Why would a woman have almost entirely male friends?

SecretFeminine · 2021-10-04T10:10:48+00:00

Here's the truth for me. Men are insanely easy to become friends with because some part of them doesn't care about being your friend. I've never had a male friend not catch feelings and I don't think it is because I am all that. Their little reptile brain lowered the friendship bar hoping for future success. Women vet you hard for friendship and it took me a lot of male friend turnover (I have no interest in friendship after the love confessions) to realize this was something I should be doing, too. After all, you become your friends.

Inside_Ad_7292 · 2021-10-04T23:50:53+00:00

I had a whole other thing typed out and posted, and I realized that I was kinda bullcrapping around the point... the reason I, personally, leaned towards male friendships in my younger years was plainly because finding tolerable women is so damned hard. Even now, when I am so desperate to find women that I want to be friends with and have given up friendships with men for all the same reasons as all the other commenters here... I can't find a woman that is tolerable to me. Maybe that makes me an asshole, but it's the truth. I know I'm not anything special, but trying to find a woman that's actually worth taking the time out of my insanely busy life to go get coffee with is ridiculously hard. And don't get me wrong, I'm all about female friends. Girly girls, tomboys, metal heads, Christian good girls, I think they're all great in their own ways. I think women are inherently great people. I'm proud of being a woman. But with the way things are these days, a lot of women have deluded themselves into thinking that they're The Shit and barely push themselves to mature beyond their high school years. I don't have time for the grade school gossip, drinking habits, slutty behavior, and holier than thou attitude. I just don't.

I think most women, deep down, understand that friendships with men are never really going to work out, but they do it anyways because it's so much easier. No woman is special for having a few masculine interests. Tons of women like guns, camping, hiking, metal music, etc. I think that common interests help, but I think it comes to down to the fact that men are much more willing to be nice to you because you're a woman and they want a woman. Especially one they have common interests with. Ultimately, it's a bad idea because it'll make your romantic life hard when you're surrounded by a bunch of thirsty guys, and the friendships will be forced to fizzle out one way or another.... but I get it. It's hard out there. I find myself jealous of my mom, who had dozens of close female friends all throughout her life. Idk why it's so different now, but it is. And it sucks.

ChrimsonChin988 · 2021-10-04T16:38:58+00:00

If you truly believe any of your male 'friends' are just friends, text them at 22:30 'I'm horny do you want to come over?' and see what happens.

Only naïve women and self-deceiving guys think men and women can be friends. (Besides being friendly in the office for 2 minutes per day, talk about nothing and make a few lame jokes)

It's hard to be friends with women (besides the fact they have a vagina) because many (not all) are not easy to be around/likable. I'm not being an ass because you know you can't stand most of your girlfriends at some level either. (Referred to as 'gossip/drama/backstabbing' by other commenters)

And if I take it one step further so all ladies here 'get' my point: Would it be acceptable to any of you if your man was taking some girl to movies/dinner/hanging out casually because they're 'friends'? Right. Self-deception.

Funny thing is if you were the girl being taken out you call the guy's wife jealous and ridicule them for being 'terrified' (like someone in the comments). Hilarious how it's acceptable from one angle but unacceptable from another.

saysshesnotabot · 2021-10-04T06:01:04+00:00

I’m extremely particular about the women I allow near me. I’ve had too many backstab me and cause jealousy and drama and it really hurts me when these things happen so my response was just keeping them at arms length and having more men friends were that’s never an issue. There are other issues but not that.

purple_pansy88 · 2021-10-04T11:53:41+00:00

I have Aspergers and I don't make friends that easily. The few people who do tend to get along with me are more likely to be male. I don't feel sexual attraction that often and I'm not exactly beating men off with a stick, although I haven't had issues dating and finding a husband. I tend to end up surrounded by awkward or nerdy men. I have had female friends but usually something has happened to end that friendship. Recently I blocked a woman I was presumably close friends with for 5 years because she told me she thought my husband was hot. She was also an attention seeker and didn't care for other people's boundaries. She asked me in front of my husband if there was anything he would change about me which I thought was very strange for a friend. She also had a short skirt on and was flashing at my husband in front of her own. I had another female friend who I knew for a decade stop talking to me because I had a crisis and I couldn't come to where she was living to meet with her. She also made a judgey comment about me starting a family.

With male friends we have generally just drifted apart and stopped talking for a while, but when we do talk it's like we never stopped and there is no expectation that I keep in constant contact and share every detail of my life. I once kept my pregnancy from a female friend until after I gave birth, I just wanted to keep it private because I don't like people in my life bothering me and asking all sorts of questions and she acted all betrayed when I didn't tell her. It wasn't just her I didn't tell, I kept it from everyone with the exception of my husband. I just wanted to have my baby in peace and quiet.

I was quite close to my mother in law and we become good friends. But then she stole loads of money from my husband and there was a load of family drama. It was my husband's sister's fault. I won't go into all the details.

I wish I could meet solid female friends. I have no close female relatives, either, at least not ones who are adults. I do have a daughter and I hope we end up being good friends one day.

Diamond-Breath · 2021-10-04T14:22:17+00:00

I've had both (female and male friends) and I find that it's easier to make friends with guys. Probably because my interests are more "guy-friendly".

Nandemodekiru · 2021-10-04T09:56:22+00:00

Because most of the girls I knew in high school were, uh… somehow messed up in one way or another, even the ones I was rather close with. I had maybe 2 - 5 female friends who were genuinely good people, looking back on it and seeing where they are now. So at that time, I naturally viewed my relationships with my male friends as “better” and/or closer, less drama, etc. Lo and behold, it turns out that of the male friends I had, at least half of them sported some type of crush on me. I only have one “male” friend left from that time period, and they have since come out to me as transgender.

Nowadays, I only have about 4-6 close friends, with only one being a male friend, who calls me “fam” and “homie” 😂. The rest are girls, of whom are genuinely intelligent, funny, and kind people. That being said, our Uno game nights always end in a near-brawl because someone pulls out a “trade hand” card 🤣

Only two of them have boyfriends, who I’ve only met a couple times due to them being long distance relationships. The aforementioned transgender friend is polyamorous, and I’ve never met their partners 🤷‍♀️

Every other man who I interact with on a semi daily basis is a colleague / acquaintance within my major / minor. We laugh, we joke, we get along, but we’re not typically trying to hang out outside of studio time… though this is mainly because of COVID.

JadedByEntropy · 2021-10-04T07:23:18+00:00

I treat men like humans and they are my friends. I don't flirt with my friends because I know what is leading them on, and dont. I wouldn't flirt with my women friends either. Dont test out flirting on friends. Men respond to that. Cutsie baby voice and being a feminine or dumb friend is flirting. Use your real voice and have a spine and an opinion backed by facts and they dont get confused. Friendzone yourself and stop playing games. Men love an inside resource into a girl brain, and ask advice, and genuinely need interactions with women that aren't sexual or dangerous for them. They need human interaction. Once your friend, you can count on them for anything, even after they marry off. They're cool.

It's a million times easier to have Men friends than being forced to play games and use self-depreciation hierarchy tactics or gossiping to get on the "good side" of most women. We suck. My experience is this. We're vicious, malicious, and catty jealous idiots...and fall into lifestyle or mommy shaming.

Good people talk about things and ideas. Bad people talk about people.

Networking is so much a woman's only goal, that unless I have something they need, a woman won't maintain a genuine mutual friendship long term. Unless you're helping them get ahead, or they can beat you down to feel better, they don't have the time.

This is also a city problem. County girls are genuinely good people who are intelligent and can maintain a friendship and good company. They are reliable and great friends if you can find them.

I have a male only friend group, and all their wives are terrified because I'm one of the guys. I am not a threat, but they refuse to be my friends because their husband's actually like my company. How stupid is that. We could all be great friends.

That's another thing. You can't have woman friends who are dating either because they wont bring him around incase you steal him. It's insane.

pearlsandstilettos · 2021-10-04T17:39:43+00:00

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Dopaminee666 · 2021-10-05T21:38:55+00:00

I can deeply relate to this. After decades of searching for the best-male-friend, i finally gave up when my best-male-friend of 3 years whom I thought I were really close with called me “stupid” because i didn’t realize how much he loved me (how the hell could i know it when he didn’t tell me..). To be honest, that hurts really bad when hearing that from a best friend who you’d shared tons of deep/random moments with. The other male friends just disappeared when they heard me just got married… since that day, i decided better not to have any close friendship with any male friends. Though i know to find a female friend who shares common interests with me is pretty hard as I’m in love with stuffs that most women dont pay attention to..

aussiedollface2 · 2021-10-06T21:01:41+00:00

I think this is an interesting question. I grew up with only older brothers so I feel quite comfortable in male company, but mostly all my friends are female. I think making male friends is very “easy” especially if you’re a good looking female lol. It doesn’t require a lot of social skills. Navigating female friendships is much more complex but can also be much more rewarding. I think it’s good to expand your circle to include both men and women. I can’t speak for men’s views on the topic, but if I met a man who had predominantly female friends I wouldn’t find that very attractive xo

oceanblueturtle · 2021-10-07T05:16:35+00:00

Because other women find something lacking in her character. Continuing to cavort with only men does not win favor with a woman’s-woman. When I see women proclaim they are “one of the boys” I know better. They are the center of attention when they are surrounded by men. I don’t think highly of any woman who keeps close company with just males. Low hanging fruit tends to rot faster.

MonkeyMotoman · 2021-10-08T06:58:55+00:00

only way a decent looking woman is going to make a real friendship with a guy

1) the male is in a sexual relationship with another woman and he is happy in that relationship. so sex is not an issue. the other woman the guy is in a sexual relationship will usually not be happy about this setup though.

2) the male friend and the woman have a lot of real shared interests, and no that cannot be talking, eating and drinking. has to be more.

3) the male is over 30 preferably over 40 and has learned some modicum of impulse control.

you dont have all 3 of the above, implosion of relationship at some point.

what would i think of a lady surrounded by other guys? i would look carefully at the other guys first. if they all look like they are desperate to get laid and hitting on her i would think that looks like a giant clusterfuck. if the guys are enjoying themselves and most talking amongst themselves and including the woman as an equal, then i would wonder what makes the woman so interesting that she fits in so well. but, in almost every case its going to be the former situation, not the latter.

Title	Why would a woman have almost entirely male friends?
Author	Ashley_123018
Upvotes	23
Comments	20
Date	October 4, 2021 5:22 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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