I like a girl but my body and bank are not where I’m taking them at the moment.

TheNextBigCrash · 2022-05-16T22:50:13+00:00

People on this sub put way too much value on using artificial attributes to attract women. Money, looks, security… etc. If you want to get wifed up, have kids, then get cheated on, divorced, and have a midlife crisis, then sure: make money and security your main selling points.

In reality, those things should be for YOU. If you start earning more money and working out solely for the approval of the opposite sex, you’re pitching a losing game. The only reasons you should be doing those things is to make YOU feel better, improve YOUR confidence, and make YOU happier.

Have you never wondered why women, some of them very “normal”, secure, sensible, get so infatuated with seemingly terrible men? Like that news story recently, of the woman who was a prison guard, who gave up everything (marriage, house, kids) to run away with some deadbeat inmate she met at work… or attractive, smart girls who seem to always be in on-off relationships with broke guys that are a full-time guitarist in some shitty band that never plays anywhere other than the local dive bar.

It’s because the only reliable way to attract women is to create emotion. Guys that stir up emotions are always the first choice. And guys that have a nice car, house, and good income are the guys women “settle” for when they decide they’re done sleeping around.

Just my take.

nevertextgoodnight · 2022-05-16T22:46:11+00:00

Focus on your mission but there's no harm in talking to women if you're a little broke and they're showing interest. You'll just see you won't be able to really afford dinner dates or buying drinks after a couple weeks

They body thing you just have to get started on today. That is the easiest to improve

Musician-Round · 2022-05-17T03:38:52+00:00

As silly as it might sound, those factors aren't nearly as important as you might think. I've seen guys that have tried to impress with flash and pizzazz only to struggle once they land the girl and the truth comes to light. I have also seen guys that look like something right out of goodwill catalogue land some incredible women.
You have get to know your audience.

I am fairly average myself as a guy and I'm not on the fast-track to any path or destination in this life. Some care about that, most don't though. The most valuable thing you can offer women (affection, understanding, love, etc) are not things that can be bought with money or by having a great look. The stories I could tell you about the lonely women that I have encountered in my youth would tell the tale.

You have probably heard this advice over and over, but the key to being attractive in a woman's eyes is purely confidence. The more you start gaining confidence in yourself and who you are, the more you will be attractive in their eyes and the easier that you will be able to filter for what you are actually searching for.

Some dudes like to dress up and boogie at a night club to land women, others just need to hit their local market and shop for food. Different strokes for different folks.

2022-05-17T08:29:07+00:00

You should still keep approaching while you making progress with your hard masculine features. Don't focus on this one specific girl, sometimes the game would turn out to be of no worth when you get to know her better anyways. You should get to the level, where you can score good first impression among the other guys that are available for her, to get a chance for further escalation.

Romantic_Adventurer · 2022-05-16T23:29:44+00:00

Focus on your health, your fitness, your emotional health, your intelectual health, your money making skills, your charrecter, than focus on her.

Mdxandcbr · 2022-05-17T04:16:42+00:00

Do both

You’re almost expecting her to be with you, and that’s wrong

2022-05-17T07:18:58+00:00

I'm sick of money topic on this board, and I wish there was some way to get moderators to block them - because it gets tiring telling people "No, money doesn't matter" when it comes to attraction.

Money only matters in that it gives you FREEDOM and TIME to spend your life being anything but a wage slave. TIME is the most important thing when it comes to meeting women.

And as others have said, having money only attracts prostitutes and gold diggers - but get this - they can't see inside your wallet or your bank accounts. So how the hell do they know anyway? Unless you're paying them for sex in which case they will know - but your'e getting laid anyway so it's kinda moot.

If they are attracted to money, all they have to do is FEEL that you have money - and only that's if money makes them horny! For most normal women it doesn't!

Besides - women have two men in their life. The man who they would sleep with and the cuck who would spend his resources looking after the other guy's biological children.

You don't want to advertise that you're a possible cuck target anway.

Mdxandcbr · 2022-05-17T10:58:40+00:00

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kiramdahanett · 2022-05-16T23:01:25+00:00

dork

BudgetInteraction811 · 2022-05-17T04:46:25+00:00

I’m going to go against the grain and say you should have your shit together first. If this woman is as great as you think she is, you wouldn’t want to mess up your chances. Besides, regardless of gender or things you have to offer someone, I’m a personal believer in being your best self before you date someone. You can’t pour from an empty cup.

Mdxandcbr · 2022-05-17T04:18:02+00:00

Good things come to those who go and get them.

Mdxandcbr · 2022-05-17T09:39:10+00:00

I don’t know what to tell you, only that I can relate with what you’re feeling.

I sometimes feel like I don’t have enough clothes, I’m not handsome enough, I don’t have a car, teeth aren’t white enough . Until I see some bum( respectfully) on campus snuggling up to a cute girl, and it brings me back down to reality, which is that I’m a boring, shy, nervous wreck of a person who doesn’t even talk to girls.

IRL , most girls don’t care about those things (money, status) as much as you’d think. Broke guys are getting laid. Guys you’d think are ugly, are getting laid. Unfortunately, I still don’t know the exact formula to become like these guys

Title	I like a girl but my body and bank are not where I’m taking them at the moment.
Author	Mdxandcbr
Upvotes	22
Comments	48
Date	May 16, 2022 10:41 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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