What was your redpill conversion moment and how did things change for you after you accepted it?

RubyWooToo · 2023-03-09T18:11:17+00:00

I saw users in The Blue Pill subreddit making fun of RPW, starting reading the posts, and said, "Hmmm, this makes a lot of sense. And unlike everyone on TwoX, these women seem to be happy."

ArkNemesis00 · 2023-03-09T20:10:50+00:00

I came to this community in a happy marriage, after stumbling upon TRP and finding it interesting to read - it's so very male, but so often negative. I did like a lot of the sidebar stuff.

I do appreciate how RP tries to focus on how things are and not how they should be. I like the focus on self improvement, that's mostly what keeps me active here. I really appreciate the RPW sidebar material. I think I improved slightly as a result of what I've learned, which caused my marriage to improve slightly. That's fantastic.

Nothing dramatic. No change of heart. Same life trajectory, worldview pretty much intact. I think a lot of this had come naturally to me already due to my values and upbringing, but there's value in seeing things written out. The advice here works.

AlysArria · 2023-03-09T19:43:00+00:00

I was a staunch feminist for a long time. I am not discounting the efforts of feminists--for decades, they did great work--but the more recent (past 30 years) wave of feminism has not sat right with me, and I tried to overcompensate to bury those feelings.

Traditional womanhood speaks to me. I feel at my strongest and most whole when I am submissive, loyal and feminine. I am not a leader, but I dream of supporting a strong, masculine leader who is my husband. My views are entirely incompatible with societal trends. I wouldn't say I'm spot-on "redpill," but I've much more in common with them than anyone else.

Feminism was making me miserable, online dating was strange and inhuman, and the slow dissolution of masculinity and femininity in favor of this homogenized new age concept felt incredibly unnatural. My brain simply cannot accept or be tricked into accepting the idea that we are perfectly equal and equivalent.

Wife_and_Mama · 2023-03-09T17:13:09+00:00

I was fat and alone at 23, after getting divorced from a lazy psychopath. I wanted to meet a good, hardworking man, who wanted a family. I knew I wouldn't be of any interest to that guy as a morbidly obese divorcee. I'd likely just attract more of what I'd already had. I lost weight, learned to style my hair and do my makeup, started wearing dresses. I found the Red Pill Room blog by Ian Ironwood around this time. I read it with morbid fascination, seeing a lot of crazy but a good deal of truth, as well. It brought me here.

After my glow-up, men started to pay attention. They rarely cared that I was divorced, since I didn't have children. They liked my feminine style. They seemed to appreciate my awkwardness and inexperience. Eventually I met my husband and he's everything I dreamed of having one day. Now we have three kids and are discussing a fourth.

SunshineSundress · 2023-03-09T18:19:37+00:00

I also had to learn the hard way. I had a good amount of male attention/interest, but could not convert that to commitment for the life of me. Every guy I dated turned out to be an asshole who didn’t really take me seriously or treat me well. I was staunchly feminist, leftist, and proud to be disagreeable and cold (“it’ll make them want to win me over,” I thought).

Then I found TRP and RPW from a vice article and laughed at all these toxic men and delusional “pick me” women. But I couldn’t help but keep hate-reading it because it was so interesting and weird. And as I was laughing and mocking this community, my love life got worse and worse and I had a pretty nasty breakup that got me to rock bottom, romantic-wise. And in my cynicism, I thought, “eff this, I’m gonna try those silly RPW strategies just for shits and giggles and to see exactly how stupid those women are being. Because why not?”

And then… it started working. Not immediately, because you don’t transform from an argumentative and masculine b*tch to what Laura Doyle refers to as a Goddess of Fun and Light (a GOLF!) overnight, but I definitely noticed the gradual change in treatment I got from the men I encountered. And then they started to actually spend more time with me unprompted, and more wanted something serious and long-term with me. And then the quality of men I attracted started to rise - I used to attract the socially awkward and unromantic, or the inconsiderate players that would add me to their roster of who knows how many women. After the change, successful (or diligently working to be successful) men who were smart, considerate, and a pleasure to spend time with were the ones who liked me.

By the end of my single RPW days, I literally had to shoo decent men who wanted me to be their girlfriend away like flies, whereas in the past, it was like pulling teeth to get them to even want to spend more time with me or take me seriously. I realized, if every man I encountered was an evil asshole, the only common denominator was me, and once I changed that, the assholes were few and far in between.

And then I met my man, who was and is the most high quality man I’ve ever met in my life. I hate the term HVM because of how it’s been diluted by angry podcasters or completely misconstrued by people who haven’t looked into the nuance of RPW, but if I had to call anyone a HVM, it would be him, lol. And we got along amazingly and everything just fell into place and now years have passed I have a lovely relationship with a sexy masculine man who is a fantastic leader that cherishes, protects, and provides for me. It turned everything around for me, esp the writing of people like u/girlwithasidecar and u/whisper, which is why I so often refer to them. Really glad that this community exists and I stick around here hoping I can help someone like me find success and fulfillment with their love life too!

rustichomemaker · 2023-03-10T03:02:23+00:00

Like others have said I was also staunchly feminist. I never had a problem attracting men but I believed that I was entitled to commitment and adoration from them. I put walls up, was never vulnerable and always needed the upper hand in a relationship. I ended up dating betas in my teens and early 20s that would pretty much let me walk all over them.

When I was 25 I met my now fiancé who was the first “alpha” I ever dated and my usual behaviour was not cutting it for him. I got pregnant just after a year of dating and even though our relationship was rocky we were really fighting tooth and nail to make it work for our little family. I became a stay at home mom and found myself wanting so badly to become a traditional homemaker but was having a really hard time changing my closed off, cold and disagreeable attitude.

I don’t even remember how I found this subreddit but I’m really glad I did. It made me realize that most of the issues in my relationship were not his fault like I was trying to convince myself and they were actually due to me and my attitude/outlook on life and relationships. This group made me realize that I needed to make some big changes if I wanted to achieve the happy family that I so badly wanted. I’m still working towards becoming that traditional homemaker everyday but I’ve progressed SO much. 6 years and 2 kids later we are finally in a great place and have our wedding planned for September.

It’s honestly such a relief to finally let my guard down and be vulnerable with my fiancé and let him lead. I never realized how absolutely draining and exhausting it is to be blue pilled lol. Thank you to all you amazing ladies that have put so much work into helping others become the women that they were meant to be!

Armchair678 · 2023-03-09T17:24:14+00:00

I realized I wanted a man with a good paying job, who also had masculine traits and skills like being able to repair a house and maintain it. I realized there’s very few of those men out there. I thought there were a lot since that’s the type of men my grandfathers, uncles and father were. Nope. Those men are few and far between for millennials. Then I realized that those men want women who are like my mom, aunts, and grandmothers. Feminine, petite, know how to cook and take good care of a home. Things that those women didn’t teach me although I observed them doing it. Contrary to what mr Samuels says women can learn to be good wives and men can learn to be good husbands. You have to put the work in, but there are so many resources now.

undothatbutton · 2023-03-10T15:25:18+00:00

I was vaguely familiar with TRP and some of it resonated but it was so aggressively male and TRP rage stage is really awful to read. At some point I stumbled upon RPW and realized it basically just described the natural dynamic between my husband and I. So I stuck around, read some more, and I like hearing from other women that have the same mindset/dynamic/goals as me. Being able to read from likeminded women has definitely helped me just stand more in my power in my relationship and be a better wife (and mother, too! I have 2 sons so I also do like reading for that reason.)

No_Objective_1239 · 2023-03-10T09:15:39+00:00

It was gradual for me. I was an angry feminist who was triggered all the time. Then I began a journey of self-reflection, self-awareness, and healing my traumas (fear of men, anger towards men). Eventually I could feel the difference between feminine and masculine energy, and tried to practice staying feminine until I’d get triggered, then I’d heal that trigger and go back to being feminine.

I lost most of my desire to do things that required masculine energy, and began wanting to clean, cook, nurture myself and my pets. I developed some self-love. Most recently I began wanting to wear dresses.

Life is so much easier and more enjoyable! And the men in my life have changed. They aren’t so scared and insecure anymore, and have began stepping up to the plate. I can relax now.

I can now identify underdeveloped men VS developed men. In my past, I chose underdeveloped men as I myself was underdeveloped. Those guys are no longer attractive to me.

I had a dream I’ll be single for one year, and I’m 5 months away from that. So we’ll see what’s in store for me. My spiritual beliefs are that once I’m mostly healed, my soulmate will either be attracted into my life or will become apparent to me if he’s already in my life.

90sbabyyy · 2023-03-10T15:48:40+00:00

I know this is controversial but HRH collection on YouTube kinda kicked my red pill in gear. She has very conservative values as a wife that are in line with red pill. She had been on a podcast where she spoke about high value men and modern feminism etc. It all just made sense and I did some more research and found Pearls YouTube channel and then this sub. My relationship is SO much better now.

AutoModerator · 2023-03-09T16:23:20+00:00

Title: What was your redpill conversion moment and how did things change for you after you accepted it?

Full text: I personally learnt the tough way. It happened when a high value man didn't want to be with me anymore because he realised he can get a better girl. I realised how I was looking at the world from the lense of low value people and this is why I was not good enough for the high value man. A lot of people tried to tell me that I should be with a low value man because he will accept me the way I am and its the hvm's fault for having standards. But I realised I will never be happy with a lvm because I'm not attracted to him.

I was already quite traditional in my values (wanted commitment, not interested in casual sex) but now I went one step higher. I realised that if I want a traditional man who is high value and I want him to commit to me, I need to earn that commitment instead of demanding it. And traditional hvm will not settle down with women that don't meet their standards.

I did a whole transformation both with my attitude and image. I started attracting the best quality men and lvm were either not interested in me or used to hate me. The things that hvm used to find attractive, these lvm used to hate (they commented about how I had very high standards in men, I was obsessed with looking pretty and I acted dumb around hvm). Their definition of a dumb woman was someone who didn't give her opinions and smiled and made cute faces while talking. Everything that Hvm found cute these lvm used to hate.

That's when I realised I wasn't doing anything wrong.

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Bulky_Goat_9624 · 2023-08-25T11:04:54+00:00

When I noticed that traditions had started to erode. When masculinity became “toxic”. When competition became a bad thing. When I started seeing self control becoming less emphasized. I started noticing skilled trades dying. This weird wave of modernity is insane to me, they’ve created some of the decay we see today.

Bulky_Goat_9624 · 2023-08-25T11:06:10+00:00

When I noticed that traditions had started to erode. When masculinity became “toxic”. When competition became a bad thing. When I started seeing self control becoming less emphasized. I started noticing skilled trades dying. This weird wave of modernity is insane to me, they’ve created some of the decay we see today.

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