Should I get divorced?

Nobody-941 · 2022-10-23T17:01:53+00:00

Truck Driver AND a Marine…odds were stacked against you already devil. 😊 good luck bro.

TomCatInTheHouse · 2022-10-23T12:13:37+00:00

I am home very little at least 2-3 days a week

I grew up without a father and 90% I’m in it so my kids won’t have to suffer like I did.

Read those two sentences carefully. Do you really think they are growing up with a father?

When I got divorced my ex-wife insisted she was a good mom and was always there for the kids. The reality she was gone all the time. We were separated 8 years ago and divorced 7 years ago. Today, when my teenage daughter talks about her early childhood memories she'll tell you "Dad is always in my memories, but I remember mom was gone on trips a lot. When she was home she was always sick."

dday_throwaway3 · 2022-10-23T10:44:21+00:00

> I am home very little

You cant be a dad when you're barely home.

US_Paratrooper · 2022-10-23T11:13:21+00:00

I recommend trying counseling and seeing if that works. Sounds like you both need to communicate. Everyone has their differences. I was in the military too and had problems in my marriage big time after I got out with my marriage. I came from a divorced family and told myself I had to keep the marriage together for the kids but then years later asked myself what am I doing? I looked at it from this point of view. I said what quality our my kids getting with me if all they see is Mom and Dad fighting? My choice was leaving her after 10 years of marriage and I will say she tried to get me for alimony for life, refused to work saying the entire time she was stay at home Mom. I had no degree and she had one. Long story short the divorce was hell (over 4 years) she was forced to get a job and even went back to school for her Masters. I decided to go to voc rehab and purse my degree and no judge will force a disabled veteran to work while the Women gets to not work and suck the benefits off of the man. Listen man I do not know you but our stories sound the same. My advice is to get out before you get screwed over like I did. You must think strategically. If you do get a divorce she will change completely mire then likely and may try to keep you from your kids in revenge like mine did. Start securing the accounts and start hiding money. Get out of this toxic mess. The kids will understand later. You have a full life ahead of you man. Do not let this woman control you. Set boundaries up. If you do not know what they are look into them. Lots of men go through this unfortunately but never talk about it. Listen man you are not alone. PM me if you would like I will assist. I can share more of my story with you if you would like. After the hell of my divorce and bankruptcy I got my bachelors in cyber security and am finishing my Masters degree now have a perfect credit score and plenty of money in the banks. Guess what? She is pissed I am still going to school. Technically I am not in school I am in “vocational rehabilitation” in the courts eyes. No still pay child support in the amount of $1,600 dollars a month for 2 kids but I feel amazing now. I am about to get marriage to another woman but this time a prenup has been signed and boundaries are in place. Work on yourself man. Hope it works out for you.

Zebrig · 2022-10-23T07:10:55+00:00

The times I am home there is nothing but constant arguments.

This doesn't look like a healthy relashionship, but and this is a big but, before divorcing you can try couples counseling.

I personally would inform her that the relashionship as it is, just isn't working so we can try couples counseling to try to better our communication and deal with alot of underling issues or we can divorce.

This is if there are no other big issues such as cheating or things that big. If she or you have cheated, is best to break it off.

Small_Quarter_3673 · 2022-10-23T14:33:44+00:00

If you get divorced is that better for you and your kids? Think of it that way. Maybe you should be home mire often and help in other ways other than just financially. I say before you divorce make to have done everything in your end to make things right

captainchippsixx · 2022-10-23T15:31:58+00:00

Trucking is a tough job on marriages. Any chance you can drive local and be home at night- or would this cost you too Much $$$?

NickRubesSFW · 2022-10-23T19:02:52+00:00

Know that if you are the sole earner you will likely be paying both CS -and- alimony. I hope you’re earning a lot, because I “make” 80k year and I’m constantly worried about keeping the lights on.

mriu22 · 2022-10-23T19:40:51+00:00

If you love her, then ask her to go to marriage counseling with you. If you do go together, then decide if you're going to make it work or not. If you do, then follow through on your end and re-assess.

If she declines the opportunity for counseling or if you don't love her enough to try, then file for divorce.

James1933-75 · 2022-10-24T02:03:31+00:00

You're trucking ... Because you want to, or because she spends so much you need that type of pay? She cannot have it both ways.

Why are you arguing with her? Just state your terms, listen, and if she continues to argue, just walk away.

MightBusiness7231 · 2022-10-24T07:01:57+00:00

You can’t make a woman happy by letting her have her own way. She doesn’t know what her way is and likely wants conflict and engagement as some perverse confirmation that you’re present rather than absent given you’re away so much working. She’s a single parent 50-75% of the time and is probably going nuts having to make every decision herself. Set up your boundaries and stick to them. But also consider working closer to home if you can. It probably also wouldn’t hurt to get a sitter to take the kids out and fuck her brains out.

Title	Should I get divorced?
Author	Pedialyte1221
Upvotes	4
Comments	12
Date	October 23, 2022 6:55 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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