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[–][deleted] 19 points20 points21 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
be proud of your sober approaches! That should be the main take away for you here.
The basis of everything in the club is, that you enjoy yourself and the place and make it you playground. Enjoy interacting with other people, not just women. Everyone should feel your positive energy
Night- and club game most of the time is not that upfront. It's more playful.
People, who are new to approaching women, or do it in a way, that is new to them, often radiate a weird vibe, that confuses other people. Same is true for people with low social skills. That mean, they did no necessarily reject you per se, but the way you came across in that concrete situation. Also, many attractive women of course have a boyfriend.
clubs are made to dance and drink alcohol. If you don't drink, which imho is a respectable decision, you should at least dance like there is no tomorrow. If you don't drink and don't dance, why are you even at the club?
I feel like i should ask next girl that reject me to tell me honestly why she rejected me. Not in any pushy way, just so i can improve.
Not a good idea. Because they won't be able to give you an useful answer. If they are not interested in talking to you in that specific situation, why would they be interested in analysing, why they don't want to? If you ask them, they will just say some bs, to make you go away. Many people are not introspective enough to give reason, why they truly feel or not feel attraction towards someone, or why they don't feel comfortable to talk to someone.
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[–]kbecel 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Start by striking random conversation with strangers. All the time. Practice. If you're only looking for girls to approach that irradiates a creepy 'vibe', they can sense it subconsciously.
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
started doing things that i fear.
Very good! This way you destroy the barriers within you. This is the first step, but you also have to develop social skills and the empathy to understand social situations.
[–]agileipa 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
No no no be clear about your intentions, be crystal clear. You are not just looking for a girl to approach, you’re looking to get laid. Which is fine, but say it like that. Now never ever go into a situation with that intention being obvious, at least for now when you get more advanced you can do that. But girls know you want to fuck them, they know it before you open your mouth. This is why it matters almost 0 what you say on the approach. But a guy who is obviously trying to fuck and stone cold approaches is going to get rejected 100% of the time. Like others have said, let go of that outcome. Show up to give others a good time. Have fun. Tease. How many times have you heard anyone say, “I wasn’t even looking for x and it just kinda happened “ that is what you need. Obviously you need to put yourself in situations where it can happen but don’t try and force it is what I am saying. Yeah approach girls and guys, point out something funny, even the old pick up routines are great for starters. Just be different. I often go indirect, I am in slc utah so I went around last night asking everyone if they were Mormon. Guys and girls and then I said I am looking to get baptized. Just bs to make people laugh then I walk away. No number no contact. Then later I re approach and ask if they are Mormon yet I also had a few girls bring their friend over to me and say she was Mormon. Hope that helps. Just keep it cool and relax and fuck around and eventually you will fuck around. Oh yeah one more thing, they didn’t reject you. They rejected the idea of you that you presented, they don’t know you well enough to reject you.
[–]Velociraptor2018 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Something I've been doing to improve my social skills is when you're walking some way and see someone walking towards you, look them in the eye, smile, and say "hi" in whatever way is appropriate. It helps me get used to approaching and talking to anyone.
[–]HorusCok 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Try a diffent venue - someplace where YOU are comfortable and confident
[–]norwegiandoggo 7 points8 points9 points 4 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
You won't get a straight answer if you ask them why. You will likely seem like a pushy creep if you do that. "you don't like me!??? WHYYYyyYyYY?! Explain thyself female!"
How do you select the girls you approach? How do you approach them? What do you say? What do you do?
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[–]norwegiandoggo 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago* (6 children) | Copy Link
The thing is 95 percent of girls in the club are solid 9.5/10
😂Really? Is that actually true, or are you putting all these women on a pedestal? If not, what kind of club is this? I need to go there.
Do you rate yourself a 9.5/10? If not, you're pretty much fucked aren't you? Even just from a mindset perspective.
so pretty much random.
It's good to look for women who may look more approachable before you approach.
Same goes for every approach " you really stand out in your group and i couldn't resist to tell you that"
Translation: "I'm putting you on a pedestal, you have already won me over simply with your looks. You have higher value than me."
ask her sarcastically "okey if our zodiac sighs agree we are 100% comparable"
Ban sarcasm from your game..this is a horrible pick up line. Not funny, sarcasm, and very desperate. All rolled up into one.
I think generally all your game is communicating to these women here is that you're desperate and that you believe they are better than you. This is of course very unattractive to them. You're telling them they are better than you and they have no choice but to believe it.
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[–]MattPruga 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
-Firstly, try imagining that every woman in the club wants you (key)
Being spontaneous is best. If I'd have to pick something, make eye contact, smile, go up to her, "Hey, I wanted to meet you", you can throw in a cold read like "You look Italian/Greek/Latino/Whatever..."
-Strong eye contact -Check for interest signals, if yes then -Touch, provoke slightly, tease, make statement -Qualify -Make her win you over -Take her number
[–]norwegiandoggo 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Act like you're the owner of the club. Go say hello to everyone and ask them if they are having a good time. Then toast them or give them a high five or something, then move on quickly to the next group. When you do this, pay attention to which girls seem to smile at you. Later on you can go back to those and start a proper conversation
[–]agileipa 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I hate when people ask for a routine to follow. Even if I gave you the best routine ever you would fail because it’s not you. Dating and sex is sells. You’re trying to sell you. So if I gave you a routine that works for me how do you think that will go for you? They are humans not a video game.
[–]geardluffy 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
There’s no sequence for you as you are you. What you need to do is understand “why” so you can do “what.” Keep practicing, but keep in mind not to seem desperate. What you want to do is approach women who seem more open but don’t just say hi to the ones you want. Start by enjoying your time in the club. Spread some positive energy so people are aware that you are having fun. Soon enough, after people see your one of those fun guys at the club, you’ll have a better chance at getting into social interactions.
When approaching women, it’s not really about what you say but how you say it. Of course, you don’t want to say things that come off desperate, the kind of words that give off the vibe “please like me.” The loud music also makes it hard to talk there really isn’t much you can say. Most of what you can do is to show them that you are fun to chill with and eventually ask them to dance.
95% are 9.5-10 only in high end gentleman's clubs.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
May I ask you where are you from? 95 per cent of girls in clubs are 9.5/10 sounds like a really high number. You country must be paradise. Here in my country good old Austria not so pretty girls want to have fun too and go out as well. Of course we also have some 9.5 or 10s in our small country but they are not the majority of the club goers.
[–]peduxe 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Trust me you don’t need to do much other than eye contact. If the girl is interested in you it will speak for itself and one or the other will approach.
Not valid just for clubs but everywhere you are.
I’d rather enjoy the night and not force anything.
[–]Canadian-Seductioner 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Don't do that. You need to stop worrying about the end result and just focus on enjoying yourself. Girls will pick up on that and be more receptive to you than if your only purpose is to approach women.
[–]VDKay 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
these are rookie numbers
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[–]kbecel 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If a girl sees you getting rejected, they will reject you too.
When I was younger, in my 20s, I lived in a small town. I only did 1 approach, maximum 2 every night I'd go out. At least in the same nightclub
It's called pre-selection. Work on yourself. Don't be a creep. They can literally smell the desperation on you.
[–]CocoBabeNYC 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Women are not interested in helping a beta male procreate. It's instinctual so don't even try. They will feel even more disgust towards you if you. If you just went away like it didn't even bother you, they may regain a modicum of respect for you.
[–]Fast_and_queerious 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Beta lol. There are no such things.
[–]passengerpigeon20 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I don't know if im creep or really ugly
If you are ugly, women will be creeped out regardless of how good your game is.
[–][deleted] -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
What do you look like?
If you an avg dude then you will struggle hard at the club.
[–]AvenueLane96 -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Approaching in a club isn't the best environment because girls are on alert for such things. They get many approaches, have to think about men who might be trying to drug them and they're just trying to have fun with their girls.
Of course there are some ladies looking for more but overall I'd say its not the best environment as most women have their guard up in the club.
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I have the perfect system to help you with that. You have a very common issue that guys face in game. Message me on my profile if you want more
My dude you sound like someone who never got his dick wet
Most of these comments miss the point. They all talk about eye contact, smiling etc. which is true, but not enough. First things a girl will test while talking to you is your masculinity and your value.
You need value. Lets say bunch of girls approach you on different times when you are in club. A fat, ugly, masculine girl will have really low changes to get you, right ? Because she doesnt have value. You wont reject a 10/10 looks, feminine women.
Find the ways to make girls see you as you see them when they are hot. Then, the changes are low for you to get rejected.
If you are insecure about being ugly, time to work on looking your best.
I feel like i should ask next girl that reject me to tell me honestly why she rejected me.
They aren't going to tell you the truth. Do it with another guy and let him tell you.
[–]dinosaur123556 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Get use to rejection just have fun with it. They see you want one thing. And while yes there into that. But woman are emotional and fast playful come backs are and how you carry a conversation is A huge turn on to them its courting them. If you got rejected 5 times in a single night You clearly wasn’t having fun with your bros. Cuz rejection shouldn’t matter it even happens to 10s. I’m a average looking man and still have a bit of luck but rejection happens often but it doesn’t matter cuz I just go back to my friends table. And we all joke about it. And still have a good time.
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