ex-BF told me he was ready to pay me for sex.

FemclFleshBeckyBones · 2019-11-09T19:39:18+00:00

Don't submit to that sis. Your self esteem and self respect don't need that. And if you're in a position where that offer of money is going to make a big difference then focus your energy on getting to a better place in life. Regardless, block his ass.

ponchoacademy · 2019-11-09T21:08:45+00:00

He's reducing you to a service and purposefully trying to demean what your relationship was into something he can buy. He wants to see just how little you think of yourself that you're willing to spend time with him because he's paying you to.

Don't fall for it.

But if you really want to drive the point home to yourself...ask him how much he's willing to pay. Escorts are around $500/hr. Anything less and you'll see just how little he thinks of you for entraining the idea. That he's even asking says plenty enough though.

FYI...Even sex workers are selective about who they do business with. Ever hear the phrase, he couldn't even pay someone to have sex with him? That's cause even pros have standards.

AverageToHot · 2019-11-09T19:30:52+00:00

Block him.

DM-ME-CATS · 2019-11-09T19:24:11+00:00

He's an ex for a reason. Seems a little demeaning and suspect but its your life if you want to. I would be mad as hell tbh

Spice_Cat_Puccino · 2019-11-09T19:28:19+00:00

Are you tempted? It’s understandable if you are. If you think the money is really worth it, I guess you can go for it, but I think you know it’s a bad idea.

What happens when you meet someone you want to date and he gets mad that you decide to cut him off?

extraacct1234 · 2019-11-10T00:37:06+00:00

Tell his to cut off his own dick and shove it up his own ass hole and that you'll pay to see it. When he gets angry say "What? Not flattered? It was a compliment!"

Ms_Tilly · 2019-11-09T19:58:02+00:00

Omg I could see this happening to me because he is an ugly, fat troll and has all but said he would before, but I have him BLOCKED EVERYWHERE.

Your ex is pathetic and lazy. He'd rather pay for it than be a decent human being that can attract and keep a woman.

TheLastUBender · 2019-11-09T20:46:19+00:00

I could see that working if it were sort of an fwb situation and this was more or less a game between the two of you.

But this seems more serious. You could expose yourself to big problems if he is a vengeful ex and this gets out. It would nuke your career from orbit.

Not to mention, risk of catching stds if he is in the habit of hiring escorts. I'd pass.

dackaroo · 2019-11-09T23:00:48+00:00

Sounds like he wants to demean you by "making a whore" out of you.

TheMarbleSlab · 2019-11-09T22:38:52+00:00

“I can’t believe you have slept with prostitutes before. You disgust me.“ block him after.

2019-11-10T06:25:46+00:00

I would feel demeaned.

CuriousCatNYC777 · 2019-11-10T04:56:13+00:00

Find a way to safely extract the cash without sleeping with him.

abicus4343 · 2019-11-10T01:11:27+00:00

That's not a lot of information to go on...what is the context here? How did it get to this? Do you need money? How do you feel about this?

There is nothing wrong with taking money for sex, men should always pay in one way or another, be it money, resources, time, commitment, whatever, but they should always invest in you. If you don't mind having sex with him and you want the money then name your price, see what he says, or if he makes u an offer, double it, make it worth your while, dont sell yourself short. Who cares what anyone thinks, its your body to do with as you wish. If you dont feel right about it and you don't want to have sex with him then just say no, it's up to you.

I had a guy chase me for 9 months, he was obsessed with having sex with me. I turned him down over and over. Finally I just said come to the table with something more on offer then just your dick and we'll talk, dick is worth less then nothing. He told me to name my price, I asked for $2500, he accepted, we fucked. Win, win as far as I'm concerned. I wanted to have sex with him anyway so may as well get paid on top of it. I wouldn't have sex with someone I wasn't attracted to for money but if I'm into it anyway why not?

Dont let anyone shame you or tell you what you can or cannot do with your body. Shaming women for demanding something in return for sex is just a male tactic to try to get women to give them sex for nothing, no investment, no effort....fuck that. Men have always paid for sex in one way or another throughout history, they used to have to provide for, protect and support a woman for life in exchange for sex and companionship. This is the first time in history women have just handed it out for free like a cheap all you can eat buffet. Know your worth girl, name your price on your terms.

If you dont feel good about it and you think it would make you feel icky or damage your self esteem then just say no. Otherwise go for the gold girl and enjoy yourself! It can be a hot role playing fantasy to, it's what you make of it, life is short!

Edit: I just read the rest of the comments here...so much hate for sex work, why such judgey prudes? Who cares if he offered her money? She doesn't have to accept it, and if she does, who cares? Two consenting adults can do what they like, who are you to judge? Too many women are giving it up these days to abusive douche bags and not even getting a date or basic level of respect in return, how is that any better?

Title	ex-BF told me he was ready to pay me for sex.
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Date	November 9, 2019 7:16 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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