How to deal with a partner that rejects my advances?

2021-09-27T07:16:32+00:00

Change the partner. Edit: also, People shut down sexual advances for plenty of reasons But when they “stop” laughing at your jokes The gears are already grinding in their heads for something else.

Source: been so: got turned off by partners, stopped finding them funny as well.

_infinititty · 2021-09-27T06:56:20+00:00

Sounds toxic.

I’d talk to her about it. If she keeps it up move on. Your time is precious.

AuntBoobannya · 2021-09-27T15:14:35+00:00

Sounds like your attachment style is a bit anxious and hers is a bit avoidant. I'd say things can change, but only if you genuinely both make an effort and talk about this in earnest. That being said, I'd just end it. If you don't feel right, and you don't think things will get better, there's no point in being petty, ignoring her and such. Just end it, move on and find someone better suited for you.

In some comment you said you'd ignore her. So, you're literally considering wasting your time, making an effort to avoid her while keeping tabs on how she feels about it.... Thaaat's just useless

strugglingstudent00 · 2021-09-27T14:12:28+00:00

If you have no hobbies and basically just need her to have fun that is a turn off. Find your own hobbies, hit the gym, and analyze what you are doing on your end that may be turning her off.

If you are constantly trying to have sex it is a turn off, if you are constantly giving her attention and/or constantly trying to get her attention its a turnoff, if you need her to have a good time it is a turn off.

Doing your own thing is attractive in a relationship and out of one. Doesn't mean you never spend time with the other person but the time away is healthy. Ignoring her is a stupid ass idea and will get you no where. If you use the same jokes everyday and/or try and use the same system for getting sex every time it becomes repetitive and boring. If your routine for getting sex is "do nice thing, expect her to be grateful, make sexual advances and proceed to do the same thing in same order every time" it gets boring quick and also ties the activity you do for her to get to have sex with you in ehr mind to "he is just doing this to fuck me." You sound like a "nice guy" and I recommend you read "no more mr. nice guy" it may give you some insight.

source: multiple women bitching to me about their significant other before they cheat or end the relationship.

UrFavPlayerIsBack · 2021-09-27T07:52:47+00:00

Nope. Never tolerate bs

U dont chase. U replace

dontbanmeagaindudes · 2021-09-27T09:08:19+00:00

Is it normal for partners to be interested one day and not the other?

It's not normal, you should break it off and don't waste more energy with that person.

5_7pickup · 2021-09-27T19:02:31+00:00

Break up and date a girl who’s actually interested in you?

Ive been with both types of girls. The ones that are madly in love with you are the best ones.

ruser_void · 2021-09-27T14:35:48+00:00

If you don't live together and you are at your place then ask her to leave, and you'll call soon.

jestercake · 2021-09-27T20:54:26+00:00

Break up

truthbomb999 · 2021-09-27T21:10:45+00:00

How to deal with a partner that rejects my advances?

I think part of the issue is that you don't communicate well. Words have meanings and it's important to use words correctly

When my significant other rejects my sexual advances

If your SO is rejecting you sexually, they probably don't find you attractive and it's time to move on and find someone who does.

or shows any sign of disinterest (not laughing at my jokes, not making time for me),

This is a different story. Not laughing at a joke isn't rejecting an advance...it may mean that you just aren't funny.

Not making time for you may mean they are busy or they are not into you...either way, if it keeps happening just move on.

It gets to the point where I contemplate cutting ties altogether when it happens

You should do that if it's making you angry and has been communicated.

Is it normal for partners to be interested one day and not the other

Generally not.

How do I work on this mindset and allow my partner space to do this

Learn to communicate first, actually communicate and then evaluate from there.

Should I even put up with this?

No

2021-09-27T07:20:11+00:00

Do you want someone to fake-laugh at your jokes even if they didn’t think they were funny?

pokemonpokemonmario · 2021-09-27T11:04:35+00:00

EZ next girl

JacobMoogberg69 · 2021-09-27T07:12:03+00:00

Act like it doesn't bother you at all and masturbate a lot. Don't let it make you angry because that's a sign of weakness. Start flirting with other women. If this doesn't turn around the ship, the relationship is dead anyway.

HeWokeMeUpAgainAgain · 2021-09-27T13:56:37+00:00

I mean it depends how sensitive you are. Like she's allowed to have other things on her mind, just like I'm sure you do sometimes.

If you want to end it, then do it, but don't expect anyone to laugh at every joke, be dtf all the time, etc because your partner is a person, not a validation robot.

Have you just asked her if something is bothering her?

meowlunaaa · 2021-09-27T08:48:41+00:00

Ask yourself (and eventually her)what you are/aren’t doing that are turning her off. Open communication before playing games/vilifying her. She might not even be aware

gangweedsavedme · 2021-09-27T11:04:38+00:00

Yeah just break up and if she asks say “you don’t seem as interested as I am”

cale199 · 2021-09-27T08:29:21+00:00

Depends on how frequent it is. If it's all the time then ditch them.

But make sure to talk to them about it first

results_driven · 2021-09-27T22:47:08+00:00

If she wants you she'll make time for you. She probably just keeps you around even though she doesn't love you that much. /until someone better comes around./

Break up with her, find someone who treats you better.

You are normal.

2021-09-28T01:43:35+00:00

Replace.

Algo2Pete · 2021-09-28T01:45:11+00:00

If she doesn't invest any time and effort into this relationship then it's time to move on. Tell her straight up but don't be a dick. Don't end a relationship on a bad note even though she lost interest.

Once relationship has ended, do not initiate contact whatsoever. Don't contact her to wish her happy bday or merry fucking xmas. If she contacts you first then reply with a general response but don't give her any more of your time than this. If she wants to have coffee, tell her that you're preoccupied, maybe some other time. Learn howto cook if you don't already know, hit the gym.

TheSunshineMan · 2021-09-28T02:04:12+00:00

Two options..

Break up.. or do Dread Game.

Breaking up is probably the best. option though.

Let me ask you a question..

Are you just settling because you feel you lack options if the relationship ends?

Or can you get 10 new girls if you wanted in the next 30 days?

ProfessorZoom80 · 2021-09-28T06:32:17+00:00

She is manupilating you with sex. Leave her, a girl that likes you wanna fuck every day. Or maybe she is fucking somebody else ;).

NoToxicPosts · 2021-09-28T09:47:19+00:00

By not dealing with them

JSSISLRD · 2021-09-28T10:04:53+00:00

She got sick of you, or there's something you're not doing right in the relationship. Perhaps it's the way you approach sex.

You can't stop romancing chicks jus cuz you guys are together.

Title	How to deal with a partner that rejects my advances?
Author	NewStartup2021
Upvotes	9
Comments	33
Date	September 27, 2021 6:44 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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