you can't raise it, you don't need to consider the child's well being when getting pregnant. It's no more morally relevant than choosing a flavour of gum.

C) Once brought into the world, the child has moral relevance. The mother can hold the child hostage to receive child support.

Celda · 2011-04-13T17:21:09+00:00

I want to punch GalaxyGlued in the uterus, then the face, then the uterus again. Such people do not deserve to, and should not, breed.

zyk0s · 2011-04-13T17:11:22+00:00

Summary: "It's too bad for the couple, but child support is not a punishment, it is for the good of the innocent child".

Notice how the "innocent child", when used by pro-life groups, is dismissed and their users are accused of "just wanting to control women".

zyk0s · 2011-04-13T19:26:40+00:00

How do you walk into this situation, as the couple, without adequate legal protection?

2011-04-13T20:36:55+00:00

Sue for fraud.

TheBadWolf · 2011-04-13T23:35:31+00:00

I just can't even justify giving Jezebel a click, they don't deserve it. They're just as bad as Feministing and Stormfront.

sharkus414 · 2011-04-13T21:51:40+00:00

Couldn't you take the situation and reverse it? The couple got the child from the surrogate, and then asked for child support because she is technically the mother? That would certainly bring to light the messed up nature of the current situation.

everhood13 · 2011-04-13T22:05:35+00:00

I don't see the majority of comments as defending this woman's actions. It seems to be one ignorant douche bag.

jon_k · 2011-04-14T03:47:11+00:00

This is why judges are put into office by election. Why the fuck would you elect a judge into office which would rule in surrogates favor?

Don't like it? VOTE FOR US. PLEASE.

2011-04-14T00:28:48+00:00

Warning it's a Jezebel link don't go, no need to give them any hits

GoatBased · 2011-04-14T01:56:58+00:00

This calls for a little murder-suicide.

Ma99ie · 2011-04-13T23:44:26+00:00

I think it's time we track down the Family Court judge that is making the defrauded parents pay child support.

Furthermore, was it his sperm? Then he is legally the parent as well, no?

2011-04-14T00:46:07+00:00

This hits to close to my current situation right now. I hope this lady gets her deserved treatment.

ThrustVectoring · 2011-04-14T02:37:41+00:00

Expect to see more court-sanctioned extortion of wealthy men by anyone who can get a hold of their sperm by any means.

Craysh · 2011-04-14T13:41:12+00:00

This is horrible. The sad thing is if the couple win in court and the woman is ordered to give the money back, she'll probably claim bankruptcy.

Marilolli · 2011-04-13T19:46:37+00:00

sounds typical of the UK

gprime · 2011-04-13T17:25:15+00:00

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Title	Couple told to pay child support after a surrogate they paid decides to keep the baby. If you're raging now, wait until you see the comments defending it.
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Date	April 13, 2011 4:01 PM UTC (15 years ago)
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