Why women in college are "picked on" by her peers if she refuses to have a boyfriend or to lose her virginity?

Mrs_Drgree · 2022-09-07T23:40:28+00:00

No leading questions

Feisty-Saturn · 2022-09-07T23:03:53+00:00

Where are you from? What type of people do you associate with?

Aromatic_Shop9033 · 2022-09-07T23:06:57+00:00

Probably because they want to drag her down to their level.

For all the talk I hear on Reddit...when I was in uni, we men learned a girl wasn't sleeping around...competition for her attention and a relationship was vicious.

I'm talking knives are out, sabotaging other guys socially to distance them from her kind of vicious.

I knew 3 that got married before graduation because other men recognized their value and morals.

Last I checked, none of them divorced, yet. This was over a decade ago.

Barneysparky · 2022-09-07T23:13:44+00:00

That sounds like something that might happen in high school, certainly not university.

Perhaps it's the world's smallest college where everyone is around each other all day? Perhaps it's a weird toxic dorm?

Everyone is just doing their own thing where I'm from. The closest thing I've heard is my oldest daughter used to study in a hall that mostly asians studied in because she hated when people tried talking to her when she was working.

poppy_blu · 2022-09-07T23:09:18+00:00

Does this really happen?

A lot of things get said on this sub as if it’s “the way things are” but when you dig it’s people relaying things they read online.

januaryphilosopher · 2022-09-07T23:09:15+00:00

This was me. Women never picked on me for it, but men did (may be selection bias as I socialise more with men). Generally, they wonder what's wrong with you, as most people aren't adult virgins. (It wasn't by choice either.) They also want to justify their own actions.

ruthofhades · 2022-09-07T23:05:16+00:00

Just by reading your post, I am assuming you are not from the West. Must be a non-Western thing. Haven't really heard of that happening much here. I'm sure it does happen, just like anything can happen.

As for why I think it happens, even on this forum you can kind of hear the resentment for virgin women and men who value virgin women. The men must be incels or misogynists. The women must be bad at sex, gold diggers, or have terrible personalities. Crabs in a bucket mentality.

itmethrowaway12 · 2022-09-07T23:22:25+00:00

because women instinctively know its a good thing and are jealous subconciously

corporatesandry · 2022-09-07T23:26:00+00:00

A lot of women tell that they are often belittled by her peers if she refuses to sleep with some guy.

What is “a lot”? Who are these women? Who are they “telling”? Where is the source of your information because I have honestly never once seen women pressure other women into sleeping with men they don’t want to?? wtf

I see some women advocating for HOOK UP CULTURE and they claim that having consensual casual sex is “empowering” but I never see these women bullying and insisting women MUST have sex with men???

KombuchaEnema · 2022-09-07T23:28:54+00:00

Because women often create their own insecurities.

I had a friend who constantly told me that I need to lose my virginity because the man I marry “will want a girl with experience.” Ironically, me and this friend both dated the same guy (my now husband) and they both admit that my friend couldn’t get him to finish from a blowjob. Me, the virgin? No problems in that department.

This same friend later admitted that she was insecure about the number of guys she slept with and she felt like a slut because of it.

You know how sometimes in school you forget to do an assignment, and as soon as you show up to class you immediately start asking people if they did the assignment because you’re hoping someone else forgot? Because you don’t want to be alone?

It’s like that.

These women have internalized misogyny, so they feel like sluts when they sleep around. They feel bad about it. So they tell other women who are virgins to also sleep around so they aren’t the only “sluts.”

A woman with a healthy sexuality doesn’t shame women who choose to abstain.

2022-09-07T23:39:53+00:00

Looks like the “this doesn’t happen” crowd is here right on time. There’s plenty of accounts from women where they’re mocked for being a prude/goody two shoes.

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AstronautLoveShack · 2022-09-07T23:32:11+00:00

I have heard that colloquially (read: on reddit) but in reality I've known people of either gender to be more concerned for a girl's "virtue" than be interested in having her lose it. Unless, of course, she is willing to lose it to them.

Whatever. As a human being with autonomy, you can do what works for you and ignore what people have to say about it, or you can be peer-pressured into being a crackwhore. Your choice.

SouthernGrass3 · 2022-09-07T23:40:06+00:00

I don’t think its very common, but it is certainly shitty. I guess some folks think it’s a right of passage, but it’s lousy to pressure.

Title	Why women in college are "picked on" by her peers if she refuses to have a boyfriend or to lose her virginity?
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Date	September 7, 2022 10:59 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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