Sex toys- is your body a plaything or a sacred space?

TikiTikiTata-chalala · 2021-12-20T21:23:24+00:00

I agree with your take OP. Your body is sacred and it is your joy to explore it. When it comes to sharing that joy of exploration with another- they need to have the same mindset as you: that your bodies are inherently sacred and deserving of respect because they are where you reside in this world.

If a man is just interested in your toys to play with you- or even play with you in general: 1) he's outing himself as mysoginistic because he's literally comparing you to a doll. If you can change the noun in a sentence to 'Barbie' and it sounds like a grown man wanting to play with Barbie, then this man sees women as interchangeable dolls and he'll never put the effort into pleasing you 2) men who say they want to 'play w you' always end up groping/fondling/pawing at you and never rub anything the right way. True facts, this guy is shit- he only has like 5 moves and he uses them on every woman he's ever thought of

Lost_Kale90 · 2021-12-20T22:25:11+00:00

Every time I used toys with guys I was dating, I was basically just being used like a sex doll. So I stopped using toys altogether with guys. I remember telling my ex that if he wanted to use toys on me, I'd just have to use them on him first. He did NOT like that and never mentioned it again 🤣

hensbanex · 2021-12-21T02:42:37+00:00

agreed. I have a collection of sex toys that are only for my pleasure (large dildos or weirdly shaped insertables) and the way my fiancé interacts with me when he uses them with me is incredible- he is caring, attuned to my reactions, communicative, and genuinely enjoys making me feel as good as possible.

if a dude negs you about your collection (or the size of your toys), he’s insecure and will be bad in bed. If he introduces the idea of toys to early or seems to want to use your body as though it were an object like your toys, he is bad at sex. I wouldn’t trust most men to use a normal sized sex toy on me, let alone something that requires preparation and gentleness.

Novemberinthechair · 2021-12-20T21:29:28+00:00

Well, he's trying hard to fetishize you. He probably watches a lot of porn. The irony? If men didn't learn about sex from porn, many women wouldn't purchase toys. At this point in history, toys are a more than adequate substitute for men. Some of them don't even believe women have orgasms.

electroloop · 2021-12-20T22:43:29+00:00

Yeah sure I’ll let my partner use my sex toys! I have a 10 inch black dildo for shits and giggles, we can play with it by sticking it in his ass.

No man that truly loved and respected me wanted access to my “toys”. One guy knew that I couldn’t orgasm without clitoral stimulation, so he bought one of those vibrating cock rings to make sure I had a good times.

The men who were incredible in bed didn’t need to use any toys. They didn’t need the bells and whistles.

Title	Sex toys- is your body a plaything or a sacred space?
Author	pathalienation
Upvotes	78
Comments	16
Date	December 20, 2021 9:14 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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