So I ask my friends on facebook (which is a very progressive circle) that would a feminist argue that women should fight along side men, to the same extent, if it is a just and inevitable war.

All the male friends (who also support equal rights and you could say they are feminists) answer "yes", men and women should fight with each other.

Almost all of the female friends (who also feminists), answer something in the veins of "war is bad, so we shouldn't avoid war" or "there is no just war" or "there is no point fighting for democracy or freedom" meanwhile avoid the entire question and repeat these point when I pressed the question. At some point some whiteknight show up and told me I am a brute and stupid for asking "mundane question".

This is something called "flee into the abstraction" in which people construct an utopian/ideal reality and argue on that basic instead of facing what is happening in real life. In this way, they, at the same time, can claim moral high-ground, avoid being seen hypocritical and also claim that you are stupid for not gasping the "abstract". This is the same as people not supporting Ukraine because in an ideal world without western imperialism, Russia has no motive to attack Ukraine.

Our country and has a long history of women fighting and dying along side men in our various wars for independent (like real fighting, not just support). Our very first recorded rebellion against Chinese dynasties was led by women. But it seems that that tradition of equality is ruined bit by bit by western feminism.

This makes me think that feminism is a theory promoting the oppression of women toward men and not about the equality they claim to be. They are also colonialist for ruining our tradition of equality. They are everything they claim to be against.