Believe me fellas.....I understand some of your positions. I too was once there......swore off re-marriage and almost women altogether.

 

I listened to every MGTOW (men going their own way) and Red Pill video. Those groups are great at waking men up. However, they are also great at keeping you in a state of victimhood. They are great at labeling men simps and suckers too.

I think most men would like to be respected and adored. That's why they get married multiple times. The key is getting better not bitter.

 

If you would have told me what I'm about to share with you was going to take place last year I may have smacked you in your face and completely wrote you off. I was in such a bad spot. I was hurting and all I could see was negative.

 

But I was raised by my mother and two sisters. They taught me how to treat a woman. But not only that they spoke into my life and encouraged me all the time. There was nothing I couldn't do or accomplish.

 

And so at 23 I married a "Christian" girl. We met in Bible college. Her parents adored me. They knew I was the real deal. We were virgins. I figured that alone would keep us together. Wrong. In year 15, that I know of, she cheated on me. Wrecked my world and broke my heart. It would be another 6 years of bullshit before we'd finalize our divorce. I had to do it my way and I did. I left no stone over turned. I did everything I wanted and guess what.....I have no regrets.

 

I was fortunate to heal from the divorce. To go through a 2 year process to get better and not be bitter. It not only takes time but it take effort. A lot of self work. Believe me.....it was hard and gut wrenching. Like rehabbing a broken leg.....only a broken heart. I'd sit in dark rooms and wonder wtf was happening. Is this real life? Oh and I watched MGTOW videos of other hurt men......that were bashing women and their DNA behavior blah blah blah. Something just didn't sit right with me because I have two sisters who have wonderful marriages......that love and adore their husbands and vice versa.

 

And so last November I prayed and asked God to throw me a bone. Because I was about to give up altogether on dating\marriage\women. I truly was going to close the door and live single and raise my son.

That evening I got a response on a post I made from of all places HERE about covert narcissism and co parenting. And since then we've spoke and visited every day. Basically I attracted her and we were on the same frequency. She checks every box I ever wanted in a woman and more. She too is dealing with a covert narcissist and raising a child. It's how she came across my post in her google search. This is the post if you want to read it.

 

And so many of you may be swearing off marriage and women. Rightfully so.....divorce is hard. Really hard. But I just want to encourage you that if you have any hope in the future.....let my story be a little light. That you don't have to be bitter.....and things can get better. It's up to you.

All the best fellas.

Cheers!