I wish I could count up the number of people claiming they aren't keeping a scorecard in the bedroom, but it wouldn't matter because they're all full of shit. In fact, the very second I read "I stopped keeping score with sex," I already know they're lying because I guarantee in the same OYS post they're going to talk about how many times they initiated.

Speaking of, there are a lot of guys, some of whom are months into this game, that are initiating a pathetic amount of times during the week.

Just from this week's OYS: 

/u/pancakeOptimusPrime (53 weeks in - a full year)

Initiated once, fucked once.

Just going through his OYS, this is a common trend for him. He's initiated 4 times in 5 weeks. 

/u/OYSFFFS

As a result of this, I’m going to try and stop giving a fuck about how often I am or am not feeling turned on, and only act on my desire when I truly, genuinely feel it coursing through my veins. If a week passes and, for whatever reason, I haven’t felt turned on, what does it matter? I have other things going on in my life.

This guy, after hearing about a friend who has sex once a month, decides that maybe not initiating at all is a-okay for him. 

/u/Restlessmindsyndrome

I’m going to initiate this week only when I’m genuinely feeling horny and energized enough to have fun.

Now in this guy's defense, he was sick, so he didn't want to have sex much that week. But it's his comment here that's going to springboard a point in a moment. 

/u/Hot_Cactus

1/1 initiation: firm 'no'.

Escalate to 1x authentic initiation.

This guy is initiating once and decides to escalate how often he initiates: to once. 

/u/roboKevoX

I was rejected twice this week. Both initiations were weak

Initiated twice. Claims he's going to initiate more confidently. Doesn't mention more often.

Now look, I'm not a seasoned vet here, but I'm writing this post to newer guys from the prospective of a retard (who is currently still fat and was literally banned about 6 weeks ago). You came here to MRP to FUCK. You stumbled upon this small den of cavemen because you were fed up with the state of your sex life, and you discovered the opportunity to figure your life out. I know it gets confusing because there's a heavy emphasis on not using sex for validation. Therefore, don't initiate as much, right? Just have sex when I really feel like it, right? Sex isn't all that important, right?

That's a misconception. If you're a healthy male, you should have the urge to fuck. Often. I get that shit happens to prevent you from feeling up to it every day, but if you're feeling horny only 1-2 times a week for months on end, then there's something else you need to get checked. Maybe your T levels suck. Maybe you aren't managing stress correctly.

Or maybe you're full of shit and you're avoiding initiating as a defense mechanism for your fragile ego.

I speak from experience. I used to avoid initiating because I didn't know how to game my wife. I assumed it was a no, so I did a lot of reading about sex, thinking about initiating, and imagining some kind of fairy tale relationship with my wife where we fuck every day.

But the truth is, you will only grow through action. Start initiating. Start running game. If you're months into this and aren't initiating often, then you're off the mark.

And for god's sake: Stop with the "authentic initiations" contrived bullshit. Oh, this week I plan to initiate with confidence! Come on, man. Grow some balls. Start flirting. And initiate.

Your OYS posts (and those of us reading) will benefit from it.