My (22M) girlfriend (21F) was at a house party where her ex boyfriend was, and she smoked weed with him. Should I break up?

TrueNeutrall0011 · 2023-04-06T10:35:07+00:00

This thread will get deleted but in short don't listen to advice here. Partners should not be friends with exes it isn't insecurity on your part it shows a like of boundaries.

Also, she isn't conscientious. That is a big indicator for relationship failure.

The internet hates men so of course you're going to get blamed for everything and told you're insecure. You're not though. Exs aren't friends and she could have just as easily said no thanks but she didn't want to, she wanted to smoke with him.

abaxeron · 2023-04-06T10:31:18+00:00

Mods be like "UUUH Removed for being an advice thread; No men-to-men questions"

Don't know; decide for yourself. Relationship is always a risk, a sacrifice, and a concession.

therealcosmicnebula · 2023-04-06T10:41:50+00:00

I wouldn't date someone that's friends with an ex.

Not being friends doesn't mean you hate them. It means you're not friends. Say hi when you see them and keel it moving.

I'd dump her, personally,.

BUT these days literally everyone has these weird ass grey boundaries so she probably didn't see anything wrong with it.

MarBitt · 2023-04-06T10:39:31+00:00

Decisive things for whether to break up, for example:

Do you have a future together? Is your relationship going somewhere? Is she a woman you'd like to have a family with someday?

Do you love her? Does she love you? After a year and a half, infatuation may fade and you will start to see things that you used to overlook. It is important whether you have built love between each other during the infatuation. And whether the relationship can successfully transition to a stage where you love and accept each other even with faults and flaws.

Are you compatible? That's what you're asking here, but what you're writing about is a small thing in itself, and it depends on whether you are otherwise compatible or if this small thing is just the tip of the iceberg of deep mutual differences. I can't tell from what you wrote, you have to decide for yourself.

If overall your relationship is fine, it's going somewhere, you love each other, you respect each other and it's just about this little thing, then definitely don't break up. Communicate and work also on yourself to increase your tolerance. If you are dealing with this little thing because you are annoyed by much deeper problems, then be aware of them, put them into words and then either solve them or break up.

By the way, they'll probably delete it here because it's not for relationship advice. Also, as a man, you can't ask other men here.

TrueNeutrall0011 · 2023-04-06T10:35:50+00:00

Try the men's rights sub because people here are going to roast you alive.

gymbronyc718 · 2023-04-06T10:45:09+00:00

I mean if she was my girlfriend she definitely wouldn't be going to parties and clubs and meeting men. Ex or not.

The_Noble_Lie · 2023-04-06T10:30:48+00:00

How jealous are you of the ex on a scale of 0-10?

Barneysparky · 2023-04-06T10:31:10+00:00

It's already turned into something worse, you should not be in a relationship, and eventually, she will break up with you. She did nothing to lose your trust. This is on you.

She's not too anything, she is herself. She is not responsible for your potential paranoia in a situation where she did nothing wrong.

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PrinceArchie · 2023-04-06T10:42:25+00:00

You set a clear boundary about exes, she nonchalantly answered. She doesnt respect your boundaries. You aren't being paranoid, and anyone who condones this kind of behavior is being disingenuous. You being trusting of her is honestly being very generous to be honest with you, its entirely plausible to assume drug and alcohol use at a party can lead to something if you aren't being vigilant. You'll get flack for this, but this is simply a no go. Break up with her, get with a girl who can agree to your boundary of not seeing each others exes. Thats entirely reasonable.

RP-MJ · 2023-04-06T10:46:00+00:00

Leave that bitch

She already ended things by doing that

You can't control so don't focus on it

Also what is your gf doing at a party ?

DzejSiDi · 2023-04-06T10:48:03+00:00

Most accurate answer here is IMO "it depends"... which is kinda useless. I think classical answer to a problem like that was "demote her to plate". You can be as friendly with other girls as she is with her ex, or even more, no hard feelings, no drama, you can always monkey branch to another girl to be more serious with.

n015y · 2023-04-06T10:51:04+00:00

The only type of girl I’d be with is the one that wants me to go with her any social event.

Mrs_Drgree · 2023-04-06T10:52:24+00:00

No advice threads

daddysgotanew · 2023-04-06T10:53:01+00:00

Any woman that entertains men from her past is a no-go for anything serious. Recreational use only. A bunch of simps will disagree with me, but that’s why they are simps that end up getting sloppy seconds

Title	My (22M) girlfriend (21F) was at a house party where her ex boyfriend was, and she smoked weed with him. Should I break up?
Author	n015y
Upvotes	7
Comments	56
Date	April 6, 2023 10:27 AM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/PurplePillDebate
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