I heard about this group and I'm not sure who else to talk to.

Quarkster · 2013-07-26T06:00:32+00:00

I kicked the hornet's nest, so to speak, when I left a comment on something. I'll admit, I was very harsh and not in a good place when I wrote it.

Don't you dare blame yourself for the vitriolic filth that spewed forth on you. You deserve better.

ClumsyKoalaBear · 2013-07-26T06:21:38+00:00

I'm not lying about what I said. I don't even know why anyone would ever want to lie about that, it's definitely not some badge of honor or anything.

You inadvertently hit the nail on the head it seems. Many of the tumblr 'activists' do wear their victimhood (whether it be rape, obesity, sexual orientation, gender identity, or whatever else) as a badge of honor. It's a key for them to use to get into their victim clubhouse, and whomever has the most keys to the most clubhouses wins the power to be the only one whose opinion on oppression and victimhood matters.

Many are victims who get swept up in the abundant amount of support for their situation, as long as the victim fits a certain set of standards. A male victim of female sexual assault does not fit their standards as you discovered. The support they get is backwards though. Instead of helping the victim get through their issues by connecting with what happened, coming to terms with it, and moving on after acceptance, the support group instead tells the victim to increase their negative feels' intensity, bounce it around the echo chamber of tumblr and focus it at a broadly generalized group which the person who wronged them falls into.

Many others are not victims per say, but more like a Münchausen patient. They see the attention the victims receive and desire the same for themselves, they desire to get the key to the clubhouse. They look for ways in which they were victimized, even going as far to dilute the definition of truly horrible acts so their situation can fit. Essentially you end up where anything a man does is an offense to women, anything a white person does is an offense to racial minorities, anything a heterosexual does is an offense to non-heterosexuals. Not only does it allow everyone in the community (again, as long as they fit the profile of a victim by their standards) to claim victimhood and to pick up their clubhouse key, it also focuses the hatred and vitriol at their targets.

2013-07-26T06:35:36+00:00

I read your post, then I opened the image expecting something different from you, but you were just being honest (and frustrated). These...people who messaged you, is that really how it works? "Kill yourself"? I'm shocked, utterly shocked. Now to the important point, you seem to need professional therapy, have you considered it? You were raped, and this doesn't get cured with just "time" and quotes like "man up". Help and understanding is what you really need.

2013-07-26T05:46:22+00:00

I'll have to finish choking out of disbelief and disgust before I can articulate anything...

Chuhayster · 2013-07-26T06:31:39+00:00

Take it easy. It's just Stupid People Being Stupid on The Internet.

Maybe that anonymus was trolling you or he/she is just stupid. Just like all that quoted tumblr-feminists (top screenshot). Internet as a whole and tumblr in particular can be a very bizzare/shitty place. With girls drooling over chechen bomber BECAUSE HE LOOK SO SEXY or ALL MEN ARE RAPISTS@ONLY MEN ARE RAPISTS idiots. Hell, reddit has a killingwomen subreddit. I use tubmlr and reddit. Reddit is a better place for discussion, even considering karma whoring and crazy mods in some subreddits. Tumblr is for pics, gifs, roleplay and porn.

Pardon my english, it is not my native language.

liquid_j · 2013-07-26T05:29:40+00:00

Hey pal. I think you've made a good decision to turf the tumblr. Echo chamber circle jerks about anything isn't healthy.

It's a brave man that asks for help, and a braver man yet to bring up the kind of hell you survived. Make that post mean something and tell someone else. You've already taken the hardest step, now try taking another and trust someone enough to ask for some help. It's time for you to start healing.

If you need to vent, come here. If you want to talk about your problems with the benefit of anonymity there are plenty of great people in this and other subs you can unload on. Heck, you can even drop me a PM if ya like. But I think the best thing you can do for yourself is talk to a professional.

Be well my friend, and remember your always welcome here.

M4Strings · 2013-07-26T05:52:02+00:00

Best thing to do is just avoid tumblr and its hordes of shrieking femi-nazis. These are people who think that anything in society that seems to benefit more males than females is "patriarchy" and everything that seems to benefit more women than men is "benevolent sexism". You've been unfortunate enough to witness their own brand of sexism, saying men can't be raped because "rape is about power over women because patriarchy". As a semi-decent human being, let me say I'm sorry you had to go through that.

PerfectHair · 2013-07-26T10:22:24+00:00

This is really telling. The person who messaged you got super angry about the idea that you lied about being raped. Yet suggest women do the same? You're a misogynist and one of the worst people out there.

They blamed the victim, accused them of lying and then told them to kill themselves.

So, MRA's are the bad guys, huh?

OP, as an experiment, start a new Tumblr, 'shop the posts to flip the genders, and then post them up. See what sort of response you get. The post the unedited ones. See what sort of response you get. See which gets the most reblogs and notes.

I don't want to sound overly dramatic, but this is exactly why men need their own issues group.

2013-07-26T15:36:14+00:00

False rape accusations don't happen.

Unless you're a man saying you were raped, of course. /s

These people are acting like spoiled children, wallowing in their own circlejerk of self-righteousness. You didn't do a thing to deserve this. You're better than all of them, never forget that. I sincerely wish you strength and the best of luck in your own personal struggles.

ILoveHate · 2013-07-26T06:08:04+00:00

If you're not sure what you're looking for you should check out /r/tumblrinaction. There's a lot of like minded people there who like to bash on the tumblr feminists.

mikesteane · 2013-07-26T07:03:42+00:00

I am convinced that the great majority of depression is of psychological origin even if physiological effects can be identified.

My own long-term depression problem completely lifted about ten years ago, and I attribute this largely to opening up within the safety of a men's support group. May not work for you, but I definitely think it's worth trying.

Poisoninthewound · 2013-07-26T11:03:01+00:00

Good for you for standing up for yourself, OP. You did nothing wrong. However it may be wise to simply ignore such wretched humans in the future.

texas_ironman93 · 2013-07-26T07:13:30+00:00

I'm sorry anyone would attack you with such vitriol for sharing a painful experience. There's a lot of good explanations as to why they did so (you don't fit the victim narrative they have created, maybe their own claim of victimization is a fabrication and they are attributing that to your real experience) but it doesn't excuse their behavior. Just know that the men's rights community is here for you.

2013-07-26T13:03:08+00:00

Fuck em. Feminists are just high functioning retarded people.

JohnPeel · 2013-07-26T16:22:12+00:00

Unless you're a fat, minority, disabled, trandimensional antelopekin then your opinion doesn't matter.

Over here we couldn't care less about who or what people are, just their ideas.

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Tantrical · 2013-07-26T08:16:45+00:00

Go to toysoldier.wordpress.com and get the real research on male rape victims from him. Also google manufacturing victimhood and typhonblue together, that will lead you to an article with the most important stats. Then take all of that info and pound them with it relentlessly. Also read this and show it to them:

http://www.genderratic.com/p/1392/its-shit-like-this-feminists/

2013-07-26T09:26:54+00:00

You seem to have a really hard time. Get well soon! Best wishes!

ClumsyKoalaBear · 2013-07-26T09:38:01+00:00

The irony is (in my experience - no data to back this up) a worrying amount of these Tumblr activists make up their sexual assault/rape stories.

Sasha_ · 2013-07-26T10:01:31+00:00

Feminists are horrible people who say and do nasty things. Don't take it to heart, but do talk to your GP about getting some medication for depression and some counselling. Focus on your own health and forget about Tumblr - it's full of idiots.

2013-07-26T10:32:38+00:00

Whatever you do, please please please, do not take them seriously, do not let them get to you.

They are not an authority on the topic, they do not know what they are talking about, they are not the proper community to deal with this.

People make fun of them for a reason.

SilverIntoSteel · 2013-07-26T14:01:16+00:00

I know it's easier said than done, but you need to take a good hard look at these people, what they do, and especially what they have said to you.

By their own claim they are warriors of equality/rights for women/trying to stop a certain group of people suffering. Fine, good. That's a very noble thing to do. But just you remember that at least one of these people told a rape victim with complete sincerity to commit suicide. These particular people are not good people, they are most certainly not looking to help anyone, they are sexist. This is just an outlet for their sexism. They hate men for whatever reason be it they had a deadbeat father, guys treated them like shit, hell, maybe they read a couple of books and don't have enough functioning logic to form sensible opinions for themselves. Maybe, even, some are victims themselves and they haven't been able to properly overcome their hatred.

You shouldn't feel angry with these women, you should feel pity for them. How bad do you think it must be to go through life being filled with absolute hate and disgust for 50% of the population. They hate the idea of men so much that the sheer audacity of you 'pretending' to have been raped made them want you to physically DIE. That seems to be mental illness more than anything.

You certainly shouldn't feel bad either, people should welcome seeing and fairly debating the other side of any ism if they are sure enough of their beliefs and have a clear, logical basis for why they think and feel how they do. The very point that they went absolutely mental at you shows that perhaps deep down they realise that they are every bit as prejudice as they perceive men to be.

2013-07-26T14:52:50+00:00

I've had hate like that on tumblr. It will all be from one person, and it's important to remember that if it feels like the whole world is screaing at you. This is one loud, obnoxious individual.

In order to protect yourself, I strongly recommend turning anon off.

There was nothing wrong with your comment.

ptgrenville · 2013-07-26T15:41:19+00:00

Feminists are complete and total fucking scumbags. I used to think they believed in equality. I was horribly, horribly, wrong. They've proven over and over and over again that they are complete and total fucking scum.

Rattatoskk · 2013-07-26T16:15:22+00:00

Just remember poster, not all women are like that.

Most of them are more subtle about getting you to put the knife in yourself. This girl must have been in a rush to be so forceful about it.

No faux-friendship.. no pretend empathy... no "If you really loved me.. " Nope. Straight to the point with this one.. "go kill yourself".

I almost respect that. Except for the buzzword diarrhea pouring out of her frothing mouth. Also.. "anonymous".. why talk to someone like that?

You did good holding your ground against her. I daresay you probably even wrenched a few of her clubhouse keys out of her hands.

Yup. You showing her what real pain is probably makes her feel pretty damned cheap. That's the currency, you know? It's obvious that she wants to discredit you for her own point of view. Dehumanizing men means that we are a font of destruction, but not people in need of help.

It automatically invalidates any "victim cards" you might be holding. But you showed her up. You let her see how borrowed her pain actually is.

A warning though.. Don't get mixed up in that crap. Self-victimizing is about as good as re-hobbling yourself with a sledge-hammer every time you feel like you can start to walk again.

It'll keep you in a shitty place. You might own some heavy stock in victimtown, but it's worth it to dump it, just to be yourself, and not a contender in the "who's got it worse" game.

Because.. just playing that game makes you a loser.

Hope all goes well with you in life. And keep it positive.

fukuaneveryoneuknow · 2013-07-26T20:49:22+00:00

But remember everyone, feminism is our "ally".

We should really be working together with them.

Voxx101 · 2013-07-26T22:27:41+00:00

Not really relevant to OP, but i am now considering making a tumblr account to farm feminist tears

Ding_batman · 2013-07-26T08:50:13+00:00

I think you got caught up in a vicious group think attack. The thing is the anonymity of the internet encourages certain people to behave in ways they would never consider otherwise. They are also unable to understand the real world consequences of what they say. Then again, some people are just horrible. But remember it is not your fault they are horrible, and if they chose not to believe you, they are the ones that loose the opportunity to gain a greater understanding of the world.

2013-07-26T10:38:54+00:00

I remembered a recent post, here's a link to a online support center for sexually abused men maybe this will help.

Good luck I wish you well.

jimmybrite · 2013-07-26T11:02:39+00:00

Dude they can't even spell, I wouldn't get bent out of shape for a couple of "slow learning" people.

chocoboat · 2013-07-26T11:04:59+00:00

What an awful person that is.

OP, I hope you can understand how worthless that angry troll is. She has nothing better to do with her life than spread her evil hatred to others on the internet. She is a pathetic and hopelessly immature person who feels terrible about her shitty personality, and the only way she knows to make herself feel better is to hurt others because "misery loves company".

A person like this is not an adult with an opinion worth valuing. She has the intelligence and maturity level of a 4 year old calling you a "poopyhead". Hearing that wouldn't hurt your feelings, right? It's just something 4 year olds do, because they can't control their thoughts or emotions very well. Her sad spewing of filth should be treated in the same way... it should be ignored or even laughed about, because it's not a valid opinion from an actual human being.

avantvernacular · 2013-07-26T12:50:06+00:00

It's tumblr, the place where reason goes to die.

Just stay away from there.

JasinNat · 2013-07-26T14:45:05+00:00

Is that what I sound like? When i rally against women? Is that how i sound like? I'm no different then them...oh god. I'm a horrible person. I'm overcome with rage at them and sympathy for you.

vikingz0mbi3 · 2013-07-26T15:59:07+00:00

Jesus Christ dude this is awful.

I mean I've experienced my share of abuse debating with these "feminists" (to call them that is truly an insult to the women's movement) but holy shit that is beyond evil what she/they said to you.

Keiichi81 · 2013-07-26T16:19:29+00:00

You have the fucking male privilege of not even having to know what rape is. Rape is the weapon that the patriarchy uses to control and manipulate us. Men don't get raped, men use rape.

And here we have the depraved hypocrisy of feminism on display. Men simply cannot be raped, according to radical feminism. Rape is only something that women can experience, and it can only be perpetrated by men. Any man claiming to have been raped is a filthy pig of a liar and a misogynist who doesn't know what real rape is, because patriarchy and male privilege.

It's disgusting, but it's a belief held by many in every echelon of feminist activism. Only women can be victims.

Victory_Disease · 2013-07-26T16:57:50+00:00

I would highly recommend just closing your tumblr, unless you have some compelling reason not to. Based on what you've said, these responses are having a substantial negative effect on your emotional state, so just walk away. It's the internet: it really is that easy. It's shocking how quickly you forget.

If you feel like tumblr is an important emotional outlet or whatever, just open a new account.

KRosen333 · 2013-07-26T17:12:37+00:00

lol leave tumblr, go to /r/TumblrInAction and laugh your ass off :)

AtheistConservative · 2013-07-26T17:25:40+00:00

First, as many posters here have suggested, seek professional help. If you broke your leg, you'd go into to get treatment from a doctor. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you as a person, but there is a strong likelihood that you have a neurochemical imbalance. Taking a pill for that is no different than taking a pill for a heart condition.

Second, make sure you don't have personal information up that they can dox you with.

ClumsyKoalaBear · 2013-07-26T18:22:05+00:00

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Super_delicious · 2013-07-26T19:19:00+00:00

If I could OP this is what I'd do.

matthemod · 2013-07-26T20:53:10+00:00

"Tumblr Feminists, pfft" "I hate Tumblr Feminists."

Lancethebeast · 2013-07-26T21:07:38+00:00

Welcome to mens rights. I am very sorry you had to go through such abuse. I applaud your actions, and how you dealt with those attacks. I hope this helps you take notice to what is happening in the world, and I hope this sets you on the path to changing it for the better.

It was very hard reading your story. Usually when I read self posts here I get angry, and want to have justice. This time was different. I got a sad feeling in my gut, and my mind was completely on you the whole time. I hope you get better, and I hope you get the right kind of help. If you need a friend or someone to talk to, I am available almost all hours of the day.

GoHomeIceKingUrDrunk · 2013-07-27T00:07:42+00:00

I think you were fighting with a 13 year old girl who just discovered feminism. I'm just basing that off their ability to spell, and make any form of coherent point though. Don't get down on what a crazy internet feminist says. You were not out of place saying what you said; you just picked a very hostile place to say it for the first time.

nwz123 · 2013-07-27T19:38:41+00:00

Never apologize for being a human being, for having feelings, and for giving a damn. You wrote that comment because, LIKE A HUMAN BEING, you were hurt by their words of hatred. You had to express this. OWN IT. This is your identity: a human being that is vulnerable to hatred and abuse. We all are.

And fuck them. Fuck EVERYTHING about them. They honestly don't deserve to be where they are; posting from their privileged positions of social power (the ability to direct social force/shame at victims is a fucking position of power), in their first-world environment, thinking they know the world. Fuck that shit; they know nothing.

2013-07-26T14:23:28+00:00

Fuck it. I don't care anymore. I can't read beyond the 3rd screenshot. I fucking wish every one of those fucking harpies gets fucking ovaries cancer and dies a horrible lonely and painful death. There, i don't give a fuck. Call me a missogynist, yes I hate you - i'll wear that badge with pride. Mods of menrights feel free to ban me.

ClumsyKoalaBear · 2013-07-26T08:16:26+00:00

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