Why do women on Reddit say almost all of their matches are of trashy men, yet when I look at my female friends Hinge accts, they have a lot of quality men messaging them?

wtknight · 2022-09-09T15:05:57+00:00

Removed. No excessively leading non-neutral discussion questions.

flakybottom · 2022-09-09T14:34:56+00:00

It's funny you used the car analogy, I have a story for that. After I rolled into a 6 figure contracting job post military, I visited the McDonald's I worked at in highschool. One of the women who had been working there 10+ years with no with no promotion suddenly wanted to catch up, even though we barely exchanged words when I was working there in high school. I filled her in on what I was doing, and she seemed into the conversation until I mentioned I had bought a new Kia Forte. She just kinda scoffed at me at walked away. Some women just have stratospheric standards for guys.

Demasii · 2022-09-09T14:36:05+00:00

Because it's Hinge / Bumble. Trashy men don't use those apps.

fruitycoolwhip · 2022-09-09T14:36:25+00:00

I think it’s an entitlement thing. When a woman shows you her tinder insights account stats where she had THOUSANDS of matches and her whole excuse is “well quantity isn’t the issue, the issue is quality!” it’s very difficult not to roll your eyes.

You’re telling me thousands of guys weren’t qualityenough for you? Ok supreme goddess…

SmarmyPapsmears · 2022-09-09T14:33:38+00:00

Because women under rate men and over rate themselves

warramite · 2022-09-09T14:54:15+00:00

Women on reddit will seriously expect you to believe that all 900+ guys who liked her and she ignored JUST want sex and have no desire for a relationship, which is just ridiculous

They want to feel SPECIAL so dating an average guy can't make them feel that way, he needs to be exceptional

Quality Guy = Highly Desirable (6 feet, solid jaw, poplar, rich) + Dark Triad (low empathy + huge ego)

Women are all going for the same guys who have above qualities or poplar

Men are looking for agreeableness and a pretty face... Income, introvert, extrovert,poplar means almost nothing to an average man

0.1% of men are as desirable as average woman, and all women are chasing them. Even if all those guys wanted commitment, its literally impossible for all women to get what they want.

CocoBabeinNYC · 2022-09-09T14:46:22+00:00

A friend of mine was telling me about a recent date she had. The guy was complaining about not getting any matches (red flag = it means he's a loser who's not getting any) and then he started pestering her about having unprotected sex and even asked her how many abortions she's had already. That's what reading red pill and PPD does to the male population.

HTML_Novice · 2022-09-09T14:25:24+00:00

Might be an attractiveness thing, hot girls don’t really go on the internet to debate dating dynamics. Men usually treat hot girls as serious prospects vs uglier girls where they’ll put in minimum effort to smash

JumboJetz · 2022-09-09T14:39:00+00:00

Women are really adept at playing the victim.

Now they do have abusive men messaging on apps for sure though and it might just take 1 or 2 to ruin the experience for them. But saying it’s every message is abusive is obviously absurd.

Any-Bottle-4910 · 2022-09-09T14:40:21+00:00

On tinder, women rate 80% of men as below average. So, ummm, yeah. We all suck. Them too.

sarkington · 2022-09-09T14:42:02+00:00

Because unhappy people complain and happy people don’t? This isn’t rocket science

Ok-Remove3693 · 2022-09-09T14:42:50+00:00

Do quality men exist?

17milestoempty · 2022-09-09T14:47:50+00:00

Because women don’t want “better than a beat up bicycle,” like as long as you drive ANY car, it’s good enough. When you drive a shitty car, you’re always looking at newer cars with envy, you’re always figuring out if you can afford a new car. Why would you want to be with someone whose always looking for an upgrade?

They want the car they want, the one that they WANT. I want to be wanted - I don’t want to be someone’s 2015 Camry because it’s available and affordable. I want to be their first choice.

ManWazo · 2022-09-09T14:53:07+00:00

Try it yourself. Open your tinder to men and you'll see by yourself that most men are either cringe, ugly or boring. There are only maybe 5-10% that seem interesting.

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Anykindofland · 2022-09-09T15:04:59+00:00

Because those men are too ugly to be consindered real human. When women complain about not getting quality matchen they don't want to be told that maybe they are the problem, they want to hear that it is totally fine to shoot for the stars even they themselves can barely leave the basement.

januaryphilosopher · 2022-09-09T15:06:48+00:00

Those are hookup apps. Those "quality" men looking for a "relationship" often are neither in reality. But usually people's online bio isn't "I just want to hook up and here are all the things that are wrong with me".

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