Just dropped my 4 year old son off. I thought this would get easier

warwww · 2023-09-22T16:21:13+00:00

This is the pang that hurts the most. You feel as if you failed THEM. To have stability in their lives uprooted just so your partner can go and have sex with other people. It's mind blowing.

techrmd3 · 2023-09-22T16:58:25+00:00

wait until the step dad shows up then you will know pain my friend

It's tough but it is what it is. No fault divorce leads to this. all over but the crying

ConsistentPromise156 · 2023-09-23T08:39:22+00:00

Had similar experience last week. Daughter was turning 2 yo. I have 80/20 custody. Ex usually has her 2 weekends a month, but wanted to have her for the birthday. Now she usually picks her up on kindergarden in friday, and brings her in kindergarden in monday, so not a lot of contact between us.

But daughter had chickenpox and I was staying home with her, so I had to meet with ex in a public space. As soon as daughter saw her mother, daughter started crying and saying I want dad. She was not even letting the ex give her a kiss or a hug. We tried for 20 30 mins but she just did not want to go with her mom, so I ended up taking my daughter back home.

That was hurtful for me , I started thinking a lot of stuff, like is she happy when she is with her mom. I felt hurt for my daughter mostly, as she doesnt seem to miss or want her mother

I fully understand you. Hurts but nothing we can do, we have to try and make our children want to spent time with the other parent asthey need both parents in their life.

Lumptbuttcat · 2023-09-22T20:58:45+00:00

Heartbreaking, but rest assured, you can be a top tier dad with the time you’re allotted. Just make it a mission to have quality time when you have them.

TheRealBallHog · 2023-09-25T02:47:53+00:00

I came across this while scrolling through. Unfortunately, yes, that drop-off will always hurt you, but I always do my best to hide the feelings from my kids. The mother will always use the kids to get back at you. Just accept life is F'd up and so your best

HereinPA1 · 2023-09-22T17:09:59+00:00

These posts with how it effects the young kids wreck me. I don’t know how you guys do it, you’re stronger than you know. My kids are older, 16 & 18, but I think back to when they were that age and if this was happening then and I feel bad for them in my imagination.

My stbxw left for the same reason, to focus on her happiness, and didn’t want to work on our marriage either. And same with the influences, especially her divorced friends. Bunch of cowards.

My heart goes out to you man, your son knows you’re his rock and always will be. You sound like a great Dad and they’re lucky to have you.

Stay strong.

Deepcoma_53 · 2023-09-22T21:09:17+00:00

My son is 10 months old and 2 months ago I found out my Ex was having an affair. We weren’t married, so the breakup wasn’t as messy. I did a DNA test and he’s my son. But damn, your post really hit. He’s my only child and I didn’t imagine when he was born, that I’d be a single parent. I dread, not being able to see my son every single day. His mother not only cheated on me, she cheated on him. She gave him life, but also murdered a life he could’ve had. He’s surrounded by people who love him, but he’ll never know what it’ll be like to have both his parents under one roof. He’s so little, he’ll never know, what he’s missing. Thank you for sharing your story, I appreciate it.

Title	Just dropped my 4 year old son off. I thought this would get easier
Author	Colfax_Ave
Upvotes	29
Comments	18
Date	September 22, 2023 4:14 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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