Female Sexual Responsiveness

creamerfam5 · 2023-01-02T05:34:16+00:00

This supports my long-standing suspicion that women don't actually feel desire, but allow their partners (for reasons of relationship harmony) to stimulate them.

The quote doesn't support this at all. The woman desires intimacy. She desires to be close to her partner.

Many women seek out sex, even those with primarily responsive desire. It's just not prompted internally by their bodies the way that it is for most men. They aren't driven by a felt need for sexual release, they are driven by the anticipation of pleasure, wanting to be close to their partner, etc. They aren't just merely acquiescing to keep the peace. (Although that is true for some, especially when a man is pushy about it)

Mean_Mechanic9889 · 2023-01-02T05:03:21+00:00

I'm a woman. I understand after spending time talking about woman with people of a certian bias could lead to this idea.

Also some woman perpetuate this misunderstanding to try to conform to what they think society wants them to be etc.

But it's not in the slightest true. I even feel nervous writing this anonymously online because it feels like admitting it will cause people to judge me and think of me as low value.

Of course I feel sexual desire. Likely inline with the medium men feel.

If you think about it logically, from an Evolutionary perspective. How could woman not feeling sexual desire make any sense?

I like thick necks, I like intellectual arguments, I like laughing about eachothers dumbass opinions etc, most of all, I like Penis. It has to be attached to a man I've bonded with and genuinely want. But I find the right man's penis very, very attractive. I'm just not aloud to admit it. It feels. Men don't seem to like it.

I'm being totally honest, because I understand redpill stuff isn't just men causing the issue. It's equally en and woman. I hope this is obv some help. I'm not an anomaly. Many private woman's chats I've had, point to most woman being secretly filth (equally as sexually attracted to men as they are to us), we just have to be very repressed and responsible/ rejecty. Because society tells us it's our role.

I wish you well on your sexual journey ahead of you :)

Edit: "I have no sexual desire towards men, I allow my one partner to stimulate me, so he's happy with me in the lifelong relationship I desire with him. I relish his approval, even in the sexual aspects of life I, on my own would never partake in" . . . Sounds abit like an insecure male fantasy if were being fair, but one that stops men without resident girlfriends, being able to find a sexual partner

Telling people that normal woman don't find men attractive, when you really think about it. Is pretty epic dumbassary. Sorry to reply so much and be harsh at the end here. I could go on a lot about how it's narsasistic on the male side for believing without their sexual prowess the entire human race would die out. Expand on how woman will conform to these ideas, as men do to all the redpill bs idea of what men should be Ect but I'll shut up.

RedPillDetox · 2023-01-02T09:21:13+00:00

It would help if you actually posted the continuity of the paragraph:

According to Basson, for many women in long-term relationships, a desire for increased emotional closeness and intimacy or overtures from a partner may predispose a woman to participate in sexual activity. From this point of sexual neutrality — where a woman is receptive to being sexual but does not initiate sexual activity — the desire for intimacy prompts her to remain open to becoming sexually aroused (via conversation, music, direct stimulation, etc.).

So, in other words, men can feel sexual desire in a relatively simple and quick way while women may need to feel emotionally close and intimate to feel sexual desire. At least in the context of Basson's studies, which iirc, are based on a sample of long married couples. You want enthusiastic consent, you create intimicy. How is that "not boding well for future relationships"? I don't know. I've even referenced Basson's as a way to deal with the dread "dead bedroom" married red pill keep obsessing over.

Sounds more like yet another case of a dude who stumbled upon some relatively innocuous, neutral and smallest piece of information and interpreted it in the most catastrophic way possible, like so often happens on Incel forums or so...

LCBrianC · 2023-01-02T15:20:38+00:00

Um… I’m guessing you didn’t actually look at the paper itself. The paper is on women’s sexual DYSFUNCTION, not women in general.

To be fair, it does state that women’s sexual motivation is more complex than men’s, but not that women feel zero arousal.

This is one reason people should never take a journalist’s reading of a scientific paper at face value.

Inareskai · 2023-01-02T17:51:25+00:00

Most people experience a mix of responsive and spontaneous desire.

Here's a youtube video from a sex educator about it: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E9VG82JA1NQ&ab_channel=HannahWitton

The idea that it doesn't 'bode well' for the future or relationships is a bit overkill imo. People still get into relationships and form strong connections etc. Society isn't doomed because a study found women are more likely to respond positively to sexual advances without making the first move themselves.

For what it's worth, I get 'horny' and have sexual desire/make the first move way more than my husband does. We tend to have sex when he wants it so it looks like he initiates most, but that's because 2/3 times I ask he won't be feeling it, whereas I am generally always up for it when he asks. You can't really draw conclusions about singular people based on a broad study.

Mean_Mechanic9889 · 2023-01-02T22:07:43+00:00

Asexuals are people too? Leave your strawman arguments out and please understand you're debating someine on what their own sexuality and life long peers sexuality is.

It doesn't feel like the most respectful thing does it.

theunamerican · 2023-01-02T04:50:41+00:00

I guess this explains why so many couples meet at places like work and other various social functions. The woman is not initially interested in the man, but she becomes attracted to this person as a result of seeing and communicating with him on a daily basis. Did I understand that correctly?

Title	Female Sexual Responsiveness
Author	PutsWomenOnPedestal
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Date	January 2, 2023 4:22 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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