I’m doing a report on gender issues and I really wanted to get your feedback. What are some specific ethical or moral dilemmas you have faced (or that you know of) where female privilege has hurt men?

Anderslam2 · 2022-10-08T05:49:59+00:00

Male. I've been openly sexually harassed in front of other workers and there's fuck all you can do about it.

Vanriel · 2022-10-08T08:35:15+00:00

Male. Walking home from town one day and a couple of random women who I have never met or even seen before grabbed my ass and my crotch. When I told them to stop it they said "oh you're a guy, you love it."

I am a guy and did not love it.

shit-zen-giggles · 2022-10-08T07:33:43+00:00

Hi,

great to hear. I don't know how educated you already are on these issues, thus I start with the

basic collections of sources:

Have you read Warren Farrell's book 'the boy crisis'? If not, I'd highly recommend it as preparation.

A select few issues and high quality sources, I like to present directly (I have tons more, just give me a comment about which topics you'd like to dig into deeper):

systemic bias against boys in education:

An OECD report on gender in education, across more than 60 countries, found that girls receive higher marks compared with boys of the same ability. gender grading gap

american education in numbers

The Media is Writing about Boys and Men? - by Sean Kullman focuses on educational discrimination despite what the title says

Systemic bias in the research of gender issues:

Reactions to research on sex differences: Effect of sex favoured, researcher sex, and importance of sex‐difference domain - Stewart‐Williams - British Journal of Psychology - Wiley Online Library

Systemic bias against men in the court system

Men receive 64% harsher sentences for the same crime compared to women with an equivalent criminal record. Additionally, the prosecution of women is much more likely to be stopped at earlier stages of the prosecution process.

Estimating Gender Disparities in Federal Criminal Cases by Sonja B. Starr

oxalis94 · 2022-10-08T10:38:16+00:00

I’m a nurse, and in my country cervical and breast screening is pushed so much, when prostate screening is not. Also, the whooping cough vaccine is funded for pregnant ladies but not the fathers. Mens health is seriously inequitable and people don’t seem to care.

rickmackdaddy · 2022-10-08T20:04:48+00:00

My son's mom and I finally broke up when he was four years old. I kept trying to make it work for his sake but she really was just impossible to live with. She's a hoarder and I wasn't allowed to clean the house and it fell further into decay, down to way below reasonable or even hygienic. I finally moved out so at least our son would see what normal living was like half time.

She immediately lawyered up and, as the mom, was promptly given primary custody. I had him maybe one night a week for years until she couldn't work the system to her advantage anymore. Going from seeing your child almost every day for four years to suddenly not seeing him for a week or more at a time is a pain that women generally don't have to face -- and if they do it's around some kind of agreed upon travesty like a kidnapping. For men, it's called the Family Court System.

Of course, this permanently damaged my relationship with my son as well for he could only feel like I abandoned him, for years, when in reality I was fighting to get him.

Sininenn · 2022-10-08T14:49:55+00:00

Genital Mutilation - any country or organization that had a policy against genital mutilation, it is only protecting women.

The WHO, and the UN, for example, both have anti-FGM policies, but both of these organizations have campaigns to genitally mutilate men, of course calling it euphemistically...

Phoj7 · 2022-10-08T12:21:07+00:00

I use to work in assisted living way back. Had a few years of experience.

I had serious thoughts of getting into nursing. A hospital around here hires lots of cna’s and sets them up for on the job training for the cna cert.

When I was interviewed there were 2 women doing it. One of them said let her in , for their next interview (me). They looked a little surprised to see me. The interview didn’t stand out really either way for them being weird or not.

I did find out they hired a young woman like 18 with no experience tho. I can’t help but wonder why they would choose someone with no experience who is also physically weaker to do this job (I understand cna have to do a lot of heavy work). I’ve been through that place and all the nurses there are women.

Goyishe_Kop · 2022-10-08T11:51:28+00:00

I am not sure about the question, but I will try to answer anyway.

So in highschool we used to have scholarships and grant competitions advertised by the school. There were not a lot of those scholarships and competitions advertised, but nethertheless ALL of them were only for girls. I advocated as much as I could not to have those, or if the school wants to advertise those women-only scholarships, for them to advertise men-only scholarships as well. Of course, there are probably no men-only scholarships, but the school's own rules said it cannot discriminate against students based on gender, so why they would promote programs which did exactly that, and effectivly give girls more opportunities than boys was not quite understandble to me. But here is the moral dilemma. The school promoting such programs is not ok. But then those programs can help some girls, so it can directly benefit some girls while not directly (aside from feeling of exclusion) hurting boys. So maybe despite being sexist these programs should still be advertised? That was my dilemma.

2022-10-08T18:26:06+00:00

Divorce with or with out kids.

allmyghtt · 2022-10-09T00:13:24+00:00

Male... my brother out with his freinds a girl mate calls out and mouths off to a bunch of guys across the street... who takes the beating ....my brother and he hasn't left the house since he was 17 because of it he's 38 now... the privilege....

Don't hit woman

Riptionator · 2022-10-09T01:47:47+00:00

"Believe Women"

You could write a whole book just on that.

TheeBattleMedic · 2022-10-09T02:49:47+00:00

I’m a guy who has a big butt and growing up constantly was told that I should like being told that I have a big butt and girls like it. I always felt weird about hearing it and some girls even grabbing me. Earliest I remember being touched there was 10. In college people constantly pointed it out and touched or even smacked it. I tried to take it as a joke. But one gay friend enjoyed it too much and tried to flirt no matter how much I said I was straight. Eventually he tried touching more and I told him that’s it, in front of other people and all they did was laugh. Never talked to him again. In one of my jobs I had two coworkers constantly touching my butt or smacking it. I told them in front of coworker not to do it. They both didn’t care, they were both girls and just kept on in front of people. I’ve had people try to invite me home, or treat me poorly since I work in massage therapy which is female dominated, I’ve literally had bosses say they only hire women. I even had one job interview ask if I was gay to basically get the job. I told them no I’m not. I’ve even had some female coworkers tell me they feel bad for male massage therapist cause people will be bias towards men only viewing it sexually vs therapeutically. And I get it, it’s not a manly job, but I make 80k a year. In general it’s also tiring hearing people joke about me in the field, I’m pretty job, I specialize in helping people with sports and medical conditions. Overall it’s a decent field when you have experience but I’d recommend trade school to be a plumber or electrician. Something more secure, my field pays well plus tips but it’s random and unstable when people are struggling.

63daddy · 2022-10-08T15:16:31+00:00

Male students wrongfully punished under biased title ix protocols. The best candidate being passed over because he’s male. Fathers being denied equal child custody.

I’ve personally seen colleges admit fewer and fewer male students due to biases in education such as WEEA.

BaronOfHair · 2022-10-08T06:31:07+00:00

"Female Privilege" is no less of an empty buzzword than Woke terms like Male Privilege are. If you're asking me/us to name a couple of situations in which the subject of gender was injected into a conversation, despite the fact that gender was immaterial to the subject at hand:

-In a discussion with a newish colleague of mine, who can aptly be described as Woke Lite(she bristles whenever someone uses the word "gals", but enjoys going to strip clubs and Breast-araunts of the more raunchy variety, such as Twin Peaks and Tilted Kilts. Go figure), I mentioned amending rape shield laws. She initially agitated, and was persuaded to come around to my point of view primarily by my posting out to her that current rape shield laws also disadvantage female suspects who are accused of hopping into bed with underage boys. Any legislative or policy change we men desire is going to require that we emphasize just how much current policy harms women also

-In a conversation with a fella who's drank Woke Thought's Kool Aid several times over, he continued to defend Amber Heard, by asserting that "she assaulted Johnny Depp as a way to break the power differential", and that "It's extraordinarily difficult for women to prove domestic violence allegations in court". He wasn't interested in hearing my dissent, even after I agreed with him half way, in regards to Depp hardly being an innocent victim in that entire shit storm of a marriage

Unsure1771 · 2022-10-08T13:13:05+00:00

I heard from my mom that it's ridiculously hard to get a vasectomy. They'll do anything to turn you away because "you should have children first"

TFME1 · 2022-10-09T02:43:37+00:00

Admiral Ackbar; "IT'S A TRAP!" /s

Reasonable_Listen514 · 2022-10-08T15:59:18+00:00

Read up on criminal sentencing disparities between men and women. Pleanty of material for a report there.

liga__privada · 2022-10-08T18:08:06+00:00

Men building the modern first world society for women to be more comfortable and to have happier safer families, and women blame men of patriarching them to death.

randomaviary · 2022-10-08T20:04:39+00:00

Women feel they have the right to threaten men who reject them with false accusations or legal action. In the end nothing happened, but it’s pretty stressful to even contemplate someone threatening to use a female biased “justice system” against you.

Derpalator · 2022-10-08T22:39:55+00:00

You people are friggin crazy. Just apply the golden rule in all situations and you will sidestep these shitstorms. Now get back to work or class.

Zenia_neow · 2022-10-08T21:01:20+00:00

r/MensLib stands for Men's liberation and they have great resources when it comes to sexism faced by men.

WeEatBabies · 2022-10-08T13:41:23+00:00

https://7news.com.au/lifestyle/personal-finance/one-off-cash-grant-of-up-to-5000-for-women-left-unemployed-due-to-pandemic-c-1591391

https://www.instagram.com/p/CHsuZjtAzUx/

https://denverite.com/2022/09/12/city-council-approves-2-million-for-the-denver-basic-income-project/

ReWildingOfMen · 2022-10-09T03:45:00+00:00

I'm a man:

Attending a spiritual workshop as a participant. And although I was staying at the workshop leaders place, I was very clear I wasn't interested in anything sexual and was also in a very vulnerable spot after some of the exercises. I somehow got convinced into her bed and she basically mounted me and tried to initiate sex. I just froze up and couldn't really say no for a while. Eventually I was able to say I needed to sleep on my own.

I had been so conditioned by women in my life to think everything was my fault or failing. That it didn't even occur to me to try and address this unhelpful event.

In almost every serious relationship (and also same behaviours in my mother) I have suffered a campaign of: ongoing and subtle smearing, gaslighting, denying, frustrating, creating dependency loops, infidelities, emotional and psychological abuse, intentionally using my pain/trauma as a means of provoking me and hurting me, trying to turn me into a bad person/destroy me/get me to self delete.
My children have been absconded with three times now. My ex does this because she knows it's the most effective way to hurt me - and has no mind for the children's best interests despite the narrative she so convincingly puts out there for everyone else.

I can't see my children due to the smear campaign, false allegations against me, and years of absurd I've suffered at the hands of my most recent ex. Of particular note is her weaponising of my re-emerging memoires of being raped and tortured as a child.

As a survivor of rape, torture and CSA. And was reliving such memories. My now ex was the source of everyone's concern and compassion. "Oh how's she holding up" "how's she coping with everything Daniel is going through" "it's so tough for her", very few people enquired about how I was doing or offered support. This has carried on through our separation. In which all of my community and many old friends have abandoned me due to believing her lies and smears against me.
A friend of mine who I was supporting a few years ago hung himself as a direct result from such invisible and covert abuse, infidelity, flash allegations during separation - not being able to see his kids. I know if many other men that have taken their own lives for the same reason.
In the UK the courts and CAFCASS defacto side with the woman, and are indoctrinated in feminity ideology, which means as a man you're having to communicate through their embedded filters and presuppositions about you as a man. Which makes things very difficult when there's been false allegations against you and the woman is actually the abuser.

Loads more. But that's it off the top of my head.

Temporary_Spend_3111 · 2022-10-09T04:17:23+00:00

Hermesman vs seyer.

The consequence of mary p koss on rape statistics ignoring male rape victims who were raped by women.

Men reported being forced or coerced to penetrate at a rate of 1.1 to 1.5 of the american populace in 2010 2011 2015 and 2017 Rates almost identical to women reporting having been raped.

Women perpetrators of force or coerced to penetrate are a rate of 40 to 48 percent accross the same years. Meaning women rape men almost as much as men rape men.

Its also incredibly difficult to ratio those factors into the rape statistics as well.

https://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/hzyy86/an_older_post_about_rape/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share

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basic collections of sources:

systemic bias against boys in education:

Systemic bias in the research of gender issues:

Systemic bias against men in the court system

Systemic bias against men in domestic violence research and support systems:

Systematic censorship of publications related to men's rights:

Systemaitc bias against men and boys in mental health care