Jason Treu and Brent Smith, dating coaches, join our AMA!

brentsmith · 2013-11-07T20:04:53+00:00

Hey guys, how's everything?

jasontreu · 2013-11-07T20:07:22+00:00

Let's get this party started!

aleng · 2013-11-07T20:18:29+00:00

-Can you tell a girl straight up that you just want sex and not a serious relationship (when meeting her)? Or does that happen after you slept with her, as you've said in the email yesterday?

-Do you only ask a women to leave by bantering? Or is there another way of asking her to leave?

kifn2 · 2013-11-07T20:48:26+00:00

Having trouble staying in set long enough to pull. I'm a low-key dude and do much better on dates than with SNL's. I usually start out with instant attraction and anime eyes in the first five minutes, then I always seem to lose it after that. Should I just work on trying to pull in the first five minutes or is there something else I should work on?

aleng · 2013-11-07T20:08:29+00:00

Whats up filthy manwhores?! Greetings from Switzerland

Edit_7-2521 · 2013-11-07T20:20:14+00:00

Best conversation starters, in your opinion?

Svorax · 2013-11-07T20:21:01+00:00

Hey guys. GF has been distant lately. She's very... different; not like normal women. She openly admits it's hard for her to express herself. And that's true, she seems very closed and personal most all the time. She gets reaaaaaally embarrassed about her own body; I haven't even seen her vagina yet. She also refuses for me to eat her, which is truly puzzling to me. And she says that every time we go to town, she feels like she did something wrong or bad and then I just feel bad for her. She's also full russian and has only been in America for 2 years. Not sure if that changes anything. We've been together for about 5 months (both of us had never been in a relationship, we were each other's first kiss and took each other virginity), and in that time, we've grown pretty close. Since our first time, we've had sex pretty much weekly. As of the past 2 maybe 3 times, however, she seemed less into it. And she's been getting more and more distant lately. What do?

listentothewild · 2013-11-07T20:30:41+00:00

Let's say you are out on the street.

Would you approach a woman that has headphones on? If yes, how would you go about that?

torquesteer · 2013-11-07T20:49:54+00:00

Hi Jason and Brent, what are 3 common or big misbeliefs that may impede a guy from reaching his full potentials? Conversely, what are 3 beliefs that may propel him past obstacles? Thanks.

dnask8r46 · 2013-11-08T00:05:57+00:00

Shifting focus and control in a relationship: I have a girl who I love and who I know loves me. I only feel comfortable when I am in control (caring less, she's asking to hangout more, etc.). Personal problem or should I be managing control better? I'm hoping it's a personal problem I can work on because it makes me anxious and I would like to decimate my anxiety.

Jake_STi-RA · 2013-11-08T00:14:30+00:00

How do you feel about the dating scene in college? I feel it's a lot different in ways due to the different maturity levels.

I think a lot of dating advice here can't apply to college because I rarely hear about dates or any sort of the conventional methods used here.

jasontreu · 2013-11-07T20:21:12+00:00

Guys, here is our youtube.com/askbrentsmith we have hundreds of free videos. We have a bunch of new podcasts from approaching groups of women, banter, what to do when you get a girl home and samples of our products on the web site blog (front page or second page) and also go to our iTunes channel where we have around 50 podcasts, itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/brent-smith-lifestyle/id684540900

puaCurveBall · 2013-11-07T20:10:05+00:00

Couple questions from user surangasasa:

Hi Brent, on a career point of view, how do you convince yourself that you aren't desperate?
Can you explain most points of indifference in 10 sentences?
Affection, fondness, or sympathy for someone or something is what apple dictionary says is Attachment so, how do and you get rid of it and more importantly how can that get me laid?
Can you do a product that is all encompassing (i.e. has everything contained in the products you released over the years) and short (i.e. not more than six hours long) and has a transcript. Why? I don't have the time to go through Mastering Indifference, Jump Start Social Life and all the others all of which are more than a hour long and at the end of the audio/video you are left entertained but forgetting everything you've heard because they are so long.
How to be fun and playful if that's not your natural personality? change my story? or should I have a story that I am suave and silent like James Bond instead?

DrunkAtTheWedding · 2013-11-07T20:23:21+00:00

How important is fitness and Body Fat % on dating?

Milosjov · 2013-11-07T20:46:20+00:00

How to make sure that my past doesnt follow me, just in case my falcon forgets his way home?

jasontreu · 2013-11-07T20:48:22+00:00

Here is a video on starting conversations: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=boYygNVlJGQ&feature=share&list=TLDPf3aR7DLl829cf92rcyhKIZokAmWw5X

jasontreu · 2013-11-07T20:52:04+00:00

If having issues posting only so quickly, just post all questions at once in one box, and if you need to do it on the follow up. Meaning post multiple questions in a follow up even if not about the questions. We don't want to have you have to wait around.

xKrimsinx · 2013-11-07T21:01:56+00:00

I have a question, i would appreciate if you answer it. :)

When you go out after you do your story, do you think about it all day or just go with the flow throughout the day? Thank you

aleng · 2013-11-07T21:14:17+00:00

Can you just do a superficial version of being the mayor? Like just walking up to somebody and saying, hey how are you, whats up? Then maybe talk for another 20 seconds and then end the conversation first and leave? I'm not that great at keeping the conversation going..

JaggyThistle · 2013-11-07T21:17:12+00:00

I'm becoming the Warm up guy or Ice Breaker:-(Help needed!! Looks like I'll miss the discussion again, have to work ;-(But great work guys. I've been trying the giving rather than getting vibe for a number of years now. I seem to be setting everyone else up with the girl and I'm becoming the best friend for girls. Of course it's great for friends to meet new lovers, but everyone including myself has notice that I don't get/date the girl. Girls even come to my place to sleep over, but when I try anything, I get, no you're my friend or do you know anyone or a friend who would like to get it on with me (this kinda kills my confidence). I'm now at the stage where I don't even try now, because I don't feel any girl showing interest and being the warm up guy is no fun after awhile. I thought it might be because I like the cold Slavonic ladies, but that's just an excuse. I'm open for any advice or a good kick up the ass.

subscribeaccount · 2013-11-07T21:18:32+00:00

F...., i'd wish i have something to come up with but im on my way to a party. Anyway, i watched lots of stuff from your youtube chanel, you guys are great!

Enjoy your AMA.

ps. its fantastic that you guys provide so much high value content for free!

nubie2pua · 2013-11-07T21:19:20+00:00

Thanks for the advise guys. I have a couple of questions. 1-How important are your logistics when you start practicing pickup..? I live about 30 miles away from any nice bars or clubs, that seems to put me on edge every time i go out.

2-I work in an office building that is mainly a sausage fest but a few women here and we make small talk every now and then but usually i feel awkward when i leave the conversation with them...any suggestions on just socializing at work..?

Milosjov · 2013-11-07T21:22:22+00:00

Whats the next level party, in terms of music, people and animals of course...

xKrimsinx · 2013-11-07T21:23:49+00:00

Love the videos btw, been watching it for 9 months now and at age 16. I feel awesome and young at the same time. In October i got in invited at 2 Teen clubs in New York. But, i have a question. Is there any Teen charity events that i can go to or i have to wait until I'm 18?

aleng · 2013-11-07T21:31:26+00:00

Guys I really want to come to a coaching weekend with you! I think that is the missing link to my transformation, I need to actually see how the vibe feels like and stuff. I'm 21 years old and live in Switzerland with my parents, and I'm a student, so I don't have any money at the moment. Any ideas on how I can overcome this and get coaching from you guys?

xKrimsinx · 2013-11-07T22:00:55+00:00

Hey guys, been thinking big for a few moments. But do you guys know what's the song on this video? How To Create Your Next Level Story. http://youtu.be/74Otghtsnnc

Thanks, it's great for a party song!

Milosjov · 2013-11-07T22:01:48+00:00

Would giving free sessions in clubs as a DJ be a good start to get back in bussines quickly?

hawkann · 2013-11-07T22:12:22+00:00

Hey Brent and Jason, love your work! I have everything in my life because of your teaching, money, sex, happiness.

Question, how to be motivated and continue your story when your story is coming true, in other words, it IS happening, women are propositioning you, money IS coming in. In short, how to continue story, when it's coming true, and you can see the evidence. As, sometimes when everything good is happening, I lost sight of my story...

MisterMan1234 · 2013-11-07T22:21:44+00:00

Hey Brent!

1.I know I should be throwing in banter with the women I talk to..and I know not to use it as a technique! But when I say one of the lines, I FEEL creepy doing it, like Deep inside, it feels wrong, like and the women respond like I'm full of shit.. How do I overcome this?

2.When out anywhere, say, A shopping center, I see women and I automatically sort of lust over them, and I feel like I want to f*** them so bad, but I know that is a desperate place to come from..How do I overcome this Lust and desire for sex when I'm around a sexy woman?? It makes it hard to talk to them. Thanks in advance

aud11 · 2013-11-07T22:39:35+00:00

How can I tell if a girl is within my league or not? I don't get much feedback or comment on my looks so I dont know where I stand

outandaboutdancer · 2013-11-07T23:03:31+00:00

I just heard about u guys from a friend, and based on what I'm reading in this AMA I respect u.

The biggest issue with me is I like woman that know they r hot. They can also be hotties that have the body language that says I'm not interested in being talked and want to talk to my friends.

What's ur approach in these situations?

PS promise to check u guys out.

MisterMan1234 · 2013-11-07T23:09:05+00:00

A hot woman is walking towards me..I'm standing against the wall waiting for the bus (my vibe is cool and I know I'm sexy) , Can I just say, "Hey, what are you up to?" And expect her to stop so I can talk to her??

....And another question, Even when My story is positive in this area, I noticed I get hated on by other guys that I meet, not all, but most...

I try to act really cool etc, but they always Over bust my balls..And there is an arrogant guy that I was throwing football with and he was bragging about how COLD he was, and showing off his sports skills. (impressive catching ) not to mention a few cars with women passed by and waved/smiled at him, some of them already knew him..H even managed to brag about that subtly...And that made me feel shitty about my own situation! I pretty much ignored his comments and didn't pay much attention to him. Is being Arrogant the answer? do need to be arrogant so women can be more attracted to me? And why Are some guys hating on me like this?

MisterMan1234 · 2013-11-07T23:35:25+00:00

ME"Hey, what are you up to today? "

GIRL says ___ _____

ME: "Cool", .....FREEZE..... NOTHING to say... ME: Hey, did you just ask for my phone number?!"
GIRL:" Laughs/etc responds
ME:"Well Im just gonna be home later , just shoot me a text message and maby we can get together "

IS THAT ALL, From start to finish? Ofcourse I'm doing this with several women throughout the day, so i'm unattached to the outcome

jasontreu · 2013-11-07T23:37:17+00:00

Going to take off in a minute. I'll check back later and answer other ones that are here that we didn't get chance to answer now.

oli_ver · 2013-11-07T23:43:51+00:00

If you where to start all over again, what are three things you wish you knew when you were beginning your women and dating life? Do you do present moment techniques/meditation that ground you in your reality? As you get tired throughout the day, your brain is more prone to negativity, what do you do to overcome that? How can I become a master of banter? I have noticed that practicing every day seems to help, but it would be great to make bantering into something effortless, like breathing or sneezing.

I am enough- oli_ver

jasontreu · 2013-11-08T00:03:55+00:00

I recommend considering accountability tracking and goal setting. You can find whatever method you prefer. Almost every business has a business plan, but almost no one has a life plan. It is a critical component to move you forward in your life. Tons of ways you can do it.

jasontreu · 2013-11-08T06:47:31+00:00

We would like to thank everyone that came out today and we will answer your questions in this thread over the next few days. We know some people could not attend so we want to answer as many questions as we can. puaCurveBall was very flexible with us and we would like to thank him for setting this up.

jasontreu · 2013-11-09T13:52:16+00:00

Thanks again to all those that participated. Have a fantastic weekend.

YJLTG · 2013-11-07T20:18:11+00:00

Assuming you're familiar with them, how do the concepts involved in NLP affect your approach to date coaching?
What's the primary objective that you try to solidify in your clients' minds as they go out and play the 'game'?
How has your viewpoint changed on dating and 'gaming', now that you've gotten into the coaching side of pickup?

benbernankenonpareil · 2013-11-07T20:08:09+00:00

What's an "alpha" way to accept a breakup?

I was recently "dumped" by someone who I was in an open relationship with. Another guy told her he wanted exclusivity. I want to come across a little annoyed, but definitely not needy and whiny. Any tips on relaying my thoughts?

puaCurveBall · 2013-11-07T20:05:44+00:00

Confirming accounts jasontreu and brentsmith!

Enjoy the AMA everyone!

Title	Jason Treu and Brent Smith, dating coaches, join our AMA!
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Date	November 7, 2013 8:03 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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