Is it ok to be a childless housewife?

pearlsandstilettos · 2022-07-06T20:15:47+00:00

There is an RPW answer to this and it is this:

Whatever your partner and you decide works is "ok".

Anyone giving advice should be speaking to the last two questions the OP asks - "Has anyone expressed similar feelings? How did you get over them".

Just because you don't think that this is a good lifestyle doesn't mean that it is a problem for the OP and her husband. Your opinions are not advice.

sunglasses90 · 2022-07-06T18:03:22+00:00

It ok to do anything you want. It’s a free country. If you and your husband both think that it’s the best option for you both then that’s the way to go.

Anonymous_fiend · 2022-07-06T18:31:38+00:00

Until I got pregnant I was like this. Although I did babysit or work pt occasionally. Maybe you can tutor or babysit whenever you want more stimulation. No matter what you do you'll get remarks. It's not their life. People are judgemental and right now its common to not value domestic work or femininity. A lot of it is resentment. Many women work and still take on a majority of the household work. If your husband wants this kind of relationship too that's all that matters. Well and affording it.

Think of all you are contributing so he can come home to peace and succeed. You are still valuable and don't need to prove your value to other just because they don't see it. Their values may not align with yours. Cooking, cleaning, running errands, etc is work. People get paid to do those outside of the house. Many two income households go out to dinner/work lunches a lot and have the occasional house cleaner. And then there's the gas to commute. And making sure you look professional (clothes, shoes, hair, makeup, etc). By using your extra time to do some of these yourself you're saving a lot. You can't put a price on creating a peaceful home. If being a housewife improves your relationship and brings you contentment then it's a worthy investment.

sicrm · 2022-07-06T19:07:01+00:00

besides yourself obviously, the only person it needs to be okay with is your husband.

Travel_Amazing · 2022-07-06T18:00:50+00:00

If hes ok with it, there shouldnt be an issue.

Legitimate_Ocelot718 · 2022-07-06T18:25:05+00:00

If it works for you and your husband, go for it! I waw before I had children and it gave me time to really perfect skills that are super valuable to our family.

Lots_SaltyAss_Wife · 2022-07-06T20:11:56+00:00

If you want to do work for income do a side hustle at home. Like women sell online embroidery, smithing, soaps, a trade of some sort part time and I do it as well but for woodworking. You can also do childcare as income and work from home or even do catering like cooking for parties and baking.It's a suggestion if you want additional work to have as an option.

ComfortableCulture93 · 2022-07-06T18:24:31+00:00

I was a childless housewife for 2 years before I had my baby. My husband and I decided together that he works so hard to make so much money that my salary as an educator was essentially negligible and my time was better spent at home.

By not working, I was able to be more happy and less stressed. I was able to spend time everyday on fitness and looking optimally cute. I was home whenever my husband was (because you know what teaching hours can be like.)

My husband says all the time that he like that he can shelter me from the crazy intense world so that when he comes home he comes home to this magical bubble.

Of course I dealt with a lot of people looking “down” on our choice, especially since I spent way too much money on an Ivy education. But I don’t regret it at all. Your life experience every single day vs what some people think.

2022-07-06T18:23:48+00:00

Girl it’s the dream! Enjoy it!

RelevantGoatCatcher · 2022-07-06T18:04:52+00:00

I was a childless housewife for a long while. I know that many housewives that don't have children. I don't believe children are a requirement for being a housewife. I think it is wonderful to become a housewife. I can understand wanting to leave the teaching field with the way things are going.

I had issues of feeling embarrassed when I first became a housewife without having children for many years. I finally got over it by realizing how much it made my husband and my relationship so much better. I also as hard as it is to say just stopped caring what society thinks of me staying home. Their opinions have no validity in my life. Of course that is easier said than done.

I have been a housewife for 12 years now and my family is so much better than when I was trying to work and make a career. We save so much money, the house is so much more cozy. But even more so my marriage and family is stronger than before.

beefstockcube · 2022-07-06T23:08:50+00:00

"Work really gets in the way of living, thankfully I won't have to do that for much longer"

We aren't 'made' for work. It's a capitalist/industrialist's dream that schools and society, in general, are focused on extracting the most possible for human capital.

My wife quit as soon as I reached a point where her salary wasn't needed (it was a sizable salary well into 6 figures). If people don't like it, which they won't, that's on them. I mean who wants to work?

lagoonbishop · 2022-07-07T14:13:37+00:00

Everyone here says, 'what your partner and you decide is ok', 'it's your life', 'do what you want' etc, but this is a red pill page. Deep down we are social creatures, and we care about what others think of us. We want to attend family meetings and parties and look neither awkward nor creepy. We want to belong. While this is not a good reason to have kids or be a stay-at-home wife, I think the OP wants to know if it is socially ok to be a childless housewife.

Here's my take. The biggest part of being a housewife is taking care of kids. You see why it feels awkward if you're a SAHM without the 'M'. Please don't stay at home for the sake of it, if you want to, at least have kids before you do.

PinkHuckleberry · 2022-07-06T22:06:54+00:00

I’m one! People questioned me for a while after I quit my job, but I never let it bother me. My husband and I are both happy with this lifestyle and I couldn’t imagine going back to work.

metajenn · 2022-07-06T23:50:42+00:00

I just straight DGAF about the opinions of people brainwashed by capitalism.

I feel more satisfaction putting my effort into making my partners life better than making some faceless CEO's life better.

As far as contributing to society, there's so much more opportunity to do that outside of a paying job. Volunteering, baking, mentoring, coaching etc do more for the community anyhow.

We do not have to justify our existence by amount we contribute to GDP.

MoneyHungeryBunny · 2022-07-07T00:32:09+00:00

This sounds like my dream life! Childfree, married, housewife with a successful side business and a dog. 😍 I don’t even want kids…now finding a husband who share the same ideals is another thing.

GrumpySunshineBxtch · 2022-07-06T22:03:44+00:00

It’s your life, you do what you want.

Winter_Lie_4994 · 2022-07-07T00:57:43+00:00

Some women have spoiled this for women like you who seek something like this.

hipopper · 2022-07-07T02:49:50+00:00

Maybe the embarrassment you feel is an important signal you should listen to. If you feel embarrassed of your choice, maybe ask yourself why instead of trying to get over it. If your insecurities make you feel self conscious, work on the insecurity, not the consciousness.

Those_Lingerers · 2022-07-07T02:55:14+00:00

I understand what you mean. I am happily childfree. My husband works as a physician. After my first husband passed away, I never quite got back on my feet fully. I was always independent and hardworking, but I have my struggle with anxiety now as a result of his death. Coincidentally, my husband and I found that what works best for us is that he is the provider. He makes good money. I take care of things around the house, which is all the stuff he hates. I do laundry, I cook all his meals and pack his food for work. I keep our home clean, do the grocery shopping, and help out with our side business. I don't have a traditional job anymore, and sometimes that does make me feel like I'm easily judged as being lazy, a mooch, or God knows what else. But this is the lifestyle that works for us. I always ask him if I need to bring in extra income, but it doesn't make sense for us because what I would make working full time for a month, he would make in about two 12-hour shifts. All of that time spent at work would mean my husband and I would have to split household duties, and that would reduce our quality time together. So, do what works for you. People may judge but it's really none of their business anyway.

I will advise you to maintain structure in your life when you don't have a traditional job providing that for you. Hobbies, social life, and goals are important.

pinkandpurplepens · 2022-07-06T21:12:05+00:00

I recently made this same transition (also a teacher) and I just explained to people in a way that made a little more sense to them. Instead of saying “housewife” say you’re “taking a year off.” No one needs to know that I will never return to teaching. Over my dead body

yourbadformylungs · 2022-07-06T21:59:17+00:00

Yes, you can still be considered a valid hard working house wife without kids. I am not one, although I stay home and do all the at home tasks for my bf and take care of my dog. My daily tasks usually keep my days pretty full.

My family also highly values career oriented women over women in the home. While I’m fine with their differing opinions, sometimes it can be down right hurtful and unnecessary. They’re distaste for my profession will not sway me now or in the future when I do become an actual housewife. I also have some family members that are completely on board with what I do.

What matters is that you and husband are happy and content with your arrangement rather that what other people think of you.

2022-07-06T20:44:12+00:00

Don’t be embarrassed, anything saying anything bad is just jealous

Creepy_Speaker1852 · 2022-07-07T07:45:49+00:00

Be happy, be what you like. The relatives won’t get you through things, you will. Loosen up, enjoy your life like it’s just once, if I were you I would be happily planning my time off with recreation

keetzmermaid · 2022-07-07T06:29:48+00:00

No I don’t think it fits the red pill etiquette. You need to have kids to be a high value woman.

anxietanny · 2022-07-09T12:03:46+00:00

My husband and I have both had periods where we were the stay-at-home partner. We do not have or want kids. I wish I had better news, but everyone judges. They judged me for not having kids. They judged him for not supporting the house - even though I loved he was taking care of the house and did it really well. We tried laughing about being a trophy husband/wife, I told people that my husband was retired, etc, etc.

Because people judge and WILL, it’s just important to be mentally prepared to make the best decisions for yourself and your partner. I was also a little embarrassed, but at work, I’m embarrassed about other things that come up. I get judged there, too. Good luck!

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