Shit test or is she jealous?

Purity-Of-Essence · 2021-10-20T20:25:13+00:00

The retard method I use: If she starts with "I" it's a comfort test. If she starts with "you", it's a shit test. Works for me.

oobertas · 2021-10-20T21:02:51+00:00

supposed to be a team

I can literally hear the whining.

A leader leads, with or without followers.

HornsOfApathy · 2021-10-20T21:42:07+00:00

Serious answer it's The Epic Test:

This is the marathon, epic shit test. If there was an Ironman for shit testing, this would be it.

This is your woman’s ultimate test of congruence. Are you as awesome as you really believe you are? As you say you are? Are you as great as your AA and AM responses claim you are? Or is it entirely still bullshit? Only you know. No one here can tell you the answer to that question. But if you’re still stuck… you’re probably still full of shit.

We all recognize them as shit tests in the moment. But what you likely didn’t realize is that those shit tests – focused on capitalizing your time or demeaning your progress - are about your progress – lifting, reading, STFU.

She will pretend to be clueless about how awesome you are becoming. She will cast a web of doubt and hope that you fall into it. Meanwhile, all of your friends, family and coworkers are saying how great you look – how much more energetic you’ve become – how much happier you seem – yet, you hear nothing of the sort from your woman.

In fact, you hear the opposite the entire time.

My guess is you're full of shit and still seeking validation so the tests will continue to ramp up until you figure it out.

Proof is your 2nd post in the retard playpen. Sometimes pussies just weren't meant to "get it".

Nothing to see here folks.

AlohaMaui808 · 2021-10-20T19:48:12+00:00

You're not the Captain. You may be doing you but she doesn't feelz like your FO because your leadership sucks

ragnar_Daneskjold · 2021-10-20T22:31:21+00:00

If you're trying to lead and do the right thing for yourself but you're constantly looking back to see if she's noticing or being a "team player" your essentially unraveling all the progress you made up to that point.

Looking to get recognition is what your kids look to you for. If you started checking in with your kids to see if they think you're doing well in your life and career they would soon become extremely uncomfortable having you in charge. When you do that to your wife it makes it feel like you're just another one of the kids, wanting mommy's attention.

While you want to be careful of the validation trap I describe above, your stats are good and this kind of behavior from her is a pretty typical part of the process for a guy pointed in the right direction.

BentBarbell3536 · 2021-10-20T23:25:05+00:00

She has a preconceived image of you and your changes are challenging that preconception, which she is fighting. You need to keep your frame and not let her shitty behavior impact your success. She can follow the leader or follow someone else.

Kevlar__Soul · 2021-10-20T20:42:20+00:00

What do you mean by disrespectful rejections?

Superior man has something similar at the beginning of the book. Guy gets a huge bonus or something like that and wife just blows it off. Shit test to see if your seeking validation from her.

Honestly she is prob just pissed that she knows she needs to up her game. It’s a lot of work to keep a successful man.

Tyred_Biggums · 2021-10-20T20:44:06+00:00

It's like she's unwilling to acknowledge my improvements and almost seeming jealous or angry.

Do you need Mommy’s validation to make you feel good? Why do you care on her response to improving?

mrpthrowa · 2021-10-21T08:33:11+00:00

you care too much what she thinks, you have a covert contract that she'll respond positively to your changes.

And she is sensing that.

Stop caring, live your life. Be prepared to drop her.

AlphaChameleon777 · 2021-10-21T13:10:28+00:00

Rian's Midwatch video talks about a similar situation.

https://youtu.be/Wj3CpWF84nY

bob--the--man · 2021-10-23T04:09:17+00:00

Your entire post and post history proves the following:

You have lots of work to do around internalizing the sidebar.
You still don't understand the difference between shit tests, comfort tests, and plain disrespect.
You don't have frame.
Half your post is a covert contract.
You are in your head way too much.

Sit down, shut up, breathe, and get back to the basics.

BigBoiBahmani · 2021-10-25T06:40:19+00:00

Do you truely have outcome independence or are you just a LARPer? Are you truly as awesome as you show? Are you?

If so, then stfu and go have a fun life. This is what it's about.

stephensplinter · 2021-10-20T20:47:37+00:00

this is partly how my marriage ended. alpha male doesn't get along with wannabe alpha female...let me guess, your wife is 'educated'?

SBIII · 2021-10-20T22:41:10+00:00

5'6", you say...

If I were you, I'd be looking at investing in some platform shoes and a penis extension.

DeplorableRay · 2021-10-28T16:01:09+00:00

"It's like she's unwilling to acknowledge my improvements and almost seeming jealous or angry."

This is whats really bothering you. Put her on your rope.

Save yourself first, the marriage will follow or not.

sars445 · 2021-10-28T21:41:17+00:00

"she's unwilling to acknowledge my improvements"

Who cares?

Title	Shit test or is she jealous?
Author	BentBarbell3536
Upvotes	21
Comments	51
Date	October 20, 2021 7:45 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askMRP
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