I tried to remove a Narcissist from my home back in February and he broke my wrist. (Lots of details I’ll skip regarding that, for now.)

I installed security cameras. Let him stay here while my wrists healed. Used him for lifting and other chores I couldn’t do with two broken wrists. (I only documented one. Long story for later.)

Wrists finally healed and I then kicked him out in front of two audio and video recording cameras. This was successful.

I filed Domestic Assault charges by a Law Enforcement officer with the State.

They investigated, thoroughly I should add. Contacting my medical professionals, etc.

The DAY the Criminal Investigator placed the final report on the Attorney General’s desk for review— the Ex filed stalking and harassment charges against me! 😳

This is a common technique used by Abusers, used to discredit the victim and to DARVO themselves as the victim, creating a smokescreen of diversion/distraction.

My little recovering-self ponied up a top-notch lawyer, and yesterday went to Court in defense of that Protective Order. (Finding an attorney was a lesson in persistence. All the Domestic Violence Resources for my county were withdrawn from my use because he shares the same County “employer” as the DV Advocate and the Prosecuting Attorney!!!!). WTF comes to mind. That’ll be my next battle, that they create an Alternate Plan for when this next happens.

The case was dismissed! The Judge dismissed the stalking charges against me. :)

I am still waiting on the case from the State for breaking my arm.

He got chewed out a little by the Judge for creating false drama where none existed. And one of his coworkers, another deputy, was the bailiff so everyone will hear about our dirty laundry soon. (My attorney said he saw the Bailiff laughing at the Ex and his ridiculous allegations.)

His reputation has been dinged. His narcissistic ego has been dinged.

He represented himself, so that’s another blow to the ego.

Ladies: Do NOT let shit slide just to avoid the confrontation — and to be happy to have gotten away! (Yes! Get yourself safe — but don’t roll over and let them get away with abuse!)

Stand up for yourself. Value YOU.

Stand 👏 your 👏 ground! 👏

One day, there will be some woman somewhere who will be Googling this name, and my charges of assault and the dismissed charges of his attempt at gaslighting the Court, will show up. (I already know of three other Abuse victims of his…)

While this is only the beginning of a war, the first shot was fired and I’m still standing!