What the point of getting married for men? M18

Billy_King · 2021-03-01T03:26:15+00:00

you're not supposed to put your wife first. The both of you are supposed to put God first and pursue God in an intimate and loving relationship

Deep_Strength · 2021-03-02T00:09:09+00:00

What the point of getting married for men?

Have you read the Bible on what God says about marriage?

I'm being serious with the question. No sarcasm.

If you haven't then that would be a good start. There's some answers here that aren't exactly what God says about it

_SirAugustDeWynter · 2021-03-01T12:17:08+00:00

As far as I'm concerned, there's only three things women bring (or could possibly bring) to the table:

1) Sex, 2) children, and 3) domestic tranquility

And honestly, those all seem pretty tenuous at best. They just don't make 'em like they use to

victosity · 2021-02-28T22:50:12+00:00

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ChadDownUnder · 2021-02-28T23:03:47+00:00

r/askRPC is the place for these sorts of questions. To answer your question: https://youtu.be/-W5eZE8Hv9U

Proper_Screen · 2021-03-01T16:51:19+00:00

I have been thinking and reflecting on why a man would want to get married and made a commitment to put her 1st and the family when he can be working on himself and his dream while putting God first.

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Like if I get married I don't want to put her first and be overly nice which going to make me look like a beta male or going to make me lose focus on my relationship with God and my dreams I got.

I think you're on to something. Why would a man want to get married if it means putting her first and everything else (including God) second? Answer: he shouldn't. Because that's not how marriage is supposed to work. What you've described is an unhealthy marriage. Healthy marriages are great, like others here have said.

OTOH, you're quite young. For now, focusing on improving yourself and growing instead of fretting over getting married seems like the wise thing to do.

2021-03-01T18:01:37+00:00

Marriage means putting your wife first? Have you read the sidebar?

WhereProgressIsMade · 2021-03-01T20:31:40+00:00

If you want to have kids, finding a wife who will be a good mother is the only option that is fair to the kids in my opinion. You could adopt by yourself but it’s better for kids to have a mother too. If you don’t want kids, the only thing marriage offers that you can’t get otherwise is sex. Any other reason you can get without getting married like friendship and companionship.

Nodeal_reddit · 2021-03-01T02:35:25+00:00

If you’re a practicing Christian, then sexual fornication is a sin. The only reason to get married is so you can “fornicate” with your wife without judgement. If you’re asexual or extremely stoic, then even Paul says it’s better to stay single.

AhuraMazda88 · 2021-02-28T23:29:19+00:00

Marriage is not a thing you do for yourself.Marriage is a service not self indulgence.

Ace7734 · 2021-02-28T23:20:54+00:00

Part of this view I think is your age, honestly, when I was around your age I had a VERY similar view, but as I have matured and aged my views have changed, and that’s just something that you can’t control. Another part is probably your past experiences, which is just something that you have to look past.

Now to answer your question, it is what God intended. Marriage between man and wife reflects the marriage between Christ and the church. In Genesis chapter 2 verse 24 it says “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” [NKJV] And that verse is repeated by Jesus in Matthew Chapter 19 verse 5. Also in 1 Peter chapter 3 verse 7, Peter wrote “Husbands, likewise dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to be the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.” [NKJV]

God gave us marriage, and marriage is supposed to make us better. That is my two cents about why men would want to get married, also to have a family, if you believe the scriptures then you believe that having kids when you’re not married is in fact a sin.

dirtyhippie62 · 2021-02-28T22:58:30+00:00

I agree that marriage is often not beneficial in our current climate. But I’d encourage you to think differently about men who get divorced and don’t see their kids anymore. That is not 100% the woman’s responsibility, marriage and child rearing are a team effort. Men neglecting their children does not mean there are no good women. The man made the decision to distance himself from his kids. That doesn’t mean the woman is bad. Those are two separate things.

kingbossdj · 2021-03-01T02:09:34+00:00

MGTOW IS FREEDOM

SatyaNi · 2021-03-01T00:22:29+00:00

For a man, the only point is to have and raise children ! Period.

DrMarqo · 2021-03-10T09:35:44+00:00

There are few things God specifically pointed to and said they're good or bad.

Man being alone is one of the bad ones. Genesis 2:18 And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.

A married man is a favored man. Proverbs 18:22
Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.
Our earthly marriages are supposed to simulate the great mystery of our brideship to the Christ. The marriage template is the one of God.
Unless otherwise, God intends to accomplish his purposes through a family structure. Headship, Submission, multiplying, nurturing, protection being the basics.

However, that being said, if you have a calling requiring your celibacy or one where you will be too mobile to settle, it's okay not to marry.

1 Corinthians 7:1 Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman.

Title	What the point of getting married for men? M18
Author	justinis14
Upvotes	27
Comments	48
Date	February 28, 2021 10:32 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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