I feel like sometimes I get these gut reactions and feelings, that aren't actually signs of the present, but more preparing to deal with what I've been subjected to in the past. (Mentally/emotionally abusive ex). Like with my current bf, I may initially feel like I need to lie or expect the worst, but I'm proven wrong every time. I always expect a red flag response and then he goes and waves a green one and it's getting hard to tell if my gut is just stuck in the past. It's hard unlearning bad treatment, especially when I'm constantly being treated so well, it feels confusing which is so sad lol. It's hard to separate what I grew used to with how a real man treats a lady. How did y'all learn to retrain or recalibrate your gut instincts after they were damaged?