Happy St. Patrick's Day Ladies !

As we have likely all read in relationship blogs, psychology articles etc insecurity destroys relationships. As I lurked in the manosphere, I noticed that the unhinged modern pornsick desire for women to look and act like pornstars was accompanied by the demand that modern women should also not be insecure. The way this was written and discussed jumped out at me because it placed all of the burden on the woman, even in something simple like communication:

"She shouldn't be clingy! She shouldn't be needy! She shouldn't be demanding! She should be nice all * the * time! She shouldn't express too much emotion because that is also insecurity and wanting affirmation! She shouldn't text me so much! She shouldn't ask me for things! She shouldn't ask me for compliments!"

I thought about all the women I know who are confident and self-assured at work, with friends, with their families, while buying property, in new hobbies, traveling the world. Yet there is something about being in relationships with LVM / NVM where women become insecure. What is it about a relationship with a low effort, negging, manipulative bastard that makes us insecure? Hmm.

We are self-aware, we know that if the man wanted to jerk off to other women all he would have to do is open a browser tab. We know about the chatbot AIs, the pickmes on social media and dating apps, the local bar scenes where men can employ pick up artistry without any consequential pushback. We know about airbrushed women we are compared to on social media and in advertising.

When men whine and complain about insecurity in women, my first question immediately is "what have you done?" If the man is giving the silent treatment and being moody, of course a normal person's reaction is to feel uneasy. If the man is playing weird games around compliments instead of just giving a damn compliment, of course a normal person's reaction is to feel uneasy. If the man is still on dating apps, of course a normal person's reaction is to feel uneasy.

These women who feel "insecure" according to men, they're not insecure. Not in the least! They are just feeling uneasy in a relationship where the LVM / NVM isn't acting like a functional human being. A woman's insecurity is a normal person's unease at a shitty situation.

Of course we all know at FDS if he wanted to, he would, and if a HVM notices you're feeling insecure he will alleviate it if possible.