Mental game ruined by small penis. What's the point of all this?

2021-09-30T13:06:16+00:00

You have to be a man and face your demons: That means confronting interested women with your secret, either by talking to her or by getting intimate directly. There is no way around it.
slowing down the process of getting intimate could work in your favor. If there is already an established relationship built on trust, it might be easier to open up.
an alternative approach is shock therapy: visit a nudist area and stay there till you stop caring.
Would you rather be an unsuccessful and unattractive man with a larger penis? I think not.

Best Wishes!

Artist-in-Residence- · 2021-09-30T12:23:38+00:00

Well considering the length of a finger, which most sage women can achieve vaginal orgasm, I really don't think you have anything to worry about.

It's all about the motion and the tension built up before penetration and the vagina tends to mold to the penis.

This might be TMI but sometimes I find putting in a tampon painful if I'm not properly lubricated and tampons are quite smaller than 3 inches.

You shouldn't focus on size as much as you focus on mental attraction and building sexual tension. Most women aren't size queens and looking for some monster penis guy because quite frankly, anything above 6 inches is a detriment to sexual pleasure.

TheSunshineMan · 2021-09-30T13:45:00+00:00

Lots of guys have small penises yet have sex with lots of women.

Get professional help to get over this..

You're just wasting time.. as the only thing holding you back isn't your penis size, but your head.

2021-09-30T09:54:40+00:00

They are correct it’s all about your confidence. If it’s an issue for you it will be an issue for them. Just own it, we’re all unique in our own way. You got this! The right person won’t care, keep that in mind. Do you have to at least let him try though to be able to know if they’re that person. I can assure you you are not the only male with this insecurity.

agavebee · 2021-09-30T10:58:54+00:00

You’re gonna be fine!

Have you had “let’s take it slow” kinda hookup experiences yet? Ones where your own pants stay on? You only mentioned books.

With some experience, you’ll probably come up with a kind of routine that works for you for how to handle your situation— or find it’s not as big a deal as you think. People have all kinds of situations and all kinds of routines for addressing them.

SpookyKG · 2021-09-30T14:57:55+00:00

Get therapy, bud.

You're only defeating yourself.

I'm 5'6". I could have fret about my height my whole life and disqualified myself. Instead, you accept it and you move on.

Literally no benefit to whinge about it and sit in your basement. Move on, and get therapy to help yourself move on if you need to.

SignalSecurity · 2021-10-01T00:23:56+00:00

You don't wanna dissapoint them. You don't want them to reject you. But you can't control how they feel.

Maybe someone would be dissapointed. Maybe someone would reject you. Maybe someone would mock you or put you down. I'm not going to pretend those people don't exist. Fine, fuck it, let them - that just means you learned they have unrealistic expectations, or that they care a lot about a very trivial thing beyond your control, or that they're insecure assholes.

You can control yourself. You decided you don't like it so you did what you could to learn with your hands and mouth. You've put in effort to prepare while most dudes just think about getting their dick wet and that's it.

More likely than not, you'll find out she doesn't give a fuck that your dick is an inch shorter than average. And if you encounter a woman that does - well, damn, that sucks, sorry to hear that bad experience. Intimacy requires vulnerability and you shouldn't give a fuck sbout the opinions of someone who'd take advantage of that to be all judgy and insufferable. And even if big dicks are a must-have fetish for the lady - she'd have to go in fully aware that she can't confirm what you're packing until you're basically on the edge of fucking. If she can't handle the possibility that you might not fit her specific taste, that's her problem.

My man, you keep talking in fear of what if things go wrong. Start asking yourself, what if things go right? And take comfort in the fact that, no matter what actually happens, you will be fucking okay.

Icy-Nectarine3592 · 2021-09-30T09:11:00+00:00

Confidence is everything . Everything . Size doesn’t matter. Only your heart and mind does . Confidence and your passion .

2021-09-30T17:58:55+00:00

Girls can never tell.

IwillBeatGERD · 2021-10-01T01:53:59+00:00

There are many ways to give girls an orgasm that doesn't involve a penis. I forget who the pornhub account was, but there's a guy literally on pornhub that makes videos of himself giving girls heavy orgasms without hardcore 10inch penetration. He uses his tongue mostly

atomant88 · 2021-09-30T09:55:48+00:00

You dont need your penis to make her orgasm so what's the big deal ?

Lesbians dont have dicks, they still have great sex. Same with trans men

Get over yourself

It's just toxic masculinity bullshit

GordonGecko69 · 2021-10-01T00:22:28+00:00

Surgery

popedaddyfiction · 2021-09-30T18:45:27+00:00

Die a virgin or grow some balls and fuck.

pearlofwine · 2021-09-30T18:40:22+00:00

3 inches hard is fine you can totally get a partner especially with everything else you've got going on.

If it was like 1 inch then yeah you might have a problem.

This is a bit of a side bar but some girls actually PREFER a guy with a small dick, the caveat you gotta be into SPH (small penis humiliation) I am and find it very hot but my dick is 6 inches, go figure ?

Either way its certainly not the end of your romantic journey.

Agreable_Actuator84 · 2021-09-30T14:33:08+00:00

https://www.health.com/condition

That sucks! But Listen, all men suffer from something. I know someone who died young from cancer. I bet they wish they were alive to see their children grow even it it meant having a micro penis. Some men have severe ED. Some have retroactive jealousy or ROCD that prevents them from finding a SO to commit to. Life sucks for all of us in some way.

So this is your dragon to face and only you can face it. My advice is to seek therapy with someone who can help you identify and overcome self limiting beliefs.

Then, I’d date and try to fuck like it’s no big deal. I bet many women won’t notice or care. Yes, Some women, just like some men, can be cruel. And you may find a women who mock you or laughs. So frigging what? Her loss. Put on your clothes and walk out without a word if you feel disrespected. Block her number from your phone .

But here is the kicker- you may find some woman who is Happy with you just the way you are. Some women are very clitoral orgasm focused. She may be more concerned about your tongue, finger and vibrator use skills than your penis. Some women have short or tight vaginas and have painful sex with average sized penises. Some have vaginismus (look it up). And so forth. You just need to find the one who is okay and happy and she is out there! Go find them!

Shadow__Account · 2022-02-24T10:27:24+00:00

Don't think you are special dude, this is your issue, behind millions of other laptops there are guys having the same insecure feelings about being too short, about beeing bald and they all have fair worries. I'm not saying it's all between your ears, but I am saying you let it limit you way too much, don't let it be an excuse to not succeed. I have a normal sized penis and I have also been insecure about it's size, before I knew there was nothing wrong with it, we all have these things. For every dude with a bigger penis a number of them ejaculate prematurely, or can't get it up or whatever. We all have our shit to deal with. Sex is 90% foreplay anyway. Trust me if you become good at foreplay, teasing a girl, making her cum, making her beg for sex, 3 inches will probably be more than enough to give her the best sex of her life. Like the other guy said, girls can come with a finger so you're good and I'd like to add that sex is 90% (random number) emotional/ mental anyway. Go on the dates, escalate, don't be super anxious about it, try to enjoy the sex, it's still something you need lots of experience to get good at no matter how many videos you watched. Learn how you want to deal with it, accept it a, be ok with it, joke about it, don't be ashamed about who you are and by going for it and maybe failing and maybe having some bad experiences you will also have lots of good ones and they will slowely build your confidence. You need to get on the road and start to put in the work.

Title	Mental game ruined by small penis. What's the point of all this?
Author	throwawayaway384
Upvotes	9
Comments	19
Date	September 30, 2021 8:51 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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