I was once engaged to a LV scrote who got me an engagement ring. I felt wrong wearing the ring 99% of the time because I knew deep down I was miserable with him and I could do much better and be with someone who truly loved me instead of going through the motions. After the engagement was broke off and I gave the ring back to him, I did something stupid.

I used to wear a ring on my “wedding finger”. It’s a simple love ring from cartier. It was a gift to myself, and I absolutely love it.

My assumption is that men would be less inclined to approach me/bother me, if they took a look at the ring and concluded that I was probably married.

Oh I was wrong. Wearing a ring made men try EVEN HARDER! They thought since I was taken, it would be a better chase and I may be inclined to cheat. It attracted the lowest value of men.

I stopped wearing it for a while, but I wore it again when I got into a relationship. Out of respect for my partner, I thought this was the way to go.

Y’all, this was ultimate pickmeisha behaviour. Not only am I rewarding someone I’m dating making it seem like they committed to me by giving me a ring, I was attempting to take myself off the market to the “normal men”.

I was literally blocking myself from meeting someone who could treat me the way that I wanted to be treated.

I was giving off the false impression that my boyfriend bought me the ring and is committed to me.

I will never do that again. Until I’m legitimately engaged, I refuse to wear a ring. Single until I’m married is a term that comes to mind. I refuse to stay stagnant in dead end relationships and adorn myself with a ring just because I want people to think I have a caring, thoughtful partner.