Is it really possible to "make" someone attracted or is it decided before an approach is even made?

appleandpeanut · 2021-07-23T21:50:06+00:00

I overwhelmingly develop attraction to men only after getting to know them. Guys I swoon over, I had no idea I thought they were hot the first time I met them. That’s not a joke.

Once in a rare, blue moon, a man is charming upon first meeting for me to be attached to him.

Charm is hard to describe, but it’s like a welcoming feeling. They’re smiling and being kind, snd lightly teasing. You can also tell it’s not an act, they just have a charming personality.

On the other hand, plenty of guys try to act smooth. Acting is obvious. And I never remembered a single one of those guys.

Don’t “act”. Learn to be a charming human all together. Then, approaching women won’t be so hard. I mean, if you charm everyone, you know that you’re charming.

greyman0425 · 2021-07-23T21:06:58+00:00

Women are either interested or not, you can only make them not interested.

Think of small talk and flirting as screening and qualifying questions in sales except you are both trying to screen and sell to each other. You are trying to see if there is a spark, an attraction, a commonality. That is why having friends, hobbies, doing self improvement is very important. To have something to talk about and have in common. Once that base level rapport happens then you can move on to flirting.

If a disinterested women becomes interested it is because she found out something interesting about you that she bonded with or you two have something in common. Now usually you never get that far because if a she is not interested, she will cut off from conversation right away.

Familiarity_ · 2021-07-23T22:33:29+00:00

Before you meet someone the only thing you have to offer is appearance. I have reluctantly approached girls that I thought were just average looking and after having good back and forth banter, experiencing their positive energy and good sense of humor, I was interested in going on a date with them. It works both ways. Being an interesting person makes you more attractive, whether you're a man or woman.

earsurgery9 · 2021-07-24T12:30:26+00:00

She decides whether you are a SEXUAL option for her the second she lays eyes on you. Same as we do with girls.

Game is about more efficiently banging attracted girls

You can't MAKE her wanna bang you if she isn't physically attracted to you. You can't negotiate attraction.

Particular_Visual531 · 2021-07-23T22:42:54+00:00

Attraction is definitely different than fundraising though personal skills can help with each. It is definitely possible to make a woman attracted to you, but you have to be confident and have the skills to do it. Second, by not caring you have the best chance of success. Trying to hard or really wanting her to like you often shows up as needy or desparate. Work on your game. Be confident in what you have to offer a woman. you will start succeeding.

maplemario · 2021-07-23T21:40:41+00:00

Neutral -> interested Yes, this is by having game, but will obviously not work anywhere near all the time Disinterested -> interested Exceedingly rarely

But it’s better to just go for interested girls, unless you’re trying to make your game better more than being with girls.

2021-07-24T01:04:22+00:00

The absolute best advice I’ve ever heard about women is this

“Only chase the women that already like you”.

This changed my whole attitude to approaching women.

I just make sure that I am the best man I can be. First and foremost since that defines how attractive I am as a foundational level.

My approach to women own neutered but I try to interact with them in a way that gives them ample pretext to express interest back to me, rather than “trying” to do anything. When you’re “on display” and she’s enjoying your company, you’ll experience her “choosing signals”.

Then and only then does it make sense to do anything more.

RProgrammerMan · 2021-07-23T21:32:51+00:00

I think what you’re saying is probably 90% true. At the end of the day we are who we are and most things are genetic and can’t be changed. Either you are what they’re looking for or you’re not. I think we can develop social skills as a long term project which makes a difference, but as far as saying a certain line or making an approach a certain way I don’t think it really matters. After a few interactions they get an idea of who you are and whether they’re actually interested. I’m not a sex-god just my two cents based on what I’ve experienced. It’s also probably a healthier attitude then being wrapped up in trying to change yourself to win someone over. Another factor is whether they’re open to a cold approach, some women probably aren’t willing to consider a stranger versus someone they met through mutual friends. Social status is definitely a factor.

smooth_lorenzo · 2021-07-24T04:06:49+00:00

Like the legend David d sais "attraction isn't a choice"

Title	Is it really possible to "make" someone attracted or is it decided before an approach is even made?
Author	Optymistyk
Upvotes	16
Comments	21
Date	July 23, 2021 8:44 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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