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whale_sports · 2022-05-05T19:40:32+00:00

Nah I wouldn't get into all that, but I would just tell her you're not interested in the friend thing. I know it's a popular thing, but I've just never understood the coffee date, or "walk around" type date. I'd rather be doing something more fun-based activity....or go out for drinks.

SpookyKG · 2022-05-05T19:40:32+00:00

Nah that sounds pathetic.

It's one date. Get over it. If you don't want to be her friend, don't pretend to be her friend.

Several-Albatross741 · 2022-05-06T01:21:50+00:00

I saw a comment the other day that will probably stick with me for a long time. It goes something like:

If she doesn’t see you being her boyfriend, she must see you as a girlfriend.

Don’t feel obligated to meet up again with women you just met to be “friends” if you’re looking for a love interest.

Sea_Particular_9086 · 2022-05-05T19:42:50+00:00

That’s doing too much, I wouldn’t even give the pleasure of hanging out with her again. Or she will look at you as a friend especially if you ambush her with what you’re thinking of saying this puts her into a corner and she will run away. Remove your attention because that is not what you want. You‘re fantasizing, thinking if I say this she will definitely like me now.

I would cancel that date. Let her ass wonder and ask why, and say ”look I thought you and I had chemistry on our last date. You said you only look at me as a friend, I won’t accept that. If you change your mind let me know.“ if you don’t confidently walk away from friends, you‘re done and she won’t respect any advances or anything romantic with you. You said what you said and this is the bar you will accept.

The mistake - learning experience you made here was saying fine to friends and now you’re trying to reverse the situation when you should have said no from the beginning. She is going to test you now as your words don’t match your actions.

EveryGodDamnDay · 2022-05-05T19:53:46+00:00

Why chase her? Is she the only attractive girl in the world? Do you want to practice the skill of "getting out of the friend zone" and "working really hard to make one girl change her feelings"? Do you want to spend more time being reminded that this attractive girl isn't attracted to you?

Instead, spend more time:

Going on first dates and learning to create that spark
Meeting new girls to find the ones you click with
Going after what you want and inviting fun people (and fun girls) to come along

She's just one girl. Move on. There's a million others to have fun with.

As for what to say to her:

A. She's just a tinder date. You never have to say anything to her again.
B. If she actually wants to hang out as friends, you can literally say, "I don't have girls as friends. I'm a man, you're a woman, why would we be just friends?" No malice no spite, just free honesty.

2022-05-05T20:41:40+00:00

At 35, I only hang out with women I’m interested in sexually. If I’m not trying to fuck ya, then I’d rather be doing something else I enjoy doing.

West-Ad7203 · 2022-05-05T21:02:24+00:00

This is gonna sound petty, and it kind of is, but I would cancel the forthcoming hangout. She’s only doing it to make herself feel better about blowing you off anyway. Just my .2 cents

CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-05-05T20:28:16+00:00

I'll say something like "Look, you're a great girl. I like you and find you really attractive, because of that, I can't be just friends with you. I want more. Spending time with you as friends only will be pure torture. If you want to be with a man that treats you like you deserve (she complained about men not treating her properly), you know where to find me. You don't have to say anything now, take your time but I won't be around for long" Do you guys think this would work to win her back?

No. Too much explanation, too logical and that’s pretty much beta male or simp behaviour. You ain’t impressing any girl with that bullshit.

Also it’s not about winning her back. It’s about making her feel emotions… And those words go in one ear and out the other.

She wants a man that treats her well sure, but first she has to feel attracted to him. Basic decency and good treatment do not attract girls.

You make the mistake of thinking that women choose a man based on logic, if that were the case sure then it could work, but that’s not how women choose men…

They don’t make a rational decision like: “Oh well it makes sense that if i want a decent man who treats me like i deserve and this guys says he is willing to do that, then i must obviously choose him and sleep with him”… 🤣. That’s male logic, not women’s logic.

You get friendzoned because she doesn’t feel the sexual tension, or if she felt it you didn’t act on it which made you look bad.

bandsupjay · 2022-05-06T00:17:15+00:00

Idk if that last line is good my boy. You just met her. Youre already getting attached and needy. Hang out with her next time and play it cool. Fuck the friend shit. Do that in your mind and relax and just watch her come to you. You build sexual tension by being yourself and not being needy, and by being you i mean having your own frame and doing whatever the fuck you want.

2022-05-06T01:08:41+00:00

I think that’s a great play but I would dial back the, ‘great girl part’. You know nothing about her, and there’s a reason why she’s single and it’s not because every guy she meets treats her badly.

Both_Move2565 · 2022-05-05T23:30:59+00:00

I wouldn’t use the “I want more” I would bring up I can’t be friends and about how it wouldn’t be fair to other another girl I’m dating! Watch the competition anxiety will rise! Don’t talk about wanting a relationship that’s what nice guys want.

poly_nerdy_panda · 2022-05-05T22:12:26+00:00

I'm 40, bro all the girls want to be just friends till you get them alone or maybe 1 drink in them.. I fucked so many chicks that wanted to be "just friends" may be close to 40 if not more.. big key is don't be scared to touch her and make it known you want to fuck.. also what worked really well for me is saying your willing to lick her without anything in return that's worked really well for me too .. if your a good pussy licker they will want to fuck!

bandsupjay · 2022-05-06T00:17:31+00:00

Idk if that last line is good my boy. You just met her. Youre already getting attached and needy. Hang out with her next time and play it cool. Fuck the friend shit. Do that in your mind and relax and just watch her come to you. You build sexual tension by being yourself and not being needy, and by being you i mean having your own frame and doing whatever the fuck you want.

bandsupjay · 2022-05-06T00:17:42+00:00

Idk if that last line is good my boy. You just met her. Youre already getting attached and needy. Hang out with her next time and play it cool. Fuck the friend shit. Do that in your mind and relax and just watch her come to you. You build sexual tension by being yourself and not being needy, and by being you i mean having your own frame and doing whatever the fuck you want.

bandsupjay · 2022-05-06T00:17:48+00:00

Idk if that last line is good my boy. You just met her. Youre already getting attached and needy. Hang out with her next time and play it cool. Fuck the friend shit. Do that in your mind and relax and just watch her come to you. You build sexual tension by being yourself and not being needy, and by being you i mean having your own frame and doing whatever the fuck you want.

mjornir · 2022-05-06T02:05:26+00:00

that’s too much after just one date. just say you’re not interested in being friends. you’re trying to change the mind of someone who already said they’re not interested. move on

rhofire · 2022-05-06T03:21:14+00:00

but I think I failed to build enough sexual tension.

There was no sexual tension because she was attracted to you.

She's a 7.5 in normal standards but a fucking 11 to me.

Then, you should have just said she's an 11. There's no normal standard, only what you want.

Obviously I moved on

If you'd moved on, you wouldn't be posting here.

she complained about men not treating her properly

Don't fall for that. It's also a sign she doesn't feel any sexual attraction for you.

Do you guys think this would work to win her back?

No.

You come across as someone who pretends he doesn't want to have sex with a woman. That will push a lot of women away from you. And, it will attract the ones who'll treat you badly.

TheFreakish · 2022-05-06T12:12:28+00:00

Alright, so my style is just being myself, respecting myself, and discovering chemistry.

Fuck games.

"Thanks, your seems great too, I'm just not looking for friends right now."

I wouldn't put her pussy on a pedestal. She's just one person.

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