It seems like for some women explicitly mentioning sex before you fuck can shatter the illusion of plausible deniability so they can no longer tell themselves that it just happened, but I would love to talk about their preferences and stuff so I’m not going in blind and using trial and error to see whether they prefer clit or g spot, how hard they like it, whether they can actually orgasm, which positions they like, if they like to swallow etc

A bit of direct communication doesn’t need to kill the mood and would make Sex a lot more enjoyable yet a lot of people get turned off by it