I can't get laid, what can I do?

anthonyjamesk · 2022-01-16T13:26:39+00:00

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norwegiandoggo · 2022-01-16T12:51:38+00:00

Is that "blue steel" from Zoolander? Trying hard is a turn-off to women. Even the picture I can tell you're trying very hard. It signals desperation. Try to relax a bit. Can you smile or laugh like a chill normal dude? Stop trying with the modelling pose with your eyes and mouth. Be more natural! Give less of a fuck about your results. Try to be more authentic, humble, grounded, congruent. A normal man. And bathroom selfies without a shirt are a big NO NO. I get get narcissistic vibes up the wazoo from that photo. I don't think women want to get on a date with you when you have a photo like that. You look very intense and contrived. Not relaxed and fun like they want to have on a date. You need to chill out.

MetaphysicPhilosophy · 2022-01-16T19:31:31+00:00

Dude, your jawline is chiseled and you got nice hair and face. Your problem is that you are taking shitty selfies and you’re insecure. Get yourself some professional photos. Pay for someone to take professional photos for you and dress nice. Photos like this will make you look like a creep. Also smile, your facial expression is weird. Lastly, don’t rely on online dating solely. Start approaching and going to night clubs. You can easily get laid if you build some confidence

Fate-in-haze · 2022-01-16T18:49:24+00:00

Get a copy of Models by Mark Manson, it is one of if not the best book out there for men trying to improve themselves with women.

Do_U_Scratch · 2022-01-16T10:46:28+00:00

Stop trying so hard. Just be you.

Admittedly drunk and didn’t read your entire post.

Approach those you’re attracted to, BE REAL. People love genuine.

anothersadthrowaway- · 2022-01-16T12:14:18+00:00

Man if that pic is you, get into modeling. You’ve got the face for it. And also focus on YOURSELF. Don’t try hard.

JacobMoogberg69 · 2022-01-16T20:00:08+00:00

Dude ignore all these people man. Your problem is very apparent to me and it will take some effort to solve. You actually don't have a problem, but you believe you do which makes it real for you and women pick up on that.

The issue is that you don't seem to like or respect yourself very much. You don't think highly of yourself and therefore don't feel good about you. There are many reasons for this but it's mostly due to childhood upbringing and not getting enough positive reinforcement from parents.

You have to start looking at yourself as your own best friend. If you have a best friend it is likely that he has a lot of flaws that you are willing to overlook or don't care about because he has many other good qualities. But we tend to be very harsh wjth ourselves. So if you were your own best friend, would you give yourself a break if you are not perfect? Would you be willing to make peace with your past mistakes? I hope so. Own them, own your fuck ups and insecurities and soon enough you will be a man that every woman will want.

theoneian · 2022-01-16T18:07:28+00:00

I agree with one of the comments here, if you’re having trouble smiling naturally then getting laid is the last thing you should be working on. Focus on being yourself and being genuine.

leelbeach · 2022-01-16T18:25:27+00:00

You do look a bit odd but I think you look quite handsome if you smiled and didn't have a selfie. You have a great jawline / face structure

ChurchofCaboose1 · 2022-01-16T21:27:28+00:00

My guess is you're trying too hard. People can sense that. Idk why but it's a turn off at the start

Boxofreeds · 2022-01-16T23:51:23+00:00

You don’t need to smile if it’s unnatural. Just don’t look like you hate your life because people would kill for your look if you know how to use it right.

Successful-Funny-518 · 2022-01-16T23:54:16+00:00

Put a shirt on and don’t take bathroom pics.

Voserr · 2022-01-16T18:32:36+00:00

You're good looking but the expression in your face is not

RedPravda · 2022-01-16T22:24:49+00:00

Not being an asshole helps alot

kikalovernik · 2022-01-16T23:06:15+00:00

Oh no...hes back. There was a guy who postet his pics everyday with this kind of question. Anyone remember?

higordemenezes · 2022-01-17T00:07:42+00:00

Bro you’re very decent looking unless you’re 5’3 the problem of your lack of results might be your posture, body language and lack of confidence but that’s all fixable.

the_manofsteel · 2022-01-17T05:15:37+00:00

There is 0% feelings of joy in the pictures

You look like a model who’s only job is to not express anything

Equivalent_Feature23 · 2022-01-16T15:06:54+00:00

Dude, use iPhone instead of Android. That is the problem.

Rrrraiiiiden · 2022-01-16T15:43:55+00:00

I mean you have to work through the steps. Are you approaching? Are you asking for numbers? Are you taking them out? Are you asking them to come home with you?

adventure_lsd · 2022-01-16T11:19:53+00:00

If this guy is not getting laid then we’re fucked

b_a_d_r0b0t · 2022-01-16T20:36:21+00:00

Just pay for sex. Easier, faster and no headaches.

Party_Preference7692 · 2022-01-16T16:48:32+00:00

Get an iPhone

methodofaman · 2022-01-16T18:23:58+00:00

Grow a beard

MO_drps_knwldg · 2022-01-16T15:27:56+00:00

Those facial expressions are really odd.

Grow some facial hair

Bulk up a little

Stop trying so hard to be a pretty boy

Women like men with some edge and balls to them. You look like a Zoolander wannabe in this picture. Too clean cut and self aware

Keep the hair length though. Unless you’re balding, I’ve found that women prefer a longer, fuller head of hair if you have it.

Rndzle · 2022-01-16T17:43:59+00:00

Get a hooker

MentalCelOmega · 2022-01-16T17:40:13+00:00

I'm afraid that is a sign that it is over for you. My advice, find some type of cope to distract you.

AnAngelOfVengeance · 2022-01-16T17:27:35+00:00

Grade your pics on photofeeler. Relax. Women want guys who are getting laid so much they couldn’t imagine TRYING to get girls. That’s the key. You will eventually get laid a lot. Do yourself a favor and keep dating other girls once you have a gf (I know, it sounds crazy). But you want to do this bc you will naturally do all this ‘I don’t give a f’ type shit around them bc you don’t care bc you have a gf…and you will see how much they get attracted to that. You will blow them off and realize…they get MORE attracted to that. You may not stay with your first gf forever, but all that insight will.

RookieMistake2021 · 2022-01-16T10:47:01+00:00

Start small, is it your concurrence, body language or the way you carry conversation that’s turning girls away, once you figure this out and work on it and improve it, you’ll have much better results

Ever_2Clever · 2022-01-16T11:54:03+00:00

Time to use O'reliable

CanXd40 · 2022-01-16T18:18:58+00:00

Same I feel bro.!

Title	I can't get laid, what can I do?
Author	anthonyjamesk
Upvotes	16
Comments	72
Date	January 16, 2022 10:43 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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