I was never boy crazy but I always felt like I should make an attempt to meet someone who meets my standards. I’ve been single for the past two years after the worst breakup I’ve experienced. I started following FDS last year and since then, I have gone on several dates. I have also quickly blocked and deleted all of the scrotes I encountered. I eliminated pretty much all of the low value people in my life and these days I am in a lot of solitude. Despite this progress, in the back of my mind, I still hoped that I would find somebody esp the more into my 30s I got. I was using dating apps actively, although that never produced a quality prospect, especially since FDS. And I would develop a bit of fantasy thinking if I met a cute guy IRL without even knowing a thing about him.

But there has been a shift recently. I no longer swipe on dating apps although I still have hinge on because my membership that I paid for had not expired. I do not care about what guys that check me out think about me, and I do not pay any guy much attention at all. I looked at my hinge this morning and usually I do not like the messages or profiles that like me, but there were actually about 10 guys that seemed intriguing based on initial screening..its rare to see 1. I don’t even care. I forget to even look at the app bc that’s how little I care about men. It’s so freeing.