I feel like I can't be happy single after my separation. I've tried online dating, matched with like 15 people which is definitely a lot for me and considering I live in a rural area. However, NONE of them have actually met up for a date. Online dating is awful, I spend X amount of time talking with someone and plan a date only to get ghosted the day before. Even girls who I'd say rate lower in looks than I do ghost me. I'd love to just get off dating apps altogether but I have no venue to meet women as of right now in my area.

I've talked to 4 women I've known locally via Facebook, 2 of them took a lot of interest in me, but only one has met for 2 dates. They were amazing, no sex but just the cuddling was so great. Then, she ended up back with an ex so that's over now.

I feel pathetic on dating apps. I'm not a 10/10 looks guy by any means, so of course that means I'm a second class citizen on dating apps. I'm looking for better ways to meet women IRL because that's so much better and more comfortable for me. It seems like once someone actually gets to know me, most of the time they take interest in me, but getting to the point where they actually want to meet for a date is like 10%.

So basically the way I can keep my faith in humanity is to stick almost strictly to meeting people IRL instead of dating apps, but it takes so long to find someone who's single/interested IRL. So I need tips on how to be happy alone. I have a very high sex drive and it's honestly been torturous since my ex wife and I stopped having sex, I've been trying to fast track my way to a fuck buddy and that's definitely not the kind of person I want to be. It's caused a lot of resentment in me being this sexually frustrated after separating with my very physically attractive (but unbelievably toxic) ex.

I hang out with family and male friends weekly, but it doesn't fill that void. While I love my friends and family, it doesn't meet my need of sex and closeness, which are very strong in me. I'm going to focus on dating the way I feel is right, which is meeting women naturally through social events/areas, but I really need some help coping with this void inside me until I find someone I connect with.