Talked with a friend in crisis mode preparing for her husband’s interview for a position, and it made me realize even more that men really do benefit from extra respect when their wives are quality wives. If he invites you to a work event, he probably respects you and knows you improve his life in the eyes of others. It’s not that impressing people is the goal. It just shows the value and worth of how a good woman really does help her man to gain respect among his peers. He couldn’t do these special jobs without you, ladies. It’s not about climbing any ladder, but becoming a person of respect. Women display either positively or negatively what their men are capable of. We have our own skills and work, but you can’t escape from the reality that we do have influence on how people view our men.

I also thought that it is perhaps more important as the years go on that once you’ve got the clothes and grooming down pat, the social value of being inwardly kind, able to truly listen, and be able to help others is what sets you apart from the rest.

All these realizations made me proud to be chosen by my man, proud to help him in the ways I excel, and proud to launder the clothes he wears or just keep his life in order. There’s a man that the world sees, but every man was once a boy. I’m reminded of that when I feel negatively. I have the ability to help this man grow and progress and to show others his real and honest value. I forget this at times.