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Attraction.

This single concept gets more men hung up than any other when it comes to power dynamics and game. For a lot of men, even those familiar with RP terminology, it can be a bit of a boogeyman because attraction is something that goes beyond logic, and so therefore it must be rooted in mysticism. The deeper stuff that Red Pill covers, the cave man shit, is what modern men struggle with the most when taking back their masculinity. You can explain Plate Theory to where it makes sense, but you can’t explain why some hairy, fat guy is able to pull 10s at the bar he goes to night after night. Those kinds of results, which DO stem from attraction in one way or another, can’t be explained logically.

In a way, attraction is mysticism. Attraction is a primal instinct in human beings, so therefore it operates within the realm of emotions. Many men, especially those new to Red Pill, are completely lost when it comes to speaking the emotional language of humans, and are therefore unprepared to deal with and understand the caveman shit that drives woman after woman into your bed. I will cover the emotional language in a later article but for now, let's talk about attraction.

So what is attraction?

According to Google, attraction is the action or power of evoking interest, pleasure, or liking for someone or something.

Quite interesting that the words “action” and “power” are used in the definition. The definition seems simple enough, so we’ll stick with it.

Okay, so how does attraction work?

That is a complicated question. Again, we’re operating in the realm of emotions where the answers, just like the emotions, are a bit fuzzy.

Attraction is an instinct, so it is formed off the basis of survival. You must understand, attraction can’t be forced. You can’t say some magic words and POOF!, get somebody, man or woman, to suddenly like you. It is something that is rooted deep within our DNA, formed over generations of our ancestors looking for traits in one another that kept us alive with the ability to procreate.

Those same traits that we looked for in one another thousands of years ago are the same traits we look for in each other today. That’s why even though women are getting fatter and fatter today, we’re not suddenly all into fat chicks to keep up with the times. Attraction doesn’t adapt that quickly, because it is an instinct and it is a part of what keeps us as a species alive.

So how do I become more attractive?

Since we’ve established that you can’t force attraction, the good news is you don’t have the pressure of trying to get girls to like you anymore. Qualifying yourself, overthinking how you’re going to strike up conversations, all of that can go away now. Pursuit of women is now about learning how to spot attraction. I'll break this down further in another article as well down the road.

This is great for you, because it will make the dating game MUCH EASIER. Dating and plates aren’t supposed to be hard or complicated. When done right, women do the work for you. This only works if you pursue women who show signs of high attraction towards you.

If you find there aren’t many women who are attracted to you, it’s because you aren’t the instinctual gratification they’re desiring.

Which means you aren’t polarizing enough.

Polarity as a concept is super easy to understand and gives you a path to follow to find where the attraction in women lies. It’s summed up as such: Whatever women are and whatever it is that they’re doing, be the opposite of that.

Women (who are worth your time) like things, makeup, being cute and small and feminine, and all the other traits you think about when picturing your ideal woman. Super girly energy, etc. etc.

In reality, women are attracted to the opposites of those things. They like strength, confidence, burliness, body hair, etc. The further you are away from what a woman is, the more attractive to women you will be.

The single best way to up your attraction level is going to the gym and getting BIGGER and STRONGER. Period. Shredded dudes are nice to look at for women, but when you’re big and strong and hairy and you walk into a room with women, you can FEEL THE ATTRACTION dripping off the walls. They will stare you down and not even realize they’re doing it. Just my experience, anyways.

So why do I see all these pretty women with dudes that look like chicks?

Understand, social conditioning is a strong force to be reckoned with. Look at the toll it’s taken on men, never mind women who are much more easily persuaded by social pressures. Social conditioning is telling men to behave like women and it’s telling women to find men who are soft and super accommodating.

It’s seemingly working, but if you’re in the 20% club, you know this is all bullshit. A perfect example I can give is my wife.

When we first started dating, she was just another plate I was spinning. She’d just gotten out of a relationship of 5 years with a dude she never wanted to marry or have kids with. He was soft, weak, and super accommodating and she admitted to me she was with him because he would do what she says, but that after a while it got old and boring and she was super unhappy in the relationship.

Once we started hooking up she did everything in her power to make me feel desired and wanted. She knew I was fucking other women and didn’t care. She knew I didn’t love her but she made sure I knew she loved me. She’d go to work, and then come over to my place with her paycheck or her tips to put in my hand and say “Here is your money, enjoy your weekend.” Without me asking. And then I’d send her home and not call her for 3-4 days because I was busy having fun and living my life.

In the end, she was so dedicated to me, and so down for everything I was about, she gave me no other choice. No other woman could compete with her and once I went exclusive with her, she asked me to marry her. We have been married for 7 years now and have 3 kids together. That is difference between soft, accommodating men and the men who are polarizing to women, and that is the difference in devotion you will see and receive.

When you see those soft men with beautiful women, always remember they are on borrowed time. It doesn’t matter how much they appear to be in love, all it takes is the right alpha to come along and turn another guy into a red pill student.

KEY POINTS:

· Attraction can’t be controlled. It’s instinctual.

· Women’s attraction stems from polarity. Be the opposite of women and you will find they are more attracted to you.

· Getting bigger and stronger by hitting the gym is the single most efficient way to showcase your polarity and drive women’s attraction towards you up.