This is something that bothers me, and encounter quite frequently. I've never really been able to find a definitive answer to this, which annoys me because I don't like loose ends -- and I don't think simply solipsism alone is an adequate answer.

The reason for this post was triggered by: http://takimag.com/article/feminist_fallout_a_roll_call_of_regrets_gavin_mcinnes posted in /r/TheRedPill

Soon as I read it, I thought to myself, "Even though the author repeatedly tries to point out that women are just as capable as men, but trying to do everything a man does may not lead to the happiest path in life, the comments are going to be filled with the offended."

I thought this, because it's a trend I see enough to create a stereotype. I don't understand it, I simply don't. Just because one gender is better at doing something, for some reason that seems to be a personal attack on the opposite gender. I mean, it's not a big deal. Strengths and weaknesses are a part of life. It's not sexist, the same way it's not elitist, to say X group generally is better/happier doing something than Y group. I mean, there are much taller men than me who genetics blessed with height, and when they say, "Hey, I'm a better basketball player than you." The reality is, yeah, they are. I mean, sure I can be the next Pippen, but that's unlikely. Genetically, the 6'8'' players are going to wreck me at basketball. That's not a bad thing. That's not an act of oppression. It just is; it's reality. The same way that a at-home wife is probably better than an at-home dad because the momma has some built in feeding tits that I can't possibly compete with.

Anyways, lo-and-behold the top comment:

So women are silly and cute when they pretend they're men? Is it akin to watching a dog try to talk or stand up on its hind legs like people? Men in theory can have children until they're old but the chances of them siring "special" children increases as soon as men leave their youth.

The first part is her completely trying to take the comment as offensive. Even though the author is trying extremely hard to make it very clear that men and women have equality opportunity, women have all the right in the world to take any path in life they wish, and women are just as capable as men in most regards, the commentator still views at as saying "Women aren't good at doing things as well as men, and when women try to do things men do they are just being silly."

I mean, just read the article and then the first part of the commentator. It's like they are in separate worlds. The commentator is missing the point only to take it as a personal attack.

Then there is the later part. Again, she's so upset that she feels the need to say the equivalent of, "Well men have problems after 30 too!" as if presenting a biological fact is somehow an attack on her personally as a human being, and feels obligated to retaliate and punch back. While it's true that the older the man gets the greater the risk of mental health issues in the offspring risk, the risk is not even remotely near the risk of women trying to have kids at 40; who cares whether or not that's true for men? It's moot and irrelevant. The point is women tend to have regret not having kids earlier in their life. Done. That's it. No one is trying to claim superiority or inferiority, just fact. It's not a personal attack on anyone, so why turn it into one?

Like I said, I see this ALL THE TIME! I know, it's anecdotal evidence, but it happens enough for me to start building a stereotype around it. For instance, I'll say something like, "Women with short hair generally aren't attractive. Sure, there are a few here and there -- I'd definitely fuck that Harry Potter chick -- but overall women with short hair aren't attractive." Then I'll get a woman to respond with, "OMG! So women with short hair can't be attractive? That's bullshit! Guys drool all over that Jennifer Lawrence! Such a contradiction! Plus, do I need to grow my hair out now to appease you?"

Obviously I'm exaggerating a bit to make a point, but you got the idea. I mean, we are on TRP, so we see it all the time with the opponents... If you ever say, "Yeah, I think girls in their 20s are hotter -- considering all other things being equal. I mean, come on, objectively think about it. Obviously girls in their 20s are physically hotter. You'd have to be an idiot or a guy with a kinky fetish to think otherwise." And then the response is something like, "OMG Okay, so since I'm 32 I'm useless now?!" Obviously I never said that. I'm not personally trying to offend this lady. For all I know, she's smoking hot. But I wasn't talking about her. I was talking about the general truth of attractiveness.

I really don't understand it. I can go on and on giving examples I encounter all the time where someone says something, from preference to truth, and a woman takes it as a personal attack.

My current leading theory is it has a lot to do with women wanting to be seen as sexual objects encapsulated with solipsism. They want to be desired by men. So when a man gives his personal preference on something, they take it as an attack on their capacity to be that sexual goddess they desire to become (notice the HAES movement. You'll never see men in that movement. It's just women trying to redefine attractive in their favor). If you point out that women, statistically, are happier being mothers, again, they take it as a personal attack claiming that she as an individual is incapable of being happy as a non-mother, and subsequently a bad partner in the eyes of men.

Again, I just want to point out that this is fresh theory and I really am just throwing shit at the wall trying to figure out this aspect of female defensiveness and internalization.