How to act more feminine as someone with a more masculine haircut/wardrobe

Jenneapolis · 2023-06-21T03:08:01+00:00

Maybe what would help is to imagine the type of guy you are interested in. Maybe you even have some examples from the past. Now ask yourself, what kind of girl is he going to be interested in? I assume you are here because you are looking for a leader type, yes? If so, you are going to have to really make some changes.

You can have a feminine short haircut and don’t have to wear skirts but do not wear men’s clothes. You can definitely find the long version of feminine pants online. I would encourage you to try some very basic make up - lip tint, mascara, pressed powder maybe to start and wear dainty jewelry.

But your behavior is definitely going to need an overhaul if you want to attract a quality guy. You are not changing your personality by changing your behavior - you will still keep your interests, passions, and quirks - but you are changing how you present yourself to the world. Don’t be loud, don’t be argumentative, practice saying what you want to in a softer, kinder way or just shutting up entirely. Notice when other women behave in an argumentative aggressive way how you think of them and realize that’s how you appear to other people.

sageparadise · 2023-06-21T12:33:14+00:00

I mean so many brands have tall sections now you don’t need to wear men’s clothes. Short hair and men’s clothes is a recipe for disaster because you won’t look straight, thus not attracting the man you want.

diaryofalostgirl · 2023-06-21T13:40:33+00:00

The only thing I feel I can realistically say here is that a lot of your feminine wardrobe changes are going to come in the detailing. Instead of crisp, masculine cuts, go for softer, more feminine ones. Try a frill, try ruching, basically try something you don't think you'd ever see in menswear. When it comes to pants, consider intentionally styling some pants as crops -- men do not. A wide-leg crop is not a bad idea, and may create the illusion of a skirt without being a skirt. Likewise, try delicate jewelry that a man would never wear. Avoid leather anywhere but the strap of your watch; chains are thin, not chunky.

narudoll · 2023-06-21T19:14:40+00:00

i’ve had short hair for a while and really struggled with feeling feminine- this sounds silly but little butterfly clips to hold back my side bangs look & feel super cute, and i’ve gotten a lot of compliments!

Dehydrated_Jellyfish · 2023-06-21T18:05:02+00:00

Midi shirts and skirts with shorts under. I know they don’t feel as functional but skirts are pixie dust on men in a way I never knew until I did it. You can get cheap wrap dresses that are so easy to style that pants will eventually look like more work because you have to pick out a top. You can add thermals under a cheap wrap dress for winter. PLUS skirts and dresses are more forgiving with height as inseams don’t matter and a maxi can be a midi or even a dress in different heights. You just have to worry about hip or waist size. Yes, RIP minis.

CranberrySoftServe · 2023-06-21T20:42:22+00:00

For what it’s worth, not wearing makeup isn’t really “masculine”, and there’s a lot of more traditional men out there who actively prefer women who don’t wear it. Food for thought!

For women’s clothing with different lengths check out eshakti, you can usually customize the lengths of the sleeves/pants/dresses/skirts for the pieces they sell on their site!

WhatIsThisAccountFor · 2023-06-21T07:31:06+00:00

Well, let's recap:

You know your short hair isn't preferred, but don't want to change it.
You know makeup would improve your look, but you don't want to wear it.
You know what attractive clothing looks like, but prefer to wear men's clothes and don't want to change it.
You know your argumentative personality is not preferred, but don't want to change it.

Summary: You know what your "problems” are, but you're too stubborn to work on yourself and change anything.

Now this isn't a problem if you are happy with who you are, you just need to understand that you will limit your options as a tall, short haired woman who wears men's clothes, doesn't wear makeup, and enjoys arguments, but is interested in men. Since you posted here though, you clearly want to change something. You can't change yourself without being willing to change anything about yourself.

Flat_Shower · 2023-06-21T02:45:39+00:00

Just to hold up a mirror, you’re saying:

You acknowledge that hair and makeup is important to femininity, which you desire, but are unwilling to change you hair or wear makeup. You don’t like feminine clothing, such as dresses, and wear men’s clothes.

Respectfully, I might suggest you take a step back and ask yourself if you’re actually ready to change, even if you say you want to change.

jenna_grows · 2023-06-21T13:55:52+00:00

Your options are incredibly limited.

Work on your body, at 5’10 you could look like a catwalk model. And then if you must wear pants, get them tailored or - better - made bespoke for you.

I’ll admit that I’m 5’3 and have waist length hair, but I got a few pairs of high waisted pants with wide legs that cinch at the waist and they’re even sexier than plain old skirts. The fabric is really important. You don’t want them transparent, but the fabric should be light and flowy.

Get the waist to cinch and wearing a tight fitted top are important because you don’t want to look like you’re out in pyjamas.

Edit: on behaviour, just say less and smile more. I’m ADHD, very chatty, and can suffer from footinmouthitis. My thing in groups is that I speak when spoken to OR when I have something to say that I believe will add value (whether it’s funny, kind, or clever). Smiling (gently not maniacally) means people know I’m interested and present, so I don’t need to just say words for the sake of it.

I’ve actually found that this approach is a lot more peaceful for me anyway.

vintagegirlgame · 2023-06-22T09:32:21+00:00

Watch that movie about Coco Chanel for inspo about how to look very feminine with short hair and masculine wardrobe.

For behavior, you don’t have to change your personality but you can still improve your listening skills. Listening is a very feminine art and good for improving any and all relationships.

1) Ask sincere questions 2) Restate and confirm what they said (“so you did ABC because XYZ and that caused 123, did I get that right?”) 3) Empathize with the other person (“that sounds like it would feel [insert feeling word]”) 4) Relate. If you want to then add to the conversation, tell a short personal story of a time you also felt [insert feeling word] and how you overcame it. (The feeling is more important than the specific details of the story matching up.) Keep in mind you are not trying to “solve a problem” (masculine) you are helping them feel heard (feminine).

These are the listening skills I learned in Laura Doyle’s coach training program.

Cosima_Fan_Tutte · 2023-06-22T14:55:45+00:00

This is a case where you can get some actual inspirations and styling ideas from masculine-looking icons/influencers, women like Patti Smith, Katherine Hepburn, Coco Chanel, Cate Blanchett, Tilda Swinton, Charlotte Rampling, short-haired fashion models, etc.

Maybe you need to look for men who do appreciate a more masculine, no-nonsense woman. In the online red pill world , the most desirable feminine persona is the long-haired, delicate middle class woman in a flowery sundress. But that's not the only type of woman who can find love.

I've noticed that working class guys or men in the trades can end up with a more "brassy" woman. Maybe your persona is inherently farm wife (working farm, not not hobby farm). Maybe it's Marge in Fargo. I don't mean you should larp or anything, you just need to seek different inspirations and maybe different men. The one woman I know who's always had short hair is married to a truck driver who fixes up motorcycles as a hobby.

And of course, a masculine-leaning and bold woman can still learn to act "soft" with her man.

the-alchemist- · 2023-06-21T14:33:12+00:00

Hair: having shorter/ short hair does not make you masculine (unless we're talking buzz cuts or undercuts). Maybe if you feel insecure about the short hair aspect you can wear a hat/ bandana.

Fashion: dresses, although you don't like them, are likely your best bet to looking more feminine. Being that you are already an inch above the average male height, wearing pants would not do justice to your already masculine stature. Jewelry isn't a bad idea, but not vital either.

If you must wear pants, go for a casual-relaxed fit or bell bottoms, this gives off a friendlier tone. It can also pair well with your top/ blouse. Yoga pants are also feminine, but you should wear them in the right occasion. Also be cognisant what kind of man you are attracting with tighter pants. Is that the kind of man you want?

Behavior: out of all 3 of these aspects, your behavior/ demeanor is the most important. Being competitive isn't necessarily bad, if it's not overstated, but being argumentative is no bueno. The main personality trait that differentiates women/ men is agreeableness. Women tend to be more agreeable while men disagreeable.

Think about it this way, why would a man chose a masculine female when there are plenty of feminine females? Why would he chose chaos, when what he wants is peace. In fact, the reason he works hard to find a good woman is so she can be nurturing when he gets home. This displays motherly and wife-like qualities, which is your #1 asset.

There are some good women's coaches in the red pill sphere, why not try listening to some of their content and embracing the feminine. Some I've heard of on YouTube: Jenifer Moleski, Melissa Isaac, Pearlythings. I don't listen often to women's improvement content as that is not my gender, but I'm sure people on this sub can offer some recommendations.

AutoModerator · 2023-06-21T02:35:59+00:00

Title: How to act more feminine as someone with a more masculine haircut/wardrobe

Full text: 26 year old gal here. I've been lurking here for a while and have learned a lot from everyone. I definitely don't fit the"feminine" stereotype. I love my short hair and I know not all guys are attracted to that. But I have 0% interest in growing it out. I also have no interest in wearing makeup.

That being said, I like a lot of the RPW ideas and want to incorporate them into my own life. Wondering if anyone has any tips for me to consider moving myself a little bit more towards feminine appearance and behavior? I'm newly single and going to be getting back into the dating world soon, so I want to put my best self out there.

Appearance: Do you have any tips for how to dress/appear more feminine? I was considering getting my lashes tinted/lifted, maybe getting a second ear piercing to try out new jewlery options. I am also needing to update my wardrobe. Not a huge fan of dresses as pants are more functional for my day to day activities, but I would consider ading some to my wardrobe. I am fairly tall (5'10") and often womens clothing (long sleeves, pant lengths) don't fit me so I resort to mens clothes. I really get stressed out shopping because it's sooooo hard to find clothes that fit me well. But I'm going to try.

Behavior: How can I behave more feminine? I am often loud and can be argumentative/competitive. I don't want to change my whole personality but I would like to make a shift, whatever that looks like for me. I grew up in a chaotic household so I tend to come off a bit strong, and I know this can turn people off.

Thanks for any advice you can provide!!

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Title	How to act more feminine as someone with a more masculine haircut/wardrobe
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