"Men Are Raped Almost as Often as Women in America. We Need to Talk About This."

NeoVidia · 2022-08-27T05:54:29+00:00

2014… guess no one listened. I wish I was surprised but I’m not.

Heavy_Grand2526 · 2022-08-27T05:26:11+00:00

"With increased awareness, men, who historically have difficulty framing their lived experiences as abuse, recognize that they were abused.

Following the Penn State scandal, the % of men reporting sexual abuse jumped from 5-14% to 38%."

portojohn2020 · 2022-08-27T07:18:27+00:00

Im a man and I was raped at 18. I didn't even realize that it was rape until I was 30 this year

CommissarSteel56 · 2022-08-27T10:40:11+00:00

This hits close to home. Sophomore year of high school, I was sexually assaulted in a men's bathroom by a man whose sexual preference was men. I tried to report him to the authorities but, no one believed me. None of the teaching staff, faculty did anything when I went to them. The female principal of our school said to my face that "There is nothing we can do". He never faced charges.

It has been nearly twelve years since the incident and despite going to therapy and getting mental help, the trauma of the event still shows its face at the worst of times.

ShutupPussy · 2022-08-27T06:15:08+00:00

Very surprised this came from Hanna Roisin considering the books she's written.

odysseytree · 2022-08-27T11:44:10+00:00

That doesn't even include rape of school boys whose stats by gender are hidden and undocumented. I wonder why.

dw87190 · 2022-08-27T06:01:49+00:00

AT LEAST as often

Starski09 · 2022-08-27T12:48:52+00:00

Raped by two fat slightly older women, once when I was 17 and another when I was 21. Never thought about it much but after reading dozens of stories from women, I could empathize with those that had similar stories.

Women are equally as sexual and violent, men have just been conditioned to sit there and take it because we are "stronger". Sick world we live in.

outline_link_bot · 2022-08-27T05:53:49+00:00

When Men Are Raped

Decluttered version of this Slate Magazine's article archived on April 29, 2014 can be viewed on https://outline.com/8nr3yA

treesbubby · 2022-08-27T15:15:11+00:00

I have a panic disorder, so TW panic attacks. I deal with it myself, but to this date I’ve never been in a live-in relationship with a girl who would actually allow me to handle it myself. “No no no no no baby, please please please let me help you!”. Did they have any idea what they were doing? No. But no matter how much I’ve yelled at them to fuck off, they never, ever left me alone to handle myself. Wouldn’t allow me to take walks, eat dinner, go to sleep, go to work… when I got shaky, they would get in my face, start touching me, grabbing me, trapping me in closets and bathrooms, refusing to let me leave, refusing to let me do anything that would actually help me, and forcing me to accept their help, which was nothing more than repeatedly saying “Treesbubby I want to help you!” and “you need to calm down right now!” Oh, by the way, the first time I ever fought back, literally pushed someone out of the way of the door, after dealing with this thousands of times for 15 years, I went to jail for 10 months.

For anyone that doesn’t know, there is tons of legal precedence that forcing someone to accept psychological help is considered harassment and assault. Repeatedly touching that person when they’re asking not to be touched is DEFINITELY assault. So if you know someone with a panic disorder and you want to help them, the number one rule to help them is to do what they ask. They know their issues better than you.

The worst is the hundreds of times that I had asked them to leave me alone for periods of 4, 6, even up to 15 hours straight, just burning through my panic attacks with my ability to stop them physically taken away from me… then as I’m literally screaming at them to leave me alone, they start trying to fondle me, take my pants off… “Treesbubby I want to help you!” I would literally throw them off me 5 or 6 times, but like always, the would just keep coming back… I can’t tell you how many times I asked “if I fuck you will you leave me alone?” then cried during the sex, praying to God that I would cum fast just for the opportunity to be able to get some food, take a walk, and actually manage my attack. This happened about once every two weeks usually… hundreds and hundreds of times. And ya, it was pretty damn rare that they would leave me alone afterwards… it hurts being abused by someone who your essence is actively dripping out of.

xcheshirecatxx · 2022-08-27T13:52:18+00:00

Men are raped more often. 30% of the world is circumcised

Educational_Bet_6606 · 2022-08-27T17:41:15+00:00

Awareness and recognition is spreading. Stereotypes thought persist, it's society. But at least it's changing.

TheSnesLord · 2022-08-27T12:17:06+00:00

Haven't read the article yet - do they say or indicate that women can be perpetrators too, and that forced envelopment is also r@pe I wonder.

AgeofAmnesia · 2022-08-27T15:54:02+00:00

Old article, still holds true. I grew up being abused by a grandmother, and my mother was aware (I found that out shortly before breaking contact with her). Happened for years, and that side of the family supported the grandmother as harmless. Yeah. Nightmares of what she did were not harmless.

Had it happen in schools, and one time outside of school (drugged and woke up with her on top of me - she later admitted it to a friend who then told me). Legal action options? None. Nobody, and I mean nobody did a thing, and I tried for the better part of a decade to get things heard.

You want to know about rage? Trying to report being raped in school cost me a scholarship and college at all. It cost me part of my early education, it caused nightmares and PTSD that continue to date. What makes it worse? Being told that, as a man, *zero* group or specialized therapy options exist for me, unless I identified as a woman - because women can get help in multiple places. None for men.

So, yeah. After childhood years filled with female on male rape, school years filled with it, high school, and finally early adulthood (raped for my 20th birthday, but lost my virginity probably at age 2, at least from what I remember, because...women have needs).

From my experiences: most women are very comfortable with objectifying men and treating them as such, whatever the age. It's a very poor gamble to trust one, even if they mean well - because it's probably a smoke screen or prelude to yet another attempted rape.

WeEatBabies · 2022-08-27T20:27:28+00:00

That statistic does not include the lying about taking their birth control pill.

It should and then that statistic would be staggering!

If you don't consent to sex without birth control it's grape!!!! I can't believe I have to explain this to people!

AirSailer · 2022-08-27T18:26:19+00:00

The article only points out that women rape men, not that it needs to be stopped. There is no statement anywhere in that article that actually states that women should be held accountable.

the-4th-survivor · 2022-08-27T14:48:01+00:00

I've seen people try to say this before and I just don't believe it for multiple reasons. For one thing very few women are big and strong enough to be able to overpower a man and hold him down for sex. For another thing a man has to get and sustain an erection to have sex. If someone tried to rape me, I would get angry or perhaps if they had a knife or a gun I would be scared, and I don't know about you guys but I've never gotten a boner while I was angry or afraid.

On top of that, women are less sexually aggressive than men and can generally get laid consensually whenever they want to so they'd have no reason to rape a man. Lastly, most men aren't considered attractive to women and a significant number of men in America struggle to get relationships and sex. There's just no way I believe men are getting raped as often as women are.

throwawaybiz2810 · 2022-08-27T16:35:43+00:00

It wasn't possible for a man to be raped in america before 2001 in the eyes of the law

NJ_Mets_Fan · 2022-08-27T17:13:48+00:00

I wouldnt even consider ever stating this to someone. This is automatic public isolation. Even stating men can be raped is controversial…equal amounts of women? forget about it, good luck making friends again. doesnt matter if you back up the statement w facts and testimonies…fucking sad

Able_Hearing8367 · 2022-08-28T22:38:56+00:00

One time I was in an abusive relationship. The woman who was abusing me came to my door once and punched me in the stomach ten times. I lived in an Apartment at the time and the neighbors eventually saw what was going on and called the police. The police had me locked up for the night. And keep in mind I have a 15 year old son, who was 9 at the time, and, who only has me as a parent. They thankfully let go of me but only after I begged them not to arrest me bc I'm a single parent but only after at least an hour. The next day the woman came back and said that if I don't leave my apartment she'd stab my son, call the cops and then say it was me who killed him. I begged her not to do it, but she ignored I eventually smacked her in the face, and then she called the cops on me and I spent the weekend in jail. Thankfully the police sent my kid to child care for the weekend. I eventually sued the woman who abused me and she went to 6 months in jail for abuse. Also I constantly get reminded that men suffer huge discrimination since I always take my 9 year old to the playground in the weekend and people always tell me to let the mother handle the kids or when I'm walking with my kid people always give me hard looks or something. It really sucks especially knowing that femenism is growing and that my kid might also face the same problems since he's also a male.

2022-09-22T04:43:19+00:00

Raped by men

Title	"Men Are Raped Almost as Often as Women in America. We Need to Talk About This."
Author	Heavy_Grand2526
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Date	August 27, 2022 5:25 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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