Have you ever been told "you are too nice" by a woman?

Bowlnk · 2022-06-05T17:23:02+00:00

You're so nice. You're like a brother(sometimes sister) You're sutch a good friend.

Heard them all

After 15 years i threw in the towel. I don't like going out. And dating apps were making me depressed.

oflbtbs · 2022-06-05T16:38:37+00:00

I've been told that I'm nice before but never said that I was too nice

SecondEldenLord · 2022-06-05T19:48:58+00:00

I was told I was like a brother to them and that our friendship is so good, she doesn't want to ruin it with a relationship. Does that count? Been hearing that ever since I was a teenagr. Now I am in my 30s, still single and don't give a damn about dating anymore

throwawayincelacc · 2022-06-05T20:06:12+00:00

Can't say I've ever been told to be less nice but I've been told "you're so nice!" while they turn around and date "the bad boys". Then they get treated like shit and turn around and complain to you.

Ferbuggity · 2022-06-05T22:44:17+00:00

Forgive me, but what has this got to do with men's rights?

Elonbuyredditpls · 2022-06-05T19:55:18+00:00

This one lady on YouTube talked about what girls mean when you are nice. I forgot what she all said but basically nice guys are boring as dates but nice to have to pay for dinner and lean on when having a bad da.It does make me wonder how there's no shortage of women for abusers, even guys that look like Danny Devito without the fame and money can pull in chicks if he starts slapping them around. I also recommend watching Shannon Rice Lewis on YouTube to get a better understanding of the female mindset. It seems like they think if he abused them, he'll be even more dangerous to anyone that threatens her, like he's some kinda attack dog to them.

majestic_tapir · 2022-06-05T21:09:49+00:00

Not really, I was a prick when I was younger, then I got into a long term relationship and improved.

Someone may say i'm nice now, but it literally just means i'm nice, because i'm off the market anyway.

John_Savage69 · 2022-06-06T20:57:55+00:00

In my youth, I was rejected a lot for "being too nice;" "being like a brother"; "being too stable"; "being too caring."---all of which led me to believe that women prefer unstable assholes because they create drama and feelings.

Confident_Notice975 · 2022-06-05T21:53:06+00:00

I'm either too nice, or if I get bothered by something, I care too much.

Strange predicament.

Upsidedown_Sammie · 2022-06-05T22:21:11+00:00

I said this to one guy at school, but I just didn’t want to offend him since he was creeping me out. He kept offering me rides, tried carrying my bag several times, and would send me answers to homework in one of our classes among other things. I routinely told him “no,” but be just kept it up. He asked me out on a date, and I told him “no” and that he was very nice but kind of smothering.

What’s a better way to handle this situation going forward?

WhereProgressIsMade · 2022-06-05T22:59:43+00:00

When I was a teenager, women let me know I was too nice by saying “no” to a first or second date. It took me a long time before I figured out it was due to a combination of being nervous and too nice.

xTheVyrusx · 2022-06-06T00:57:52+00:00

If you’ve been told you’re sweet or nice, congrats you’re neck deep in friendzone waters. I generally play this game with most women as im not much on dating. I do my own thing on my own time and don’t care what happens. If I want to have a relaxing day around the house or I have shit to do I don’t engage in bland conversations. If it does come down to it I’m very forward and upfront about meeting up for a date if continuing small talk happens or my invention is side stepped or declined I shut off all contact and move on. The biggest thing I’ve learned is how valuable my time is and I don’t waste it on anyone.

TextDependent6779 · 2022-06-06T01:37:22+00:00

I've been lectured a few times by women for holding the door open for them.

not directly what you ask, but that probably qualifies "being too nice".

Difficult-Scene-949 · 2022-06-06T01:38:14+00:00

I was once talking to a girl about another girl I was with. I was frustrated because we had fooled around but not gotten anywhere is basically what it comes down to. This girl told me I just needed to put it in....... I was like that sounds kinda rapey.

IcicleMutt · 2022-06-06T08:18:36+00:00

No. But i heard a woman saying something like that about her husband. And i felt she was kinda derranged because of that when saying it.

FirefighterMoney1331 · 2022-06-06T12:09:09+00:00

Yes but usually only the women who think being aggressive is being tough, I knew this girl he thought she could beat me up, she just kept pressing and getting more angry , I let her hit me a few times then literally threw her out the door, she must have cleared 6 or 7 feet , I just shut the door , I had nothing to gain by being violent against such impotent rage.

patxiku93 · 2022-06-06T14:55:04+00:00

Once a female coworker, way older than me, pointed out than a fellow colleague only used makeup when the boss was arround. I told her than I never realized and she told me that's because I was too nice. I'll never forgive the lesson.

HikuroMishiro · 2022-06-10T02:42:32+00:00

I have, usually in the context of being overly nice to a girl I fancied. It was typically advice trying to help me out (i.e. 'if you like a girl you need to be less nice if you want any chance of her actually liking you'). Unfortunately that's just my nature.

Title	Have you ever been told "you are too nice" by a woman?
Author	ChxsenK
Upvotes	0
Comments	27
Date	June 5, 2022 3:34 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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