I always get held back by myself when I see a really pretty woman

MO_drps_knwldg · 2022-06-29T14:47:09+00:00

Get in the habit of being a generally social person, talking to all strangers, and treating them all the same, whether they’re attractive, men or women. When you talk to an attractive woman, there will just be some added sexual tension and flirtatiousness.

Also remember that they’re people, not goddesses. They have jobs, do mundane things like get groceries, have families, pay bills. They aren’t perfect, you have something you can teach them and have something to offer.

Illustrious_Size610 · 2022-06-29T17:28:53+00:00

It’s not about being good enough.

Ask any woman how many losers they dated, and they will say pretty much 90% of them, meaning that those guys didn’t need to be good enough to date her.

It’s about making her feel sexual tension, getting her to feel positive emotions and connecting.

Seduction is not about measuring up to her standards, it’s merely to get her to feel emotions about you. Nothing more than that.

So a rejection doesn’t mean you are not good enough for her, it just means you failed to make her feel emotions, sexual tension and connection.

TheCollector228 · 2022-06-29T15:29:21+00:00

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Kennymacdougall · 2022-06-29T23:09:15+00:00

You put her on a pedestal. That's your problem. Stop doing that. PM me if you like more info.

burakbenxd · 2022-06-30T02:22:02+00:00

Listen, you'd be surprised. Average looking girls get hit on more, because of their average looks. They're usually the ones who have their guards up (easy lay), opposed to an extremely attractive girl. So, when you do approach an attractive girl, it's techincally a bonus, or easier. Then again, if you get rejected, just move on. You have nothing to lose.

Keep this in mind when approaching :)

SnooHesitations4922 · 2022-06-29T21:41:04+00:00

You just got to walk straight up to the hottest girl you see anywhere and introduce yourself, just have a normal convo with her with no ulterior motive other than to just chat, make it about something you observe about her, your surroundings, or the general situation. Do this enough times then start flirting when your comfortable. This is a mind game you play on yourself to show you very pretty women are equal humans, not above or below you, and most can be talked to as easy as anyone else. Just be smooth and not serial killer creepy and ur good.

Dianabayyebii · 2022-06-29T19:54:05+00:00

Stop putting people on a pedestal. Pretty women are just people too. The same you way you approach a person you perceive as less attractive is the same way you should approach the latter. The worst they are going to say is that they are not interested.

Exodus255 · 2022-06-29T17:45:36+00:00

This happens to me alot. When I see a pretty girl I feel like approaching but I'm an introvert I late cower as she gets close and passes by or is it about my low self esteem. How can I get it back?

TheIglooBoy · 2022-06-29T20:43:43+00:00

Omggg I soo second this. Happens constantly w me when an 'angel' passes I'm like a fucking deer staring at headlights.

WeirdLaw · 2022-06-29T21:43:24+00:00

If you die tomorrow that pretty angel won't give an f. That might give you a bit of relief on not trying hard and let loose.

Let loose, approach, have fun and learn.

weredog31 · 2022-06-30T12:56:35+00:00

Do you have any tips, about how I can push myself to go talk to her and believe in myself or any steps to take so that I could build confidence over time.. like how to structure my interactions etc?

Just write "hot girls with ugly men" into Google and look at the couples.

For example, Jessica Lawrence "dated" with Harvey Weinstein in order to be famous.

There are lots of ugly men who gets the girls because of their confidence.

If they can have that, why can't you?

Go for it.

SadBox4529 · 2022-06-29T20:46:03+00:00

It’s the opposite for me, I just go in when I see a hot chick

ChoppedBelAir · 2022-06-30T07:13:19+00:00

Just start. Getting a no is better than not trying. You'll see that you actually have a better chance than you think.

Eventually you won't even care about getting nos

Best-Ad-1223 · 2022-06-30T08:04:14+00:00

You need to become truly confident. You need to feel secure and good in your own skin( in generall),or this dating thing is gonna suck immensely. 90% of women won't give you a chance if you lack self confidence.

There's no way around it and unfortunately it's an absolute must. Try to figure out the things that you perceive are holding you back, but write them down. See what you can improve on and what is beyound your control.

As for this girl in perticullar just say hi. You can talk about just anything. In case there's an attraction she'll let you know with her actions-physical touch, some light banter and teasing...If she's not intersted it's still an experience.

As other redditors have said ,don't treat them like some kind of goddeses. They're not! In fact most women are super insecure themselves, they just have the luxury to not be confident and progress in their relationships. Sooo just try. Keep in mind that if a woman is trully into you she'll forgive you pretty much almost everthing.

OnceTuna · 2022-06-30T15:10:31+00:00

When she goes to Taco Bell, she blows up the toilet just like you.

Title	I always get held back by myself when I see a really pretty woman
Author	SeriousNeuron22
Upvotes	38
Comments	27
Date	June 29, 2022 2:38 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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