My EX’s phone called me.

Bella_Keira23 · 2021-09-17T17:30:32+00:00

So he’s been calling you all morning but when you answered he hung up on you? Yeah he’s playing games and unfortunately you’re doing everything he wanted you to do. Question things, confusion, thinking of him, peaking the interest if only wondering why he called. He probably wants you to call him back because he wants to talk to you, but also so he can tell his friends YOU called HIM

Just block and delete him on that app too and move on. Remember why you broke up and how strong you’ve been the last 3 years? Also do a mind sweep of everything you’ve learned from just this site. You said you don’t want to get with him ever again so just push it out of your mind and maybe add an extra hobby to your day. Go for a coffee with girlfriends (but don’t even mention him) or go for a walk/run, get your nails done or read a book. Then at the end of the day you’ll realize he could’ve hijacked your day but- nah sis. You won

letsberealforamoment · 2021-09-17T17:59:27+00:00

You just played into his pathetic game of "DOES SHE STILL WANT MUH DICKKK???""

By answering his call, you confirmed in his pathetic beta brain, that, YUP SHE STILL WANTS ME.

Even though you don't. But his stunted brain, that's how he takes it. So by answering, you just gave him some free validation cuz he probably doesn't have much FEEEMALLLLEEE action going on, and needs that hit of dopamine until the next Tinder victim answers his message.

That's why we block and delete to avoid participation in their pathetic little emotional games. Next time, sit down and THINK CAREFULLY about all the ways the next scrote can access you and cut it off after you break up.

Erocitnam · 2021-09-17T19:51:25+00:00

It sounds like part of the distress you're feeling is a fear of having to date this man again. Good news, you don't have to do that! You don't want to get with that guy ever again and, you will never have to. Knowing a fear is illogical doesn't always stop it from being there, but sometimes it helps. You're free! You don't need to deal with him anymore.

You don't need "proof" he's been calling you repeatedly. You witnessed it, that is proof. Are you worried about having to defend your perception of reality to someone who's arguing against you? Maybe he did that to you often. But you don't have to prove what you witnessed here. We believe you.

Are you in therapy for PTSD, have you tried EMDR? Aside from that, it might be helpful for you to sit down and write down all your fears (and any resentments) that this incident brought up. I've heard that can help get them out of your head, and also that writing (and reading too) engages a different part of the brain which makes it easier to process feelings of trauma.

InaneObservations · 2021-09-17T18:53:40+00:00

He called you all morning from a random number on a forgotten app, just to hang up on you? Let's temporarily set aside the triggering, and focus briefly on HOW FUCKING PATHETIC IS THAT!!

Like seriously, let's all sit and contemplate the galactic level of small dick energy he must be currently experiencing, of which the cure is to scam-call his ex over and over from an unknown number, so he can hang up on her. To properly measure the level of lameness, subtract his current age from his emotional age of 13.

Now let's channel the SDE, magnify it, and blast it back at OP's loser ex like a death ray, so that his own SDE will negatively affect the rest of his life tenfold from the disquieting moment he has caused OP. Let him get yelled at by his boss in front of his team. Let him get splashed by a bus driving through a gross mud puddle in front of a group of college women, who all laugh. Let his credit card get declined on a date with the one woman he'd really been trying to impress, who will subsequently never call him again.

I mean, for all we know, OP's loser ex is already experiencing these things, which is why he needed to create a phone number to spam his ex from 3 years ago. WHICH IS SUPER PATHETIC!!

OP, he's a sad person. Don't let him make you sad. Just think about how sad he is, and be glad you're not at his level.

warinmymind94 · 2021-09-17T18:59:26+00:00

Take this as a reminder - GO through your APPS, social media, contact lists and check for any other accounts /contacts that you need to block and delete. It shouldn't have to be said be on the lookout for him making new numbers or fake accounts trying go contact you again. Review your settings on social media and messaging so you can't have random people dm you.

Forgive yourself but acknowledge that YOU slipped and entertained him. That's on you. The fact he was calling you all morning and then you finally picked up was wrong even if you didn't know the number was him.

I personally don't accept calls when I don't know the number. I decline them. If they leave a voice-mail then I listen and see if its legitimate or a scam. Make a policy and rules for yourself to follow next time to prevent this.

Spittens · 2021-09-17T17:44:32+00:00

Change your number.

Once you do, set up Google voice numbers that you can abandon at any time and NEVER give out your real number.

I started doing this when I suddenly got a lot of bill collectors calling looking for my ex husband. The peace after is absolutely worth the hassle.

PossibleCook · 2021-09-17T17:37:53+00:00

Is it possible for you to change your number? I know that can be inconvenient but if you’re worried he’ll keep calling it’s something to do.

Technusgirl · 2021-09-17T18:53:03+00:00

Block him on WhatsApp. If he calls, keep the number, hang up immediately, don't talk to him at all, so you can block it. Don't respond to anything!

dkwantsdk · 2021-09-17T21:43:59+00:00

When I was trying to recover from narcissistic abuse, I read an amazing comment that narcissists not only want your direct attention, they also want to take up space inside your head.

You have nothing to feel regret for. Do not let his games waste your time. Block and immediately move on.

shedipity · 2021-09-17T22:09:33+00:00

Block block block. He’s such a creep!! I’m so sorry this is happening to you, I can sympathise with the shock and ptsd feelings you must have felt.

Title	My EX’s phone called me.
Author	Junior-Lion7893
Upvotes	97
Comments	18
Date	September 17, 2021 5:06 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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