Why She Goes "Cold" After You Make a Deep Connection

ThePandasWatch · 2016-04-20T23:02:31+00:00

I think this is a good article but I don't think the title is most fitting. When I saw 'deep connection' I was assuming that she might get scared away when you become more vulnerable or 'open up' to build that strong sense of rapport in a relationship, but instead it introduces the idea of getting too invested into a girl too soon and hence becoming needy -- without really referencing any deep connection. Guess you could say the investment is deep though

Not a huge problem!

bbttr · 2016-04-20T22:09:52+00:00

Hah, I could have used this 2 weeks ago.

gethereddout · 2016-04-21T05:26:34+00:00

This is just such a great article. I think this might be my favorite article I've ever read. I woke up and I was thinking about it. So I read it again. And I can't stop commenting on it. It's just so refreshing, honest, insightful. I've never felt this way about an article. I think this is the essay I've been looking for all this time.

DLuX94 · 2016-04-20T22:46:46+00:00

This is so true. This just happened to me not once but twice with different girls. I scared them off being too needy and liking them too much.

iamthesage · 2016-04-21T00:16:44+00:00

Damn. I could have used this for the past weekend. Met a cute girl from daygame . we wanted to meet, even had plans and it went cold..

I was pissed. But after reading this and all the texts that I sent her, I know where I screwed up. I showed too much interest ..

Thorondorr · 2016-04-21T01:19:40+00:00

holy shit that exact same thing has happened to me twice! literally every sentence sounded like what happened to me

Supergaz · 2016-04-21T06:53:27+00:00

Thanks for posting this.

cjsenecal · 2016-04-20T23:37:42+00:00

I've always done this and I hate it! I wish I had realized this a few weeks ago.

Vilerfox · 2016-04-21T03:23:25+00:00

This is especially true in my case. I've just broken up a few days ago after my first relationship of around 3 months.

I've done all of the things the article mentioned about being needy, without myself even realising it.

zdelarosa00 · 2016-04-21T03:39:01+00:00

Great pearls here... Helps all levels, thanks!... my favorite was "don't let any one girl be your main purpose", everything goes around your own life being stable and enjoyable and then! relationship, learned it the hard way

greatmikeshark · 2016-04-20T22:43:15+00:00

Because she found someone else

quintessentialnutmeg · 2016-04-21T10:30:00+00:00

I don't think the guy has necessarily scared her away. No offense to the author, but what an awful way to put it. It makes guys sound like monsters. Women worry about coming across as too needy as well. Also they could be scared of the relationship, being vulnerable to the possibility of love, or just unsure of how you feel about her. For me, I've never gone cold on a guy because he was too needy or showed "too much interest." I have gone cold on the guys that are demanding, or derogatory. Just my two cents.

adult_human · 2016-04-21T17:46:53+00:00

Glad to know I'm not alone in this situation.

rattamahatta · 2016-04-21T17:47:37+00:00

You're not scaring them off. You're taking away her tingles by acting needy. She isn't scared, she's disgusted by you. Other than that, good article.

camabron · 2016-04-21T18:19:51+00:00

"She's just not that into you."

Title	Why She Goes "Cold" After You Make a Deep Connection
Author	gradcasanova
Upvotes	213
Comments	54
Date	April 20, 2016 9:30 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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